Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Self-Improvement
Mental Health
Alternative Health
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A Proven Way To Raise Your Self-Worth In 3 Simp...
How strong is your self-worth? Put a different way: do you believe in your own value and worthiness? Low self-worth is at the heart of many challenges that people struggle with. From difficulties with relationships, procrastination and avoidance, a lack of confidence.....all of these things have low self-worth as the common thread. So what do you do when you know you have low self-worth and you want to raise it? Well, in today's episode I'm sharing with you a proven way to raise your self worth, and it comes down to 3 simple steps.
17 min
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How To Navigate The Loneliness That Comes With ...
Have you ever felt the loneliness that comes with personal growth and transformation? As you shed your old life and embrace the new, it's natural to experience strong feelings of loneliness. How you handle those lonely periods can be the difference between growing and achieving your goals, or continuing to struggle. In today's episode I share six essential insights for navigating the lonely chapters that are a part of your personal development journey.
20 min
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How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing ...
How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts.
26 min
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You Are Your Exit Out Of Being Undervalued
Have you ever wondered about the source of your self worth and personal value? Whatever you deem as the source of your self-worth is going to directly influence your behaviors and habits. In today's episode I help you unlock a never-ending source of self-worth, one that you have full control over and can tap into at any time! You'll walk away from this episode very clear on how you can increase your self worth and keep it high!
16 min
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Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masc...
What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding onto? Over the years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man, and many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than.
48 min
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Dream Big, Start Small: How To Achieve More, Se...
Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals? In today's podcast I'm tackling the big hairy beast that is GOAL SETTING, and my goal is that this approach to the topic will inspire a breakthrough within you.
48 min
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The 2 Things Couples Need To Sustain A Long Sex...
What is the secret to sustaining a long sexual relationship with your partner? Today's episode is inspired by a Ted Talk from sex educator and author Emily Nagoski, and we'll be discussing the two things that research has shown are necessary for couples to maintain a strong sexual connection for decades.
19 min
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The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understandi...
Are you unhappy in an area of your life? Are you failing to accomplish all that you wish to accomplish in your life? In part 2 of our series on Principles, we continue our deep dive into the principles that govern us all, and talk about how you can feel more in control of your life by living in alignment with these universal truths.
24 min
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The Power Of Principles: A Guide To Understandi...
What are the principles that govern your life? The principles you live by are the foundation for effective and successful living. When you live your life in alignment with principles, things flow and you create the possibility for more joy, peace and abundance. In this episode, we'll explore the essential topic of principles and how they can help you live a more effective life. You'll learn what principles are, how they work, and the difference between principles and values. You'll also learn about 5 important principles, and what aligning and misaligning looks like for each.
49 min
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A Quick And Dirty Way To Gauge The Quality Of Y...
What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life.
47 min
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How To Find Meaning In Your Life
Are you struggling to find meaning in your life? Are you searching for purpose and clarity around why you're here and what you're meant to be doing? In today's episode I help you answer the question "How do I find meaning in my life?" and I give you my formula for experiencing meaning, purpose and clarity.
29 min
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8 Clear Signs That You Are In A Codependent Rel...
How do you know if you're in a codependent relationship? Codependency is a relationship killer, but spotting the signs isn't always easy. Many times the behaviors that you think are indications of your love and devotion, are actually signs of an unhealthy relationship dynamic. In today's episode we're going to explore codependency deeper and you'll learn 8 signs that you are in a codependent relationship.
27 min
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The Only Time Your Self Help Practice Matters I...
Are you the type who loves to read personal development books but stops short of actually applying what they read? Be honest, because this happens more often than not. In my years of coaching, I see many people fall into the trap of believing they are creating new results by reading more books, attending more seminars and enrolling in more courses. This is a trap because the real results come from APPLYING what has been learned (and applying again and again and again, until you gain wisdom from experience). In today's Having It A.L.L. Classic episodeI talk about the importance of taking your practice out into the world and seeing if your walk matches your talk.
20 min
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QUICK FIX: Break Your Addiction To Being Distra...
How comfortable are you at the idea of spending alone time with just you and your thoughts? Today's Quick Fix is all about breaking the addiction of constant distraction, and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Rich Roll -- podcaster, author and ultra-endurance athlete.
6 min
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The Common Denominator Of Success (Do You Have ...
What do you think is the common denominator of success? In 1940, Albert E.N. Gray, an official of the Prudential Insurance Company of America and a highly sought after speaker, delivered a speech to the National Association of Life Underwriters at their annual convention. His words have since become a source of great inspiration for many people. In today's episode I'm sharing with you his famous speech "The Common Denominator of Success".
25 min
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The 9 Things You Must Do To Live To 100
If life is a game of patterns, then what are the lifestyle patterns of people who live long and healthy lives? In today's episode I share with you the 9 evidence based reasons why people in Blue Zones live longer, and I open up the space for you to examine your own life to see which of these Blue Zone characteristics you can incorporate into your own life.
26 min
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QUICK FIX: The Importance Of Vitamin "N" For Se...
What is "Vitamin N" and how will it help you live an abundant loving life? Today's Quick Fix is all about "Vitamin N", and in the episode I'm sharing a message from Eliud Kipchoge -- a Kenyan long distance runner who is regarded as the greatest marathon runner of all time. He is an Olympic champion, world record holder, and in 2019 was the first person in history to run a sub 2 hour marathon! Tune in to learn about "Vitamin N" and why it's essential to self-discipline.
5 min
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Learn How To Take Control Of Your Life By Answe...
What is one activity that, if you did it on a regular basis, would have a tremendous impact in your personal and professional life? That's the question we focus on in today's podcast! In today's episode we break down two very important questions that will help you manage your time and energy more effectively, so that you can be back in the driver's seat of your life and create the results that you're desiring.
15 min
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How To Discipline Your Thinking So That You Get...
What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all? In today's episode, I'm bringing you wisdom from Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks and Shi Heng Yi about the power of your thinking and the importance of cultivating control over your thoughts. Check out the links below for all the resources mentioned in this podcast.
47 min
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The First Thing You Must Do Before Trying To So...
When you're faced with a problem or challenge, what is the first thing you tend to do once you're ready to tackle it? Your answer probably has something to do with "seeking a solution" or "taking action". In today's episode I'm going to share with you why you may be failing to fix the challenges you're experiencing in your relationships, finances, career and life, and I will show you a way to see these problems in a new way so that you can finally create a solution that works.
30 min
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Don't Be Unique In Your Excuses
Do you know someone who always seems to have an excuse as to why they don't follow through on an agreement or accomplish a goal? Do you have that tendency at times? In today's bonus episode I'm sharing with you why, of all the things you want to be unique in in life, you certainly don't want to be unique in your excuses!
10 min
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This Is What You Need To Unlock That Higher Ver...
Do you feel like you're capable of more? Do you want to unlock your higher self? In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different approach to figuring out your Big Why, and I give you the ingredients that I used to crystalize my Big Why into something that I could put to use in my life.
29 min
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The Habit That's Making You Miserable (And Why ...
Can you think of one destructive habit that a significant amount of people do every day (and night) that is contributing to their stress, burnout and misery? I can! I won't make you listen to the whole episode to learn that the habit I'm talking about is using your cell phone first thing in the morning. In today's episode I'm explaining exactly why cell phone use in the mornings and at night is such a ruinous habit, and helping you to see the patterns that are at play which are keeping you from having it all.
32 min
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Bare-Bones Self-Care Habits You Need In 2020 an...
Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics? If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you.
52 min
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How To Go From Feeling Lost & Uncertain To Havi...
Are you struggling right now because you feel lost and uncertain about your life? Do you wish more than anything to have a sense of direction, clarity and purpose, but you have no idea how to achieve it? Yes, all of that sounds like the pitch in a corny informercial, but those feelings are REAL and so many people struggle with feeling lost and uncertain in their lives. That was me for many, many years. In today's episode I'm discussing why you feel so lost and uncertain, what NOT to do when you don't have a sense of direction, and how you can finally arrive at a feeling of purpose and clarity.
32 min