Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Self-Improvement
Mental Health
Alternative Health
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A Story of Dreams, Perseverance, and Taking the...
This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!” The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills. Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo River in Ponca, Arkansas.
50 min
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How Aware Are You of Your Influence on Others?
We are all influencers. Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life. However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have. In today’s episode I share a powerful story of influence and ask you to ponder a question that will change how you look at your ability to influence your Self, Others and Life.
14 min
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How to JUMP Into the Life You Truly Want to Live
Love and Fear. It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to. I JUMPED out of a plane, and in that choice I connected with so many other choices I had made throughout my life that illuminated the fact that when it boils down to the essence we always have a choice between FEAR and LOVE.
35 min
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How to Create the Biggest Shifts in Your Wellbe...
How do you define "wellbeing"? How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you? My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing.
35 min
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The Massive Difference Between Big "S" Success ...
You have been lied to about success. Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there". Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal. But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful. But I'm introducing a new concept to the mix. The concept of little "s" success and big "S" Success. We may all define success in our own unique ways. But the big "S" and little "s" concepts are universal.
16 min
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Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact ...
What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"? That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on.
59 min
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How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Mom...
Have you experienced true discontent in your life? That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations? My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed someone else, ignored it all together, or asked yourself “What is this here to teach me?”
51 min
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The Secret Consequences of Being Authentic and ...
In this episode, Paul Colaianni shares what he’s learned through a life of exploring what living authentically means to him, and he gets personal with me and he talks about his experience of growing up in an alcoholic home, destroying relationships with judgement and fear, and going through life not being his true authentic self.
68 min
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How to “Lead From Center” and Create More Power...
What does it mean to “lead from center”? It's a question that many high achievers ask themselves (or are asked of themselves), and it's a question that my guest today is going to help us answer. To Amy Balog, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazing results in your life and the life of others. It's about gaining clarity, calmness and conviction, and being acutely aware of the environment inside of yourself so that you may more powerfully impact the environments around you. Amy’s passion is helping leaders tap into their center to create massive results within their organizations, and within themselves. In this conversation Amy and I dive into what leading from center truly means and looks like, and we examine the impact that understanding your bigger WHY has on your life and the lives of those around you. Amy shares her journey of stepping into this work and the watershed moment that changed her career trajectory forever.
49 min
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The Practice of Manifestation, Self Compassion,...
In this episode, Colleen and I have a powerful conversation on the practice of manifestation, self compassion and the truth behind how we make a difference in this world (spoiler: you are ALWAYS making a difference, the question is whether you’re providing value or taking it away).
40 min
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YES, You Can HAVE IT ALL! My Final Episode Of T...
Here we are, my friend, the final episode of Having It A.L.L.! It has been an awesome 8 years, and in today’s episode I’m going to share my thoughts, memories and takeaways with you all. Let’s do this!
22 min
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Mastering The Game of Emotional Regulation
What is emotional regulation and what part does it play in having it all? In today’s episode I’m diving deep into the world of emotional regulation and emotional intelligence because these two concepts (and their related parts) are critical components of living a self fulfilled life.
33 min
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When You Understand THIS SIMPLE IDEA You Can IM...
Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it?? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have created. The conversation today will impact how you engage in your current relationships, and will help you create amazing future relationships.
39 min
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From Victim to Victor: A Conversation About Ove...
Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to? There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy. In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life. When Brian was 13 he underwent the first of several kidney transplant operations. The experiences leading up to and after the surgery played a significant role in shaping how Brian viewed himself, his capabilities and his future.
81 min
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Treat Him Like A King, Treat Her Like A Queen: ...
What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen? In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we dig into the topic of "how to treat your partner like a King or Queen". This is a powerful conversation for anyone who has struggled with feeling like they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, or anyone who feels their current relationship dynamic has room for growth.
97 min
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4 Myths and 3 Truths About This Thing Called “B...
Do you believe that balance is possible for you? So many people seek out balance, yet they fall short again and again. It’s been my experience as a BALANCE Lifestyle Coach, that the biggest reason why people fail at balance isn’t because of their lack of effort or plan, it’s because of their perspective on balance in the first place. In today’s episode I’m debunking common myths around balance, and I’m giving you 3 new perspectives on balance that are going to make it more simple and achievable for you.
31 min
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Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2...
What do you do when your life feels out of control? Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating. In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 2 simple ways to regain control over your life, feel like you have more stability, and to get your sense of autonomy back.
25 min
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All Great Leaders Make Time To Do This ONE THIN...
What morning habits do all great leaders and people who are doing BIG things in life have in common? (And no, it’s not meditation or cold showers!) In today’s episode I’m explaining the concept of proactive momentum and I’m helping you break the habits that are driving your stress, frustration and burnout.
22 min
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Here’s Why Affirmations Won’t Work For You
Do you know why affirmations, self help and success books and “positive talk” just don't work for many people? It has nothing to do with those things being ineffective, and everything to do with the emotional state a person is in when they attempt to connect with those things. In today’s episode I’m breaking down exactly how this all works and helping you to unlock the true reason why you keep creating the same outcomes despite desiring new results.
21 min
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How To Balance Out Your Health And Fitness In A...
What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic.
69 min
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Overcoming Male Shame: Stories And Wisdom On Ho...
What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.
67 min
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A Behind The Scenes Look At Creating The Havin...
What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast? If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode!
40 min
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What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Priorities?
What does your calendar say about your priorities? Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time! In today’s episode I talk about what your calendar says about the level of fulfillment you may or may not be experiencing in your life, and I give you a few simple action items that can help you experience more joy and fulfillment this week!
21 min
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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty (...
How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you.
45 min
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T2B2: A Super Simple Practice I’m Using Fuel My...
How do you relate to feedback? Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential. In today’s episode I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet effective practice that I’ve been using to improve my life. It’s called T2B2, and it centers around seeking out feedback from trusted people in your life. Tune in and I’ll share with you how it’s done and show you why you want to start implementing this simple practice in your life right now!
25 min