Having It A.L.L.

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along! 

Self-Improvement
Mental Health
Alternative Health
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The #1 Reason You Fail At New Years Resolutions
Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going year after year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure.
32 min
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The Consequences Of Brutal Honesty
In today's episode I'm talking about the consequences of brutal honesty. There can be a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety associated with honesty, despite the freeing impact that complete honesty can have on ourselves and in our relationships....
23 min
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Trusting Yourself and Living Life On Your Terms...
In today’s episode I’m talking with Dr. Tiffany Stewart on living life on your own terms and using visualization and goal setting to create the life you want to live. *** Remember in grade school when we wanted to be excused from class to go to...
53 min
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Epic Challenge: Learning Compassion and How To ...
In today's episode I'm going in with Anthony Strayhorn on his Epic Challenge - an area of his life where he is feeling stuck, frustrated, confused and unable to make a change. We’re getting personal, we’re getting real, and we’re playing...
46 min
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How Going Off The Beaten Trail Can Help You Fin...
In today's episode I talk to Jake Heilbrunn about his inspiring story of dropping out of college to go on a soul searching journey through Central America, all captured in his new book "Off The Beaten Trail". This self discovery journey gave Jake...
40 min
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7 Thoughts On Gratitude You Haven't Heard Before
In this episode I'm talking all about Gratitude. I'm giving you 7 things you probably haven't heard before about gratitude. We're talking about gratitude in your personal finances, tools for helping you form a gratitude habit, how gratitude can...
21 min
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The Danger Of Seeking Work-Life Balance
In this episode I tear apart the concept of “work-life balance” and explain why it’s dangerous, leads to unhealthy living, and why we have to replace it with a healthy and sustainable construct. We’re all familiar with the idea of work-life...
27 min
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Epic Challenge: "Who Do I Need To Be To Release...
It’s Epic Challenge time again! That means I’m going in with my guest on the area of their life where they are feeling stuck, frustrated, confused and unable to make a change. We’re getting personal, we’re getting real, and we’re playing for...
44 min
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How To Melt Your Fears Like Butter
I’ve talked about facing fears a number of times on this show. Most people who have a "self help" type of show probably talk a lot of about fears. And for great reason: Fears keep us from experiencing LOVE in life. You can boil your decisions down...
16 min
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Do You Know Your Center? The Success Of Your Re...
This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned.  Today...
44 min
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Who Are You When No One Is Watching?
The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these...
36 min
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Epic Challenge: Walking Into My Authentic Self ...
On today’s episode we explore another EPIC CHALLENGE! This time I’m sitting down with my great friend Sandy Chambers as we explore her current challenge: Who do I need to be to feel powerful, healthy and light in my body, and graduate to the...
61 min
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Learning How to Choose Happiness and Create The...
There’s a fundamental belief that separates the people who feel like they have it all from the people who don’t, and that’s the belief that you have the power to CHOOSE. It’s all about CHOICE. That’s the difference maker. People who feel in...
59 min
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Here's Why You Keep Getting Into Unhealthy Rela...
Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener. Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS. Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel...
31 min
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What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About ...
This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something. I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER. On Sunday September 11th, Sarah and I...
26 min
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Epic Challenge: Knowing Whether to Move On or D...
Since January 2014 my wife and I have been a part of a weekly accountability group called a Circle Of Influence (COI). A standard part of each COI meeting is to cover one person’s Epic Challenge. Through sitting in dozens and dozens of Epic...
47 min
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How To Expand The Great Things In Life Through ...
You've probably heard sayings like"What you think you become." (Buddha) and "What you focus on expands." (T. Harv Eker). They are great and make for awesome social media quotes and refrigerator magnets. But I think the fact that they are used...
33 min
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“I Can’t F*&%$#@ Do This” - Breaking Your Fear ...
By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch! Well, I checked it out the other day and can...
34 min
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How To Believe In Your Bigness And Quiet Your L...
You know that voice in your head, that tells you just what you need to hear so that you shrink back, play small, succumb to fear. Yeah, you do?! Well, so does my guest on today's podcast. Aaron Anastasi has quite the resume of accomplishments and...
55 min
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How To Set Yourself Up For A Massively Awesome ...
Yup, this is a very loaded title. But here's the thing: everything my guest talk about are pieces for a massively awesome life. The tools, practices, mindsets and beliefs she shares, when practiced regularly and with intention, will absolutely set you...
43 min
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The 6 F's - HIA Framework Part 3
This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for having it all.   In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life:...
31 min
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"You Have To Move Your Feet": A Story About See...
Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession. His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his...
77 min
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Your Relationships Are Killing You
I truly believe that your relationships are the most important factor to your health (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking). This episode will get you thinking. What you’ll learn in this episode: The types...
25 min
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Learning to Love Yourself and Have It All Witho...
There is a theme on this show that comes up in a number of episodes: Breakdowns lead to Breakthroughs. My guest on today’s podcast knows all about this. Ruby Fremon has had her breakdowns in life. She knows what it feels like to hit the proverbial...
45 min
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The One Thing I Use to Get Back on Track to Ach...
This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”. I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!” Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because...
20 min