Having It A.L.L.
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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The Morning And Nighttime Routines That Help Me...
How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and...
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A Message To Younger Me About School And Work
If you could deliver a message to younger generations, or perhaps your younger self, what would you say? I had a chance to do that in today’s episode, thanks to a great listener email from Marcus. Here is his email: Hey Matt!, I recently found your...
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Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get ...
So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this...
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My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What...
What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something that we're playing for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One...
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Dealing With The Ebbs And Flows Of Life
When was the last time you felt like you were in a low point in your life? When things were just not flowing like they usually do, and you wanted to get back on your horse. On the flip side, when did you last feel like your life could not get sweeter...
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Abundant Love Q&A with Matthew and Sarah
Who wants to talk about Abundant Love again?! Judging from your response to the first abundant love episode, YOU DO! In the episode titled "Being An Abundant Lover: How I Create Healing, Empowering and Joyful Relationships In and Outside My Marriage"...
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Exploring Sexual Energy: What Our Relationship ...
For today's episode I'm sharing with you one a great conversation I had with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward, all about sexual energy. This episode made me excited and nervous all at the same time, and the topics we dive into are great because they...
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Here's One Reason You May Be Unfulfilled In You...
Do you hold the expectation that your relationship must check off all of your fulfillment boxes? How about your job, are you telling yourself that your job must be the perfect alignment of your passions, gifts and talents? I don't know where I...
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How To Be Grateful For Family Emotional Triggers
When was the last time a family member set you off? Family has this amazing ability to press our buttons like nothing else. They seem to know exactly what to say and how to say it to get behind our defenses, and find those tiny areas where they...
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Why Being Family Centered Leads To Pain
What happens when we derive our sense of security, wisdom, power and guidance from our family? By the title of this episode you can guess that my argument is "Nothing good comes from that!" In my life, I've experienced the consequence of attaching my...
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Using Faith, Trust And Surrender To Expand Your...
What is faith? How does it differ from religion and spirituality? And how can you grow faith in your life? If you've ever asked yourself these questions then you're going to get some answers in this episode! I wanted to explore faith...
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What To Do When Your Relationship Feels Forced
What do you do when your relationship feels forced? When you feel like you're at an emotional crossroads and both decisions ahead of you feel scary? In today's episode I'm answering a listener email from "Kim". I talk about: Self worth...
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Here's How Fasting Has Helped Me Deal With My E...
How aware are you of the connection between your emotions and your ability to keep commitments? Until recently, I really didn't think much about it. But a few things have come up with me recently that really shines the spotlight on how huge of a...
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5 Lessons Learned From Authentic And Honest Con...
Transparency and authenticity have certainly been theme of this podcast recently! And for great reason. There is no abundant loving life when we're living lives of withhold, fear and attachment. It just doesn't happen. I experienced this lesson first...
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Speaking Your Voice And Showing Up Authentically
How often are you speaking your truth, displaying courage over consideration and sharing the thoughts, feelings and ideas that are really on your heart? How frequently are you being UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU, without all the things you do, say and wear on...
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Being Abundant Lovers: How We Create Healing, E...
Are your most intimate relationships (sexual and otherwise) creating healing, empowerment and joy within you? For years my paradigm around sex and intimate relationships was fixed. I viewed sex as a way to have fun, make babies, and relieve stress. And all of my sexual encounters pretty much fell into those boxes. Fast forward to today, and everything has changed. In today's episode I share the evolution I've undergone in how I view relationships and my role in them. This episode is incredibly vulnerable for me because I'm talking about something that I've only hinted at before. I share the style of LOVING and the style of LIVING that I've chosen for myself, one that created the biggest opportunities within me for personal growth, healing and transformation.
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How Are You Sacrificing Joy By Killing Possibil...
How are you sacrificing your joy, abundance and greatness by killing possibility? In today's episode I'm sharing an experience I had recently that shined light on how I was completely destroying possibility in my life. This self-destructive habit was...
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What My Weed Habit Taught Me About Fear and Dep...
What can your past habits, attachments, and behaviors tell you about how you relate to life? For me, taking a look at my past gives me so many insights and tools which I can use in my life today. One area which has proven to be a...
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Building Greater Trust And Honesty In Your Rela...
If you were to rate from 1-10 the level of trust, honesty and authenticity in your current most important relationships, where would you rate them? You already know that trust is a crucial element for a powerful relationship, and it's probably...
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My Experience, Struggles and Lessons Of Being B...
Can you relate with feeling uncomfortable in your own skin? I can. Growing up biracial (white mother and black father), I learned early on that society likes being able to fit you into a nice, neat box with a proper label. Being asked...
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How To Jumpstart Your Life When You’re Feeling ...
How many of us can relate to feeling like we don’t know where we’re going in life? Or the feeling of being lost and confused, even when you’re “supposed” to have it all together? Maybe you’ve always felt that way, or perhaps...
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How To Deal With A Confidence and Self Worth Br...
When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth? So often when our confidence is shook and we're questioning our own value, it's a major challenge to recover and get back into a powerful place. I have too many...
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Exploring Sexual Energy: What Our Relationship ...
What is sexual energy? Before a few years ago, I wouldn’t have a clear answer for you. Today I can shed a little more light on the topic, from my experiences and conversations, but I’m still a baby in that area (and that keeps me humbled and...
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How Are Your Fears Preventing The Greatness Of ...
How are the decisions you're making and the person you're being, giving those around you permission to play small and stay in their fears? It's a heavy question and one with far reaching consequences. I recently had an experience...
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What's The Point Of Going After Anything That's...
What's the point of going after anything that's reasonable in life? I absolutely love this question because I believe answering it gets to the core of what we are all playing for in life. HAVING IT ALL and experiencing an unreasonable amount of...
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