Having It A.L.L.
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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How Can I Overcome Feelings Of Victimhood And P...
Have you been asking yourself, "How can I overcome feelings of victimhood and powerlessness?" It's very common to find yourself in a situation where you feel like a victim and where you feel powerless to do anything about it. The uncomfortable truth is that having it all and living your abundant loving life has several pre-requisites: you must be willing to take full responsibility for your life and you must adopt a proactive way of approaching life. These things don't jive with being a victim that feels powerless.
30 min
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Less Is More: The Tools You Need To Manage Stre...
Do you feel like you're in need of more effective ways to manage stress, worry and anxiety? Are you searching for more tools to add to your arsenal? The truth is that you most likely already have tools at your disposal to deal with the challenges that life throws your way, you just aren't using them to their full potential. In this episode, we will explore the different tools that are available to help you manage your stress, worry and anxiety, and I will give you some tips on how you can build habits that you can rely on when the pressure of life builds up.
21 min
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Do You Eat Other People's Emotional Garbage? (H...
Do you have a tendency to take things personally? Be honest with yourself. In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage". "You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage". In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you.
6 min
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You Must Ask Better Questions! Why Successful P...
What is one key area that separates successful people from those who routinely fail to reach their potential? Well if you read the title of this episode then you know it has to do with the QUESTIONS that successful people ask themselves. In today's episode I'm explaining to you precisely why the questions you're asking yourself may very well be what's keeping you stuck, and I'm helping you broaden your mind so that you can get on the path to bigger and better results in your life.
15 min
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7 Life Lessons On Health, Sex and Character Fro...
In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 lessons and takeaways from the most recent Trust Challenge. These 7 lessons are common threads that come up again and again in my coaching work, and I'm going over them with you today so that you can avoid the pitfalls that leave you feeling hopeless, powerless and victimized.
40 min
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The Secret To Boosting Your Confidence And Keep...
How high is your trust in yourself? You may or may not be able to answer that question easily. But I bet you have an answer for this one - how confident are you? The link between confidence and trust is so incredibly strong, yet we don't usually think of those two things as related. Today I'm shining light on why confidence and trust go hand in hand, and I'm giving you a pathway to experience higher levels of both in your life.
16 min
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How To Overcome Codependency By Becoming Your #...
How do you overcome codependency? And what does it even mean to be codependent? The reality is that many relationships end up in codependency. That happens when your ability to count on yourself is very low, and so you turn to others for your security, guidance, love, acceptance, joy or power. Because codependency results from having low trust in yourself, the solution to it often lies in building a greater sense of self trust and self worth. That's where becoming your #1 investor comes in!
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Having It A.L.L. Announcements and A Brand New ...
In today's episode I'm sharing with you some announcements from Having It A.L.L., including the return of one of the HIA community's favorite experiences: The Trust Challenge!
21 min
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How To Love Deeply In Your 3 Most Important Rel...
What does it really mean to love someone deeply? We've all heard that "love is a verb", but when you attempt to put that into practice and have the goal of loving deeply, how is it done? In today's episode I answer the question "what does it look like to love deeply?", and we focus the answer on the three most important relationships in your life.
27 min
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The Rule Of Thirds and How To Handle Crappy Day...
How do you handle the ups and downs of life? For many people, experiencing down moments is something to fret about. No one enjoys feeling down, but the way you relate to those moments (and what you do as a result) has such a tremendous impact on the direction your life goes. In today's episode I'm talking about a few concepts that will help you ride the inevitable waves of life, and I'm bringing insights from Alexi Pappas and Robin Sharma to help you show up powerfully in the face of inevitable adversity.
25 min
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Your Approach To Creating Change Is What's Keep...
When you desire to create change in your life, how effective is your approach? In today's episode I'm sharing with you some insights from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, on a more effective approach to make changes in your life. If you've struggled with making changes, and if you are feeling stuck in your currently ability to reach your goals, then this is an episode you don't want to miss.
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Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get ...
So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? On today’s episode I’m talking once again with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward. We’re sharing our biggest bedroom insecurities, talking about why opening up is important, and giving you real action steps that you can take to dissolve your bedroom fears.
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What Years Of Inconsistency Have Taught Me Abou...
Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas? In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what those two examples taught me that has transformed me into the consistent, dependable, trust-worthy person I am today.
49 min
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5 Expert Rules To Make Goal Setting More Effect...
Do you want this year to be different so badly, but secretly you fear that you'll fail at reaching any of your goals or desires? I know how terrible that feeling can be. But there is an answer, and in today's episode I'm bringing you tips from 5 experts who know a few things about achieving goals and creating change. By the end of this episode you'll feel prepared to take on the task of setting better goals for yourself, and actually making progress towards achieving them!
30 min
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How To Create Your Word For The Year And Have I...
Have you created your Word For The Year yet? New Year's Resolutions focus on the doing, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING (and that's where your best results will come from). In today's episode I'm walking you through the 6 simple steps to creating your word for the year, and teaching you how to use this tool to make a big impact in 2023.
35 min
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The #1 Reason You Fail At New Years Resolutions...
How effective are you at keeping your New Year's Resolutions? Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going throughout the year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why we fail to accomplish our new years resolutions, which I share at the end!
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Some Big News PLUS 5 Tools For Letting Go
Do you struggle with letting go? Me too! It's been one of my biggest and most recurring challenges over the years, and it shows up in so many different areas. In today's special episode I'm sharing some exciting news with you, along with 5 simple tools that I've been using to help me LET GO and create more presence and peace in my life.
21 min
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Why Being Family Centered Leads To Pain (HIA Cl...
What does family mean to you? Better yet, what does family FEEL like to you? In today's episode we explore the idea of family. We look at what happens when we are family centered (that means we get our sense of security, wisdom, guidance and power from the people in our family and from our family reputation), and I talk about my experience of moving from a family center to something that better helped me to "have it all".
40 min
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You Are What You Believe (HIA Classic)
What beliefs are you currently holding that is robbing you of your health, happiness, and power? Today I'm talking about the power (and consequences) of your beliefs. Your internal conversations and the beliefs associated with them are something you rep more than any workout.
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How I'm Using Visualization To Literally Reprog...
Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being, mentally and emotionally. Visualization helps these individuals live into their greatest selves. In today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming your subconscious to live your best life.
36 min
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It's Time To Kill Work-Life Balance And Replace...
Do you feel you have work-life balance? Or are you one of the millions of people who are feeling out of balance because they've been using this old context to look at their lives? In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective is one that I practice and teach all of my clients, and if you give it a try it will change your life!
47 min
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How Gratitude Improves Your Productivity - Prac...
In today's episode I'm talking about how gratitude can improve your productivity. There are very practical benefits to creating a gratitude practice, that honestly, until recently I was unaware of. But after reading an article by my good friend, Garland Vance (www.GarlandVance.com), I now have greater awareness around the role gratitude can play in our lives.
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Mind-Body Connection: How Labels & Fears Can Im...
Are you familiar with the mind-body connection? Every person needs to understand the physical impact of their thoughts and beliefs. If you're not being intentional about this right now, then the chances are great that your self-talk is taking a toll on your physical health. In today's episode I talk about the mind-body connection, particularly as it relates to the labels we wear on about ourselves.
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The Key To Building Real Self Confidence
How do you build lasting self confidence? I struggled with self confidence for a very long time. The main reason wasn't because I failed to apply the lessons (although many times I did), the issue was that I didn't understand the groundwork of what self confidence is built upon. In today's episode I bring to you some wisdom on self confidence that will help you - no matter how low your confidence is - take steps forward in developing real, lasting confidence with yourself.
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What To Do If You Struggle With Consistency (HI...
Do you struggle with staying consistent? You know the feeling. You start something, feel great for a while, then seemingly inevitably you fall off and quit. At that point the self doubt convos enter, the "I knew you couldn't do it!" self talk enters. All that stuff. In today's episode I'm giving you some simple tips for helping you be more consistent in life.
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