Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Self-Improvement
Mental Health
Alternative Health
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How To Discipline Your Thinking So That You Get...
What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all? In today's episode, I'm bringing you wisdom from Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi about the power of your thinking and the importance of cultivating control over your thoughts. Check out the links below for all the resources mentioned in this podcast.
47 min
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The First Thing You Must Do Before Trying To So...
When you're faced with a problem or challenge, what is the first thing you tend to do once you're ready to tackle it? Your answer probably has something to do with "seeking a solution" or "taking action". In today's episode I'm going to share with you why you may be failing to fix the challenges you're experiencing in your relationships, finances, career and life, and I will show you a way to see these problems in a new way so that you can finally create a solution that works.
30 min
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Don't Be Unique In Your Excuses
Do you know someone who always seems to have an excuse as to why they don't follow through on an agreement or accomplish a goal? Do you have that tendency at times? In today's bonus episode I'm sharing with you why, of all the things you want to be unique in in life, you certainly don't want to be unique in your excuses!
10 min
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This Is What You Need To Unlock That Higher Ver...
Do you feel like you're capable of more? Do you want to unlock your higher self? In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different approach to figuring out your Big Why, and I give you the ingredients that I used to crystalize my Big Why into something that I could put to use in my life.
29 min
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The Habit That's Making You Miserable (And Why ...
Can you think of one destructive habit that a significant amount of people do every day (and night) that is contributing to their stress, burnout and misery? I can! I won't make you listen to the whole episode to learn that the habit I'm talking about is using your cell phone first thing in the morning. In today's episode I'm explaining exactly why cell phone use in the mornings and at night is such a ruinous habit, and helping you to see the patterns that are at play which are keeping you from having it all.
32 min
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Bare-Bones Self-Care Habits You Need In 2020 an...
Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics? If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you.
52 min
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How To Go From Feeling Lost & Uncertain To Havi...
Are you struggling right now because you feel lost and uncertain about your life? Do you wish more than anything to have a sense of direction, clarity and purpose, but you have no idea how to achieve it? Yes, all of that sounds like the pitch in a corny informercial, but those feelings are REAL and so many people struggle with feeling lost and uncertain in their lives. That was me for many, many years. In today's episode I'm discussing why you feel so lost and uncertain, what NOT to do when you don't have a sense of direction, and how you can finally arrive at a feeling of purpose and clarity.
32 min
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How To W.A.T.C.H. Yourself Reduce Stress, Becom...
Were you aware that you have innate gifts that, when cultivated and used intentionally, will help you reduce stress, become proactive and take control of your life? In today's episode I'm sharing with you the five gifts that are represented by the acronym W.A.T.C.H., and I teach you how these gifts works as well as how you can practice using them in your life today.
29 min
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Resentment, Holding Space and Digital Detoxing:...
Do you hold resentment towards someone? Do you utilize the power of "possibility" to create new results in your life? Do you have a healthy relationship towards devices, technology and social media? In today's episode I'm answer three of your pressing questions, and giving some real time feedback on situations and topics that affect us all.
37 min
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How Can I Overcome Feelings Of Victimhood And P...
Have you been asking yourself, "How can I overcome feelings of victimhood and powerlessness?" It's very common to find yourself in a situation where you feel like a victim and where you feel powerless to do anything about it. The uncomfortable truth is that having it all and living your abundant loving life has several pre-requisites: you must be willing to take full responsibility for your life and you must adopt a proactive way of approaching life. These things don't jive with being a victim that feels powerless.
30 min
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Less Is More: The Tools You Need To Manage Stre...
Do you feel like you're in need of more effective ways to manage stress, worry and anxiety? Are you searching for more tools to add to your arsenal? The truth is that you most likely already have tools at your disposal to deal with the challenges that life throws your way, you just aren't using them to their full potential. In this episode, we will explore the different tools that are available to help you manage your stress, worry and anxiety, and I will give you some tips on how you can build habits that you can rely on when the pressure of life builds up.
21 min
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Do You Eat Other People's Emotional Garbage? (H...
Do you have a tendency to take things personally? Be honest with yourself. In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage". "You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage". In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you.
6 min
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You Must Ask Better Questions! Why Successful P...
What is one key area that separates successful people from those who routinely fail to reach their potential? Well if you read the title of this episode then you know it has to do with the QUESTIONS that successful people ask themselves. In today's episode I'm explaining to you precisely why the questions you're asking yourself may very well be what's keeping you stuck, and I'm helping you broaden your mind so that you can get on the path to bigger and better results in your life.
15 min
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7 Life Lessons On Health, Sex and Character Fro...
In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 lessons and takeaways from the most recent Trust Challenge. These 7 lessons are common threads that come up again and again in my coaching work, and I'm going over them with you today so that you can avoid the pitfalls that leave you feeling hopeless, powerless and victimized.
40 min
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The Secret To Boosting Your Confidence And Keep...
How high is your trust in yourself? You may or may not be able to answer that question easily. But I bet you have an answer for this one - how confident are you? The link between confidence and trust is so incredibly strong, yet we don't usually think of those two things as related. Today I'm shining light on why confidence and trust go hand in hand, and I'm giving you a pathway to experience higher levels of both in your life.
16 min
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How To Overcome Codependency By Becoming Your #...
How do you overcome codependency? And what does it even mean to be codependent? The reality is that many relationships end up in codependency. That happens when your ability to count on yourself is very low, and so you turn to others for your security, guidance, love, acceptance, joy or power. Because codependency results from having low trust in yourself, the solution to it often lies in building a greater sense of self trust and self worth. That's where becoming your #1 investor comes in!
31 min
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Having It A.L.L. Announcements and A Brand New ...
In today's episode I'm sharing with you some announcements from Having It A.L.L., including the return of one of the HIA community's favorite experiences: The Trust Challenge!
21 min
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How To Love Deeply In Your 3 Most Important Rel...
What does it really mean to love someone deeply? We've all heard that "love is a verb", but when you attempt to put that into practice and have the goal of loving deeply, how is it done? In today's episode I answer the question "what does it look like to love deeply?", and we focus the answer on the three most important relationships in your life.
27 min
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The Rule Of Thirds and How To Handle Crappy Day...
How do you handle the ups and downs of life? For many people, experiencing down moments is something to fret about. No one enjoys feeling down, but the way you relate to those moments (and what you do as a result) has such a tremendous impact on the direction your life goes. In today's episode I'm talking about a few concepts that will help you ride the inevitable waves of life, and I'm bringing insights from Alexi Pappas and Robin Sharma to help you show up powerfully in the face of inevitable adversity.
25 min
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Your Approach To Creating Change Is What's Keep...
When you desire to create change in your life, how effective is your approach? In today's episode I'm sharing with you some insights from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, on a more effective approach to make changes in your life. If you've struggled with making changes, and if you are feeling stuck in your currently ability to reach your goals, then this is an episode you don't want to miss.
26 min
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Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get ...
So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? On today’s episode I’m talking once again with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward. We’re sharing our biggest bedroom insecurities, talking about why opening up is important, and giving you real action steps that you can take to dissolve your bedroom fears.
95 min
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What Years Of Inconsistency Have Taught Me Abou...
Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas? In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what those two examples taught me that has transformed me into the consistent, dependable, trust-worthy person I am today.
49 min
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5 Expert Rules To Make Goal Setting More Effect...
Do you want this year to be different so badly, but secretly you fear that you'll fail at reaching any of your goals or desires? I know how terrible that feeling can be. But there is an answer, and in today's episode I'm bringing you tips from 5 experts who know a few things about achieving goals and creating change. By the end of this episode you'll feel prepared to take on the task of setting better goals for yourself, and actually making progress towards achieving them!
30 min
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How To Create Your Word For The Year And Have I...
Have you created your Word For The Year yet? New Year's Resolutions focus on the doing, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING (and that's where your best results will come from). In today's episode I'm walking you through the 6 simple steps to creating your word for the year, and teaching you how to use this tool to make a big impact in 2023.
35 min
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The #1 Reason You Fail At New Years Resolutions...
How effective are you at keeping your New Year's Resolutions? Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going throughout the year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why we fail to accomplish our new years resolutions, which I share at the end!
33 min