Having It A.L.L.
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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The 5 Key Principles I Live By (Rebroadcast)
Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means? Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too.
51 min
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How To Stop Taking Things So Personally (Yes, I...
Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally? For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently. But I had my breakthrough moment and can show you how to have yours as well.
44 min
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My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What...
What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something we're striving for in our lives. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement. In today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements.
55 min
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Do Something You've Always Wanted To Do This Fa...
What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things you've always wanted to experience.
22 min
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A Powerful Method For Changing Your Relationshi...
In today's episode I'm sharing a way for you to learn how to change your relationship towards stress. If you're used to feeling stressed out with ish hits the fan, and you have been unable to shift that feeling, then tune in! I'm going to share with you how you can use exercise to learn how to deal with stress more effectively.
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What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About ...
This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something. This episode is all about faith, trust and surrender. I briefly talk about Maya’s birth experience, but spend the bulk of the episode diving into what it looks and feels like when we lack faith in our lives.
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“I Can’t F*&%$#@ Do This” - Breaking Your Fear ...
By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch! This episode is about what it really takes to experience a breakthrough in your life.
34 min
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Not Feeling Fulfilled In Life? Here's What You ...
Are you able to answer the question -- "What would have to happen in order for you to feel fulfilled in your life?" If you're struggling with feeling fulfilled then LISTEN UP!
41 min
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How To Be More Consistent When Building Healthy...
In today's episode I'm sharing an example of consistency that I experience in my life every week.
9 min
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The 5 Taboo Topics You Need To Stop Avoiding An...
What subjects are off limits to you? What things do you avoid in your life like the plague? Most people have some topics that they refuse to address. These "taboo subjects" are robbing you of your power, your freedom and your life! If you want to truly have it all and live the life you're meant to live, then you MUST start addressing these things in a real way. Today I talk about how to do just that.
51 min
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How Much Life Can You Handle? 7 Ways To Show Up...
As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well?
36 min
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The Key To Living A More Proactive Life (Rebroa...
Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast.
23 min
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Yes, You Can Have It All! Why So Many Get It Wr...
Can you have it all? This was the question that launched this podcast. 5 years later, and my answer to that question hasn't wavered one bit: Yes, you absolutely can! There's no "...BUT" at the end of the statement either. You can have it all in life, AND I'll show you how it's possible for you!
52 min
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Let's Talk About Sex: The #1 Reason Why You Are...
Why do people, supplied with wisdom and a clear path of action, not experience breakthroughs? Why is it that we can be so clear that addressing our beliefs, paradigms and traumas around sex will be so healing and beneficial, but we never take the next step? On today's episode I share with you things I've learned from my experience as a life coach, and wisdom I've gained from addressing my biggest fears around sex.
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Let's Talk About Sex: Figuring Out What You Lik...
What do you enjoy in the bedroom? How do you express yourself sexually (or not)? In life, self expression is a major part of understanding yourself, growing, living life to the fullest. It's the same in the realm of sex! In today's episode I'm helping you get clear on what you enjoy in the bedroom, and we're discussing how to express yourself more in the bedroom.
36 min
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How We Keep Our Sex Life Hot As New Parents (Re...
Does your sex life have to change for the worse after kids? We know of course the answer is “No, it doesn’t”, but how do you keep it from turning stale? How do you keep the fire burning for your partner after you’ve had a kid or two? Today I'm bringing you a "SEX-PISODE" from my other podcast, Doing It At Home, where my wife Sarah and I get real about what our sex life has been like after having a baby.
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Let's Talk About Sex: Your First Sexual Experience
How was your first sexual experience? How would you describe it in two words? In today's episode we're diving into our first sexual experiences with the goal of examining it from an empowered and mature perspective. You have the power to rescript what sex means to you, and to write your personal sexual story (past and future) in a way that leaves you feeling confident and uplifted.
26 min
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Let's Talk About Sex: Understanding Your Person...
What is your sexual story? No, I'm not talking about a romance novel type of story. I'm talking about the narrative you have around sex, the one that was started many years ago with your very first encounters with the ideas, feelings and attitudes around sex. We all have a sexual story that was started when we were young and is being added to constantly. Many people's stories around sex are based in shame, judgement, embarrassment and expectation. That leads to sexual experiences and feelings that are unhealthy and certainly don't uplift and heal.
35 min
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Get Your 7 Minutes Back! A Breakthrough In Rela...
How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week? In today's episode I'm sharing with you a massive breakthrough I had that led to me looking at stress in a whole new way. The "7 minutes" breakthrough as I like to call it, has helped me get back into my center when life's stressors have knocked me out of alignment.
46 min
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A Quick Guide To Shower Meditations (My Go-to T...
How do you feel about meditation? What about meditating in the shower?? Meditation and mindfulness are two of the most powerful self care habits available to all of us. If you don't have a meditation or mindfulness practice currently, I highly recommend you start creating one (see my episodes on meditation for simple ways to get started). In today's episode I break down what shower meditation is, how I practice it, and walk you through steps to trying it our for yourself.
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Here's The Thing About Pain And Discomfort In L...
Do you enjoy pain? Most people don't, and it makes sense. Pain hurts. Pain is uncomfortable. Pain isn't something that a sane person wants to run towards. Yet, what if I told you that pain was inevitable....that whether you chose to step up, stay put or step back, pain would be present. Would that change the choices you made?
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Quit Holding Back! How Not Expressing Yourself ...
Where are you not feeling fully expressed? Self expression is one of the most important aspects of Having It All. Allowing yourself to be, do and say what is real and true for you is as important as breathing. However, it's a habit that can easily be overlooked and brushed aside. In today's episode I break down the importance of feeling fully expressed, the consequences of not living a life of authenticity, and how you can start expressing yourself more and more in your everyday life.
40 min
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The Most Powerful Way To Practice Self Love (Re...
What does "self love" really mean? In this episode I'm going to give you a completely new way to look at self love. It's not another thing for you to do, but a lens through which to look at all of your self love activities.
12 min
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I Fasted For 3 Days. Here Are 3 Things I Learne...
What comes up for you when you think of fasting? You might feel scared, disinterested or excited by the idea. You may have never considered it, have openly dismissed it, or have embraced it as part of your lifestyle. In today's conversation I'm sharing with you my biggest insights from a 3-day juice fast I recently did, and I'm relating these insights in a way that you're guaranteed to be able to apply them to your life (whether you've ever fasted or not).
43 min
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Progress Over Perfection: How To Focus On Small...
Do you consider yourself a Perfectionist? Are you constantly feeling like you're not doing or being enough? Do you judge yourself harshly because you're failing to live up to your standards or expectations? In today's episode I'm talking about progress versus perfection, and I'm giving you real strategies that you can apply in your life to focus more on making small steps forward and less on being perfect.
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