Having It A.L.L.
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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6 Giant Life Lessons From 6 Years Of Having It ...
What does it take to "have it all"? That really has been the purpose of this entire podcast, hasn't it?! Today we celebrate the podcast turning 6 years old, and it only seemed fitting to share with you 6 giant lessons from the last 6 years of Having It A.L.L.
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Answering Your Listener Questions On Big Impact...
What are the habits that have created a big impact in your life? How do you keep positive momentum going when you get derailed? How do you deal with outside criticism and judgement? These are the listener questions that I'm answering in today's episode!
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The Most Dangerous Part About Making Commitments
How do you feel about making commitments? About going "all in" in life? There's great payout to going "all in", but there's also great risk. The risk lies in spending too much time in the "danger zone" of commitment. In this episode I'm going to share with you the process of making commitments and going all in, and explain what the "danger zone" is and why you find yourself in it. Understanding this can free you and unlock your ability to create your abundant loving life!
34 min
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What Is The Goal Of Sex In Your Relationships A...
When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? Is it something else? In today's episode I'm diving into the goal of sex and am serving up a few alternative perspectives that can help you create a more powerful and healthy sexual experience.
48 min
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My #1 Piece Of Advice On Improving Your Relatio...
How can you improve any relationship in your life? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from many past relationship experiences that have both improved and terminated. The advice today will totally change how you feel about your relationships and who you attract into your life. APPLY FOR COACHING: https://www.matthewbivens.com/apply/ SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com
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The Biggest Lessons I Learned From Bob Proctor
How are the laws of vibration and attraction impacting your life RIGHT NOW? Before being introduced to the words and works of Bob Proctor, I'd have no idea what the heck that question even meant! But today not only do I understand it, but I am very intentional about practicing it and aligning with these laws to create my Abundant Loving Life. And this is all in large part to Bob Proctor. On today's episode I want to take a minute to reflect on the life and lessons of Bob Proctor, who transitioned last week at the age of 87 years young. Bob Proctor's message came into my life when I was just starting to "work on myself" and became intentional about creating a better life for myself. I credit his ability to explain concepts which I was struggling to understand, for unlocking within me a way of looking at my life, my results, and my personal power.
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3 Things I'm Doing To Create Even More Results ...
What's holding you back from creating a greater life for yourself this year? Well that's a loaded question, isn't it! Because if you knew what that answer was then maybe you'd feel more confident in making this your greatest year yet! Don't worry though, because today I'm sharing with you 3 habits that I've doubled down on to create even more results for myself in 2022. AND, I'm also going to share with you the reasons why you will probably not follow me in adopting these habits as well.
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Who Are You When No One Is Watching? (HIA Classic)
When you're alone, in your secrecy, with no one watching and no one holding you accountable except for yourself, who are you? How do you treat yourself? What allowances do you give yourself? What language do you use to describe yourself and those around you? The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act. But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING. I've talked about Doing vs Being on the podcast before, but today's topic takes it a degree further. Today I'm going in on the question: Who are you when no one is watching?
39 min
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Fix Your Leaks
What "leaks" do you have in your life that need addressing? As you plan out your goals and intentions for 2022, it's important to not only think about the new things you desire, but also to understand the old stuff that you need to address once and for all. These "leaks" can be tough to identify, because focusing on the immediate problem is easier than really getting to the root of what's going on. But if you fail to identify the essence of your challenges, problems and breakdowns, then (1) they will never fully be resolved, (2) they will return in some form, and (3) you will not be able to reach the greatest heights of happiness, peace, freedom and health that you have the potential to reach.
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The 3 Step Formula To Creating Massive Results ...
What is it that you want to create for yourself and your life in 2022? I have a tradition here on Having It A.L.L. that at the top of each year I help you create an amazing year. And in this episode I'm doing just that! But today, we're taking things up a notch and I'm sharing with you the simple 3 step formula that you can follow to create massive results in your life in 2022. When you study the masters, you spot patterns of effectiveness and success. I'm excited to bring you a pattern of success that I've applied in my life to have it all, and I've seen at play in countless other success stories. Get your pens and papers ready, we're about to do some work!
51 min
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How Men Can Care For Women And Show Up Powerful...
"What are 3 things you want the world to know about caring for women?" My friend, Dr. Nathan Riley, asked me that question on his podcast, The Holistic OBGYN, and it sparked a really great conversation between the two of us. I'm excited to share that full conversation with you today!
44 min
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Relationship Misconceptions That Are Making You...
What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships? In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships.
69 min
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New Years Resolutions: Why I'm Not A Fan Of The...
Are you one of the 92% of people who never come close to completing their New Year's Resolutions? As you can tell by the title, I don't like New Year's Resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the New Year's Resolutions framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's Classic Having It A.L.L. episode I share why I dislike New Year's Resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note.
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My Interview On The Project UnchainED Podcast -...
Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads where you knew with all your soul that one decision was better for you than another, yet making that decision was terrifying? I've shared various parts of my story over the 5+ years of this podcast, and there's a theme that comes up for me often: crossroads moments. On today's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview that I did with my good friend Ross Leppala, host of the great podcast Project UnchainED. In this interview Ross and I get very open, raw and real about a lot of topics: love vs fear, sexual healing, monogamy, and more.
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Overcoming Male Shame: Stories And Wisdom On Ho...
What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate. The truth is, it's not. In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.
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How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing ...
How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast!
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Being Deeply Introverted And Finding Direction ...
Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? You can't see it, but I'm raising both hands at that! If you consider yourself an introvert, have felt lost in life, have never really felt like you know who you should be as a person, and feel like you're lacking direction, then this is an episode to tune into!
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How To Deal With A Confidence and Self Worth Br...
When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth? So often when our confidence is shook and we're questioning our own value, it's a major challenge to recover and get back into a powerful place. I have too many stories that are a testament to this. In today's episode I'm sharing one of these stories - my recent experience attending my wife's high school reunion. I went through the gamut of emotions, limiting beliefs, and self deprecating stories, leading up to and during this reunion. I questioned my abilities as an entrepreneur, husband and provide. It was fascinating!!
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How To Discipline Your Thinking So That You Get...
What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all? In today's episode, I'm bringing you wisdom from Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi about the power of your thinking and the importance of cultivating control over your thoughts. Learning these tips WILL allow you to create what you desire in your life and truly feel that you have it all!
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Trust And Let Go Of What It "Should" Look Like ...
How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you.
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How To Start Your Own Podcast: A Not-So-Short-B...
Have you considered starting a podcast? If yes: Awesome! If no, why the heck not?? In today's episode I'm giving you information, motivation and DIY steps to starting a podcast in 2021 and beyond.
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The 5 Key Principles I Live By (Rebroadcast)
Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means? Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too.
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How To Stop Taking Things So Personally (Yes, I...
Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally? For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently. But I had my breakthrough moment and can show you how to have yours as well.
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My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What...
What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something we're striving for in our lives. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement. In today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements.
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Do Something You've Always Wanted To Do This Fa...
What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things you've always wanted to experience.
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