Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

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How To Know Whether You're In A Relationship Or...
How is the state of your relationship? How about your partnership? In today's special episode I invite my amazing wife Sarah in on this conversation, and together we talk about the difference between relationship and partnership, how ours has evolved over the years, and how we navigate breakdowns in each area.
58 min
A Little Conversation About Surrender, Humility...
What does surrender mean to you, and how practiced are you at it? I took my GameDay recently and was offered up a supreme opportunity for some surrender! In today's episode I'm giving you a real peek behind the curtains at how I'm working on surrender, humility and self mastery, and how all three showed up in my GameDay. I bring you into my thought process, emotions, relating and ultimately responses to this huge opportunity that I created for surrender.
55 min
Transform Your Sex By Doing These 3 Intentional...
Do you know what it means to be intentional with sexual intimacy? In today's episode I'm talking about the practice of setting intentions for your sexual intimacy, and how it can transform not only your experience of the sex you're about to engage in, but also what happens after the sex is complete.
51 min
Now Is NOT The Time To Be Slacking On Your Exer...
Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health? In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your health - physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social - and I'm showing you how they are all connected. Now is not the time to take your foot off the health gas. Especially if you're afraid for your physical health, now is the time to do MORE exercising, MORE clean eating and MORE healthy social connecting.
48 min
Make It Fun
Would you describe your life as "fun"? In today's episode I'm discussing the importance of intentionally injecting FUN into your life, and I'm giving you some simple tips on how you can have more fun each and everyday.
31 min
The Magic In Doing One. Thing. At. A. Time.
Are you a multitasker? We all like to think that we're pretty efficient at doing multiple things at a time. We switch between different work tasks at once, we try and clean the house while disciplining the kids and ordering food over the phone, we put on our clothes while checking Instagram and talking with our partner. All in an attempt to be more productive, have more time, and feel more effective. In today's episode I expose the trap of multitasking, and show you the magic of doing one thing at a time.
12 min
Your Conscience Compass: A Built-In Tool For Na...
What is "conscience" and how can you use yours to help you find your way through life? In today's episode I talk about how your conscience compass works, how you can learn to trust it more, and how to use it to navigate your life more effectively.
31 min
Protect Your House
Are you fully aware of the impact the people you hang around, the environments you put yourself in, and the content you consume is having on you? In sports there's this concept of "protecting your house", which is all about not letting the opponent through your defenses. In life, we must protect our health, psyche, spirit, joy, peace. Because outside factors are constantly bombarding us, trying to pull our energy down and keep us there.
4 min
The 3 Types Of Meditation I Use To Weather The...
How are you weathering the storms that you're in right now? Life will drop circumstances in your lap, you can count on it. What's not always a sure thing is handling those storms with peace and confidence. In today's episode I'm sharing with you the three types of meditation I use to help me cope with life's challenges. By the end of the episode you'll be more equipped to create some inner peace in the midst of outer turmoil.
37 min
Quit Ignoring Your Intuition (Do This Instead)
When your intuition/gut/instincts speak to you, how do you respond? In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I share the importance of paying attention to your intuition and I give you a simple way to learn how to trust your instincts more that will have you going from skeptical to faithful.
13 min
How To Figure Out Your Personal Values: Your Gu...
How clear are you on your personal values? And are you allowing your personal values to guide your life? On today's episode I'm sharing with you a simple process to re-discovering your personal values, helping you uncover what's most important to you, and teaching you how to live an authentic life through your values.
45 min
How I Manage My Busy Life While Keeping Overwhe...
How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have? In today's episode I share with you the mindsets, tools and personal practices that grant me the ability to peacefully and joyfully juggle many roles and responsibilities, while keeping overwhelm and imbalance at bay.
53 min
Put Your Stank On It!
Is the life you're living one of your own design, or are you trying to follow someone else's blueprint? We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. Looking at how they do life and believing that their path is the only path. And then when we try to replicate what we see, we find that it doesn’t work and we get frustrated, judge ourselves, and feel stuck. In today’s Having It A.L.L. Moment I’m giving you permission to put your stank on it and live a life that’s unique to you.
5 min
Episode 300: Reflection, Gratitude & Inspiration
In today's special episode of the podcast, I acknowledge reaching the 300th episode and I talk about some of the highs, lows, and insights that helped us get to this point.
12 min
Why I Embrace P.A.I.N. (And Why It's Important ...
When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it? I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it! Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey.
36 min
The Math Of Human Behavior: What's Your Sign?
If you were to assess how your presence impacts the world, would you be the type of person that adds, subtracts, multiplies or divides? Today you'll be asked to think about your sign and the impact you're having in the world.
7 min
What Years Of Inconsistency Taught Me About Fol...
Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas?In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what two big moments taught me about showing up and following through that has transformed me into the consistent, dependable, trust-worthy person I am today.
47 min
Do You Eat Other People's Emotional Garbage?
Do you have a tendency to take things personally? Be honest with yourself. In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage".
5 min
Just Breathe
How are you breathing right now? You take over 20,000 breaths per day, but how many of those are you aware of and present to?
22 min
Stop Trying To Be Good At Everything
When did we buy into this idea that we have to be proficient and skilled at all things at all times? I know for me, as I started working on myself more and more, whenever I'd read about some new technique or practice that I could envision myself doing, I would add that to my "Must get great at" list and then I'd be hard on myself for not doing it consistently. In today's episode I share with you how I kicked that way of thinking, and I give you a different way to approach gaining new life skills.
9 min
How I Clean Up The Mistakes I Make In Relations...
When was the last time you made a mistake in a relationship? Did you clean it up?? In today's episode I share examples of how I apply the "clean it up" idea to relationships (both with others and myself), and I show you how you can take full responsibility in relationships so that you can create more powerful connections.
41 min
All Work And No Play....Who Wants That?!?
Do you approach your life more with a sense of Play or Work? One of these perspectives creates joy and sustainability, the other will wear you out. Which do you think is which? In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I talk to you about the Play Perspective and invite you to imagine how different areas of your life would look and feel if you approached them from the space of Play.
6 min
How To Become A Better Sleeper
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your ability fall asleep? How about the quality of your sleep? In today's episode I'm going to share with you what has helped me become one of those people who falls asleep instantly and wakes up feeling rested and energized! I believe it's totally possible for you to change both your relationship to sleep and the quality of sleep you're getting.
32 min
What "Life Of Pi" Taught Me About Having It All
Have you seen the film Life Of Pi? If you. haven't, put it on your list because not only is it a film with an incredibly powerful story and the visual chops to go with it, the movie delivers some invaluable lessons about life.
9 min
How To Coach Yourself Through The Chronic Stres...
When was the last time you were in chronic stress (that’s stress lasting over a long period of time)? In today’s episode I’m teaching you how to coach yourself through the chronic stress of life, and I’m sharing with you a very recent example of how I overcame some incredible chronic stress using the very tips from this episode.
50 min