Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Self-Improvement
Mental Health
Alternative Health
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Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty
How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or...
43 min
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What Does It Look Like To Create Your Ideal Lif...
What does it look like to create your ideal life RIGHT NOW? I want you to seriously ask yourself this question. Because chances are you're reciting some version of this to yourself: "My ideal life is when I have XYZ, or when I accomplish 123, or when...
28 min
378
3 Beliefs That Have Radically Transformed My Life
What is one belief that you know has radically transformed your life for the better? Beliefs are something I talk about a ton on this show. The beliefs that you choose to wear on impact your actions, your habits, your relationships, your perspective...
22 min
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The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Rel...
Today's episode is part 2 of my series where I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. Today I'm talking about Business and Spirituality.   ---   How are...
47 min
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The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Rel...
How are your rituals impacting your life?   Big question, I know, but the point is to get you to reflect on your rituals and how they are impacting your day-to-day.    Rituals are simply actions you perform in a certain order. You have...
38 min
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Creating Thriving Relationships: My interview o...
What does your extraordinary life look like? On today's episode I'm bringing you something different. Normally I'm the one interviewing other people, but today I'm the one being interviewed! This past week I was interviewed by Tiago Buhr, host of The...
68 min
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Rejection Therapy and How Seeking Rejection Lea...
When was the last time you intentionally tried to get rejected? The idea of being rejected, being told “no”, or failing can freeze us in our tracks. Personally, the possibility of rejection has intimidated me in inaction countless times in my...
34 min
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Being Deeply Introverted And Finding Direction ...
Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? Geeze, I sure have! I spent years in a state of confusion about all of those things....
54 min
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The Morning And Nighttime Routines That Help Me...
How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day?   For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and...
41 min
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A Message To Younger Me About School And Work
If you could deliver a message to younger generations, or perhaps your younger self, what would you say? I had a chance to do that in today’s episode, thanks to a great listener email from Marcus. Here is his email: Hey Matt!, I recently found your...
37 min
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Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get ...
So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this...
89 min
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My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What...
What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something that we're playing for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One...
55 min
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Dealing With The Ebbs And Flows Of Life
When was the last time you felt like you were in a low point in your life? When things were just not flowing like they usually do, and you wanted to get back on your horse. On the flip side, when did you last feel like your life could not get sweeter...
19 min
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Abundant Love Q&A with Matthew and Sarah
Who wants to talk about Abundant Love again?! Judging from your response to the first abundant love episode, YOU DO! In the episode titled "Being An Abundant Lover: How I Create Healing, Empowering and Joyful Relationships In and Outside My Marriage"...
86 min
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Exploring Sexual Energy: What Our Relationship ...
For today's episode I'm sharing with you one a great conversation I had with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward, all about sexual energy.  This episode made me excited and nervous all at the same time, and the topics we dive into are great because they...
56 min
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Here's One Reason You May Be Unfulfilled In You...
Do you hold the expectation that your relationship must check off all of your fulfillment boxes? How about your job, are you telling yourself that your job must be the perfect alignment of your passions, gifts and talents?   I don't know where I...
25 min
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How To Be Grateful For Family Emotional Triggers
When was the last time a family member set you off?   Family has this amazing ability to press our buttons like nothing else. They seem to know exactly what to say and how to say it to get behind our defenses, and find those tiny areas where they...
35 min
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Why Being Family Centered Leads To Pain
What happens when we derive our sense of security, wisdom, power and guidance from our family? By the title of this episode you can guess that my argument is "Nothing good comes from that!" In my life, I've experienced the consequence of attaching my...
38 min
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Using Faith, Trust And Surrender To Expand Your...
What is faith? How does it differ from religion and spirituality? And how can you grow faith in your life?   If you've ever asked yourself these questions then you're going to get some answers in this episode!   I wanted to explore faith...
44 min
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What To Do When Your Relationship Feels Forced
What do you do when your relationship feels forced? When you feel like you're at an emotional crossroads and both decisions ahead of you feel scary?   In today's episode I'm answering a listener email from "Kim". I talk about: Self worth...
40 min
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Here's How Fasting Has Helped Me Deal With My E...
How aware are you of the connection between your emotions and your ability to keep commitments? Until recently, I really didn't think much about it.  But a few things have come up with me recently that really shines the spotlight on how huge of a...
14 min
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5 Lessons Learned From Authentic And Honest Con...
Transparency and authenticity have certainly been theme of this podcast recently! And for great reason. There is no abundant loving life when we're living lives of withhold, fear and attachment. It just doesn't happen. I experienced this lesson first...
35 min
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Speaking Your Voice And Showing Up Authentically
How often are you speaking your truth, displaying courage over consideration and sharing the thoughts, feelings and ideas that are really on your heart? How frequently are you being UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU, without all the things you do, say and wear on...
28 min
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Being Abundant Lovers: How We Create Healing, E...
Are your most intimate relationships (sexual and otherwise) creating healing, empowerment and joy within you? For years my paradigm around sex and intimate relationships was fixed. I viewed sex as a way to have fun, make babies, and relieve stress. And all of my sexual encounters pretty much fell into those boxes. Fast forward to today, and everything has changed. In today's episode I share the evolution I've undergone in how I view relationships and my role in them. This episode is incredibly vulnerable for me because I'm talking about something that I've only hinted at before. I share the style of LOVING and the style of LIVING that I've chosen for myself, one that created the biggest opportunities within me for personal growth, healing and transformation.
118 min
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How Are You Sacrificing Joy By Killing Possibil...
How are you sacrificing your joy, abundance and greatness by killing possibility? In today's episode I'm sharing an experience I had recently that shined light on how I was completely destroying possibility in my life. This self-destructive habit was...
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