Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Mental Health
Alternative Health
How To Become Immune To Rejection
Have you ever wondered how to become immune to rejection? Rejections happen to all of us in life. It’s unavoidable. Yet, not everyone is impacted the same way by rejections. Some people are crushed, while others use the rejection to grow. Which are you?
29 min
This GIANT Mistake Is Making It Impossible To I...
Wondering why your efforts for improvement often fall short? In today’s episode, we uncover a colossal mistake that could be sabotaging your progress when you’re seeking change and improvement in your life, and I’m going to help you spot the mistake and overcome it if you’re doing it yourself!
31 min
Why 2023 Was My Most Difficult Year Yet (And Wh...
Have you ever looked back on an experience in your life and thought, "Yeah, I don't want to go through that again!". 2023 held many of those moments for me. Truth be told, there was a lot that I struggled with in 2023 that had me feeling overwhelmed, stressed and maxed out. But I didn't tell anyone, and so I struggled in silence. In today's episode I'm breaking that silence and letting you in on why 2023 was my most challenging year yet, I'm sharing what contributed to my internal challenges, and I'm talking about what I'm going to do about it so that I have a different experience this year!
51 min
Create Your BEST YEAR YET With A Word For The Y...
What is a simple yet effective tool that can help you create the best year of your life? Answer: a Word For The Year! Each year on the Having It A.L.L. podcast, I guide you to creating a Word For The Year. And it's that time once again!
41 min
The Big Self Help Mistake I Used To Make (Don't...
Do you find yourself being overly self-critical when someone else's advice just doesn't work for you? I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. In today's episode I'm giving you one huge piece of advice as you prepare to jump into the New Year that will help you to have a more joyful and successful year.
40 min
Do This One Thing BEFORE Planning Next Year's G...
Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for the new year? Whether you have your goals already, or haven't even started, there's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up this past year. In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you determine where you are right now, so you can chart the course for where you want to be in the coming year.
47 min
These 3 Skills Will Make Or Break Your Success ...
What are 3 skills that you could develop and hone that would dramatically change your life? In today's episode I share with you the 3 skills that they've all developed which have led to their success, skills that you MUST hone in order to see the results you want in 2024!
32 min
4 Sobering Truths That Will Make You Rethink Yo...
Are you aware that beliefs are not permanent? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 sobering truths that will challenge some deep beliefs you have about yourself and your life, and in doing so I'm inviting you to be willing to let go of your limiting beliefs for something more empowering.
21 min
How To Build Your MAGIC MUSCLE So You Can Overc...
How do you handle tough times in life? In today's episode I'm sharing the concept of the "magic muscle" and revealing how you can learn this crucial skill so that you can overcome any adversity and create joy in the face of circumstances.
32 min
A Proven Way To Raise Your Self-Worth In 3 Simp...
How strong is your self-worth? Put a different way: do you believe in your own value and worthiness? Low self-worth is at the heart of many challenges that people struggle with. From difficulties with relationships, procrastination and avoidance, a lack of confidence.....all of these things have low self-worth as the common thread. So what do you do when you know you have low self-worth and you want to raise it? Well, in today's episode I'm sharing with you a proven way to raise your self worth, and it comes down to 3 simple steps.
17 min
How To Navigate The Loneliness That Comes With ...
Have you ever felt the loneliness that comes with personal growth and transformation? As you shed your old life and embrace the new, it's natural to experience strong feelings of loneliness. How you handle those lonely periods can be the difference between growing and achieving your goals, or continuing to struggle. In today's episode I share six essential insights for navigating the lonely chapters that are a part of your personal development journey.
20 min
How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing ...
How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts.
26 min
You Are Your Exit Out Of Being Undervalued
Have you ever wondered about the source of your self worth and personal value? Whatever you deem as the source of your self-worth is going to directly influence your behaviors and habits. In today's episode I help you unlock a never-ending source of self-worth, one that you have full control over and can tap into at any time! You'll walk away from this episode very clear on how you can increase your self worth and keep it high!
16 min
Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masc...
What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding onto? Over the years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man, and many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than.
48 min
Dream Big, Start Small: How To Achieve More, Se...
Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals? In today's podcast I'm tackling the big hairy beast that is GOAL SETTING, and my goal is that this approach to the topic will inspire a breakthrough within you.
48 min
The 2 Things Couples Need To Sustain A Long Sex...
What is the secret to sustaining a long sexual relationship with your partner? Today's episode is inspired by a Ted Talk from sex educator and author Emily Nagoski, and we'll be discussing the two things that research has shown are necessary for couples to maintain a strong sexual connection for decades.
19 min
The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understandi...
Are you unhappy in an area of your life? Are you failing to accomplish all that you wish to accomplish in your life? In part 2 of our series on Principles, we continue our deep dive into the principles that govern us all, and talk about how you can feel more in control of your life by living in alignment with these universal truths.
24 min
The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understandi...
What are the principles that govern your life? The principles you live by are the foundation for effective and successful living. When you live your life in alignment with principles, things flow and you create the possibility for more joy, peace and abundance. In this episode, we'll explore the essential topic of principles and how they can help you live a more effective life. You'll learn what principles are, how they work, and the difference between principles and values. You'll also learn about 5 important principles, and what aligning and misaligning looks like for each.
49 min
A Quick And Dirty Way To Gauge The Quality Of Y...
What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life.
47 min
How To Find Meaning In Your Life
Are you struggling to find meaning in your life? Are you searching for purpose and clarity around why you're here and what you're meant to be doing? In today's episode I help you answer the question "How do I find meaning in my life?" and I give you my formula for experiencing meaning, purpose and clarity.
29 min
8 Clear Signs That You Are In A Codependent Rel...
How do you know if you're in a codependent relationship? Codependency is a relationship killer, but spotting the signs isn't always easy. Many times the behaviors that you think are indications of your love and devotion, are actually signs of an unhealthy relationship dynamic. In today's episode we're going to explore codependency deeper and you'll learn 8 signs that you are in a codependent relationship.
27 min
The Only Time Your Self Help Practice Matters I...
Are you the type who loves to read personal development books but stops short of actually applying what they read? Be honest, because this happens more often than not. In my years of coaching, I see many people fall into the trap of believing they are creating new results by reading more books, attending more seminars and enrolling in more courses. This is a trap because the real results come from APPLYING what has been learned (and applying again and again and again, until you gain wisdom from experience). In today's Having It A.L.L. Classic episodeI talk about the importance of taking your practice out into the world and seeing if your walk matches your talk.
20 min
QUICK FIX: Break Your Addiction To Being Distra...
How comfortable are you at the idea of spending alone time with just you and your thoughts? Today's Quick Fix is all about breaking the addiction of constant distraction, and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Rich Roll -- podcaster, author and ultra-endurance athlete.
6 min
The Common Denominator Of Success (Do You Have ...
What do you think is the common denominator of success? In 1940, Albert E.N. Gray, an official of the Prudential Insurance Company of America and a highly sought after speaker, delivered a speech to the National Association of Life Underwriters at their annual convention. His words have since become a source of great inspiration for many people. In today's episode I'm sharing with you his famous speech "The Common Denominator of Success".
25 min
The 9 Things You Must Do To Live To 100
If life is a game of patterns, then what are the lifestyle patterns of people who live long and healthy lives? In today's episode I share with you the 9 evidence based reasons why people in Blue Zones live longer, and I open up the space for you to examine your own life to see which of these Blue Zone characteristics you can incorporate into your own life.
26 min