Having It A.L.L.
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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How To Let Go And Gain Closure (When It Seems T...
How do you let go when you’re feeling very attached? How do you gain closure when you felt like you’ve been wronged? Those are some million dollar questions right there! Figure that out, and you might just be able to life a happy, drama free life for the rest of your years! But that's the thing about letting go and closure - they are simple in concepts, but very hard to accomplish in reality.
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A Raw and Vulnerable Conversation on Conception...
When was the last time you wanted something so strongly, but it just wasn't happening and you had no answers as to why? Each one of us knows what it's like to experience the vast range of emotions that come with having unmet desires. For Sarah and I, it's no different.
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Learn How To Master Your Stress (Instead Of Run...
How do you deal with stress? For many people, one big goal in life is to reduce the amount of things that stress them out. Getting the "stress inbox" to zero is a noble feat, but one that I believe is completely missing the point!
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A Pragmatists View On Affirmations: How To Get ...
How do you feel about affirmations: Do you do them? Do you feel they can be effective? Do you believe they are bogus? Affirmations can be a tool to help you on your growth journey. But a tool is only as effective as the user's knowledge and wisdom. In this episode I'm talking about affirmations and positive self talk, and giving you my perspective as a self-diagnosed pragmatist.
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Do Less, Get More
Do you feel like the only way to get what you want in life is by doing MORE? I held this belief for a LONG time, and the result was that I absolutely got more….more stress, more worry, more tension in my shoulders, more anxiety looking at my bank account, more feelings that I wasn’t doing enough, more frustration, more fights with my partner.
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Some of Our Biggest Breakthroughs in Sex and In...
What is the difference between sex and intimacy? How does this play out in your relationship and how you feel about your own sex and intimacy both before and after kids?
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Infinite Patience Yields Immediate Results
Where are you lacking in patience right now? In what area of your life would your experience be greatly improved if you could just be patient? In today's conversation I'm sharing with you a concept "infinite patience yields immediate results" and I'm passing along some stories to help you connect with your most patient self. It's in there, trust me! And when you connect with your infinite patience, you'll feel like you have it all.
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Cultivating Humility, Keeping Your Ego In Check...
Does your ego run the show? If you answered anything other than "Yes, at times", than today's episode for you!
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Doomscrolling Is Eating Away Your Happiness, Pe...
Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away? That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health.
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4 Self Awareness Examples To Help You Improve Y...
How self aware are you? That's a loaded question, huh! In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 real examples from my life where I've succeeded and struggled with self awareness. These simple examples will help you see how I'm actively working on being more self aware each day, and you'll learn tips for improving your self awareness as well.
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How To Know Whether You're In A Relationship Or...
How is the state of your relationship? How about your partnership? In today's special episode I invite my amazing wife Sarah in on this conversation, and together we talk about the difference between relationship and partnership, how ours has evolved over the years, and how we navigate breakdowns in each area.
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A Little Conversation About Surrender, Humility...
What does surrender mean to you, and how practiced are you at it? I took my GameDay recently and was offered up a supreme opportunity for some surrender! In today's episode I'm giving you a real peek behind the curtains at how I'm working on surrender, humility and self mastery, and how all three showed up in my GameDay. I bring you into my thought process, emotions, relating and ultimately responses to this huge opportunity that I created for surrender.
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Transform Your Sex By Doing These 3 Intentional...
Do you know what it means to be intentional with sexual intimacy? In today's episode I'm talking about the practice of setting intentions for your sexual intimacy, and how it can transform not only your experience of the sex you're about to engage in, but also what happens after the sex is complete.
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Now Is NOT The Time To Be Slacking On Your Exer...
Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health? In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your health - physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social - and I'm showing you how they are all connected. Now is not the time to take your foot off the health gas. Especially if you're afraid for your physical health, now is the time to do MORE exercising, MORE clean eating and MORE healthy social connecting.
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Make It Fun
Would you describe your life as "fun"? In today's episode I'm discussing the importance of intentionally injecting FUN into your life, and I'm giving you some simple tips on how you can have more fun each and everyday.
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The Magic In Doing One. Thing. At. A. Time.
Are you a multitasker? We all like to think that we're pretty efficient at doing multiple things at a time. We switch between different work tasks at once, we try and clean the house while disciplining the kids and ordering food over the phone, we put on our clothes while checking Instagram and talking with our partner. All in an attempt to be more productive, have more time, and feel more effective. In today's episode I expose the trap of multitasking, and show you the magic of doing one thing at a time.
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Your Conscience Compass: A Built-In Tool For Na...
What is "conscience" and how can you use yours to help you find your way through life? In today's episode I talk about how your conscience compass works, how you can learn to trust it more, and how to use it to navigate your life more effectively.
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Protect Your House
Are you fully aware of the impact the people you hang around, the environments you put yourself in, and the content you consume is having on you? In sports there's this concept of "protecting your house", which is all about not letting the opponent through your defenses. In life, we must protect our health, psyche, spirit, joy, peace. Because outside factors are constantly bombarding us, trying to pull our energy down and keep us there.
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The 3 Types Of Meditation I Use To Weather The...
How are you weathering the storms that you're in right now? Life will drop circumstances in your lap, you can count on it. What's not always a sure thing is handling those storms with peace and confidence. In today's episode I'm sharing with you the three types of meditation I use to help me cope with life's challenges. By the end of the episode you'll be more equipped to create some inner peace in the midst of outer turmoil.
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Quit Ignoring Your Intuition (Do This Instead)
When your intuition/gut/instincts speak to you, how do you respond? In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I share the importance of paying attention to your intuition and I give you a simple way to learn how to trust your instincts more that will have you going from skeptical to faithful.
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How To Figure Out Your Personal Values: Your Gu...
How clear are you on your personal values? And are you allowing your personal values to guide your life? On today's episode I'm sharing with you a simple process to re-discovering your personal values, helping you uncover what's most important to you, and teaching you how to live an authentic life through your values.
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How I Manage My Busy Life While Keeping Overwhe...
How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have? In today's episode I share with you the mindsets, tools and personal practices that grant me the ability to peacefully and joyfully juggle many roles and responsibilities, while keeping overwhelm and imbalance at bay.
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Put Your Stank On It!
Is the life you're living one of your own design, or are you trying to follow someone else's blueprint? We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. Looking at how they do life and believing that their path is the only path. And then when we try to replicate what we see, we find that it doesn’t work and we get frustrated, judge ourselves, and feel stuck. In today’s Having It A.L.L. Moment I’m giving you permission to put your stank on it and live a life that’s unique to you.
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Episode 300: Reflection, Gratitude & Inspiration
In today's special episode of the podcast, I acknowledge reaching the 300th episode and I talk about some of the highs, lows, and insights that helped us get to this point.
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Why I Embrace P.A.I.N. (And Why It's Important ...
When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it? I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it! Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey.
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