Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Self-Improvement
Mental Health
Alternative Health
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When You Understand THIS SIMPLE IDEA You Can IM...
Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it?? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have created. The conversation today will impact how you engage in your current relationships, and will help you create amazing future relationships.
39 min
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From Victim to Victor: A Conversation About Ove...
Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to? There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy. In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life. When Brian was 13 he underwent the first of several kidney transplant operations. The experiences leading up to and after the surgery played a significant role in shaping how Brian viewed himself, his capabilities and his future.
81 min
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Treat Him Like A King, Treat Her Like A Queen: ...
What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen? In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we dig into the topic of "how to treat your partner like a King or Queen". This is a powerful conversation for anyone who has struggled with feeling like they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, or anyone who feels their current relationship dynamic has room for growth.
97 min
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4 Myths and 3 Truths About This Thing Called “B...
Do you believe that balance is possible for you? So many people seek out balance, yet they fall short again and again. It’s been my experience as a BALANCE Lifestyle Coach, that the biggest reason why people fail at balance isn’t because of their lack of effort or plan, it’s because of their perspective on balance in the first place. In today’s episode I’m debunking common myths around balance, and I’m giving you 3 new perspectives on balance that are going to make it more simple and achievable for you.
31 min
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Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2...
What do you do when your life feels out of control? Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating. In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 2 simple ways to regain control over your life, feel like you have more stability, and to get your sense of autonomy back.
25 min
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All Great Leaders Make Time To Do This ONE THIN...
What morning habits do all great leaders and people who are doing BIG things in life have in common? (And no, it’s not meditation or cold showers!) In today’s episode I’m explaining the concept of proactive momentum and I’m helping you break the habits that are driving your stress, frustration and burnout.
22 min
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Here’s Why Affirmations Won’t Work For You
Do you know why affirmations, self help and success books and “positive talk” just don't work for many people? It has nothing to do with those things being ineffective, and everything to do with the emotional state a person is in when they attempt to connect with those things. In today’s episode I’m breaking down exactly how this all works and helping you to unlock the true reason why you keep creating the same outcomes despite desiring new results.
21 min
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How To Balance Out Your Health And Fitness In A...
What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic.
69 min
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Overcoming Male Shame: Stories And Wisdom On Ho...
What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.
67 min
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A Behind The Scenes Look At Creating The Havin...
What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast? If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode!
40 min
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What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Priorities?
What does your calendar say about your priorities? Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time! In today’s episode I talk about what your calendar says about the level of fulfillment you may or may not be experiencing in your life, and I give you a few simple action items that can help you experience more joy and fulfillment this week!
21 min
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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty (...
How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you.
45 min
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T2B2: A Super Simple Practice I’m Using Fuel My...
How do you relate to feedback? Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential. In today’s episode I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet effective practice that I’ve been using to improve my life. It’s called T2B2, and it centers around seeking out feedback from trusted people in your life. Tune in and I’ll share with you how it’s done and show you why you want to start implementing this simple practice in your life right now!
25 min
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Feeling Stuck In Life? Here’s What You Can Do T...
Are you feeling stuck in life? We all feel stuck at some point in life. How long we stay feeling stuck depends on a few factors. Today's day 7 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are applying the lessons from the last 6 days so you can finally get unstuck!
13 min
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Where Are You Spending Your Most Precious Resou...
How much of your time each day is spent with the people, places, and activities that you say matter most to you? Today's day 6 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are taking a look at exactly where you invest your most precious resource: your time.
9 min
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Your Environments Are Keeping You Stuck! (Aware...
How aware are you of the impact that your environment is having on you? From where you spend most of your time, to who you spend most of your time with, your environments shape your health, your attitudes, and your behavior. Today is day 5 of the Awareness suite, and in this episode we’re taking a look at the environments where you invest your time and energy, and shining a light on the fact that your environments very well may be keeping you from having it all.
13 min
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It’s Time To Get Real About Your Standards! (Aw...
Do you have clear personal standards in your life? If so, what are they?? Most people understand the concept of a personal standard, but in practice have vague personal standards (at best). Yet, if you knew the impact that not having or holding personal standards was having across all areas of your life, I bet you’d get to work creating some! Today is day 4 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re getting real about personal standards, and why not having clear personal standards that you uphold to a high degree is keeping you stuck, sad and unfulfilled.
11 min
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Your Emotions Are Messengers, Are You Listening...
What emotions did you experience today and what insights into yourself did you glean from those emotions? Today is day 3 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re digging into the layered messages of your emotions, and making the case that your emotions pack so much more insight than you are aware of!
14 min
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Don’t Believe Everything You Think! (Awareness ...
Are most of your thoughts in a day empowering thoughts or disempowering thoughts? Today is day 2 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode I dive into the world of your inner monologue, and we talk about the importance of being aware of your thoughts and where they’re originating from.
15 min
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Your Body Is Talking To You! Are You Paying Att...
What communications is your body giving you right this very moment? In today’s episode I dive into the communications of your body, and we talk about not only what your body is communicating to you but also how you can use those communications to steer your life in a powerful direction.
15 min
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Understanding THIS Natural Law Will Save You So...
Have you ever felt like life moves in a never-ending cycle of ups and downs, advances and setbacks, victories and defeats? In this episode, we delve into practical ways to work with the Law of Rhythm rather than against it. Discover how to recognize the subtle shifts in the pendulum's swing and maintain focus on your desired outcomes, even in the face of setbacks.
27 min
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This Perspective On Exercise Completely Changed...
What do you feel are the biggest benefits to exercising? Whether or not you’re currently exercising at the level you feel you should, you probably have some thoughts about why exercise is important and what the benefits are. In today’s episode I’m sharing that new perspective on exercise with you, and I’m inviting you to try it out for yourself and see/feel what this perspective can offer you and your life!
18 min
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Elevate ANY Relationship In 10 Days With This S...
Are you feeling like your relationships are stuck in a rut? Or are you simply wanting to see and feel your relationships improving? In today’s episode I unveil a simple yet powerful method that has transformed my connections with others. It's not a quick fix or a manipulation tactic, but rather a genuine approach to fostering trust, intimacy, and understanding.
22 min
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Are You Living With Passion And Doing What You ...
Are you doing what you love in life? In this episode I’m sharing with you some questions to ask yourself that can help you identify your passions and build a life where you’re practicing and living them regularly. Living life with passion is a key ingredient of “having it all”, and today’s conversation will help you get there!
51 min
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I Learned 3 Invaluable Lessons From This Single...
What crossroads moments has your life contained, and what lessons did you learn? In 2013 I faced a major crossroad moment. The job path that I had chosen was making me miserable, and each day that I stuck on it I felt more frustrated, more helpless and more like a victim. I had experienced many crossroads moments in my life up to that point, and in the majority of them I chose to stay safe, remain comfortable, and give into the fear. But not this time.
40 min