Awesome Etiquette

Hosts Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning answer audience questions about modern etiquette with advice based on consideration, respect, and honesty. Like their great-great-grandmother, Emily Post, Lizzie and Dan look for the reasons behinds the traditional rules to guide their search for the correct behavior in all kinds of contemporary situations. Test your social acumen and join the discussion about civility and decency in today's complex world.

Society & Culture
Relationships
Kids & Family
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Episode 470 - RSVP Asterisk
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on RSVPing with an asterisk, walkers entering your private yard, the rules for wearing white at a wedding, and thank you notes in other countries. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about visitors using your house as a “crash pad” rather than coming to spend time with you. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on performative etiquette from a recent Miss Manners column.
53 min
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Episode 469 - Let's Celebrate
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on graduation announcements, an out of state over-think for a bridal shower, talking sports at work, and adult children who just want to celebrate their parent’s 50th anniversary darnit! For Awesome Etiquette Community members, our question of the week explores how hosts make decisions about sleeping arrangements for house-guests. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Wearing White After Labor Day.
64 min
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Episode 468 - Plane Etiquette Please
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on etiquette when on planes, more etiquette for plane travel, not saying "sorry", and addressing a Dr. as part of a married couple. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about getting to know neighbors in a quiet community. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on registries throughout Emily Post History.
60 min
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Episode 467 - Gift Card Tip
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on hyphenating names on cards, paying for the plate you didn’t eat at a wedding reception, tipping when you paid with a gift card, and sending a sympathy card late. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about letting someone know their hair is out of place before taking a photo. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript concluding our reading from The Cost of Bad Behavior.
53 min
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Episode 466 - Colorful Wedding
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on a colorful wedding dress code, birthday parties at places that charge for extra guests, tipping for an at-home service rather than one at a salon, and teaching consent early. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about attending a birthday party when you can’t afford a gift. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript continuing a historical review of etiquette from the Cost of Bad Behavior.
61 min
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Episode 465 - Not a Date
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on using ‘sir’ and ‘ma’am,’ requesting certain foods at other people’s houses, avoiding people you have a romantic interest in, and telling someone ‘this isn’t a date.’ For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about showing appreciation for your partner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from The Cost of Bad Behavior.
61 min
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Episode 464 - Listening to Voicemail?
On today’s show we take your questions on sending gifts ahead of the bridal shower, someone who doesn’t listen to voicemails, rehearsal dinner meal preferences, and serving the RIGHT amount of small talk. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a mystery bowl at dinner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript interview with Elizabeth H. Cottrell Author of HeartSpoken
67 min
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Episode 463 - Children Are People
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on hosting trouble with traditional gender roles, handling invitations when you’re overseas and grieving, a short question about being a new grandparent and how to handle family names on a wedding invitation envelope. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a moment of awkwardness around an up in the air wedding invitation. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on parenting don’ts from Emily Post’s 1940s parent book Children are People.
56 min
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Episode 462 - Helping Hands
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on bringing gifts to birthday dinners, navigating a wedding invite when the date has been posted online already, what to do when someone constantly interrupts you with questions, and avoiding neighborhood gossip. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about winning gracefully. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on lending a hand. All that's coming up!
60 min
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Episode 461 - Service Charge
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on feeling excluded from conversations, service charges at restaurants, RSVPing for a wedding before getting a formal invite, and declining to give tours of your home. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about asking your coworkers not to play explicit songs. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Emily's wedding day.
76 min
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Episode 460 - Subject Change
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on responding to people who disrespect your religious beliefs, bosses who text you after hours, changing the subject during uncomfortable conversations, and a wedding invite that leaves out important information. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about dating in real life instead of finding people on apps. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on clam bakes and BBQ's.
74 min
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Episode 459 - Andiamo
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on funeral invites, asking wedding guests to help with the honeymoon instead of giving gifts, tipping for a bottle of wine, and balancing honesty and consideration in casual conversations. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about slowing down a relationship. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on hosting tips.
64 min
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Episode 458 - Talks Too Much
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on treats for staff members being shared with their kids,thank you notes for meal trains, invites sent in batches, and a renter who talks… a little too much. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about the term “junior” after the senior has passed on. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on sharing food.
63 min
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Episode 457 - Text Better
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on being a better texter, correcting a friend’s manners, responding to comments about your appearance, and canceling coming to an event where you’re expected to bring the main course. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about leaning the seat back on an airplane. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on using someone’s vacation or second home.
67 min
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Episode 456 - Solo Finish
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on inviting families to pool parties, responding to your name being misspelled, suggesting a different restaurant than the one you were invited to, and passive aggressive bosses. For Awesome Etiquette paid subscribers our bonus question is about putting up a new fence with new neighbors. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from Truly Emily Post.
52 min
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Episode 455 - Everyone?
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on telling people about your new address, giving a gift to the host of a post-wedding brunch, addressing a group as ‘guys,’ and someone who invites themself to a gathering. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about interjecting to correct someone’s coffee order. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on emilys garden
61 min
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Episode 454 - Many Hosts
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On this week’s show we take your questions on inviting someone to a graduation with no celebration afterward, weeds in your neighbor’s yard, baby showers with a lot of hosts, and inviting someone who has just lost a child to a baby shower. For Awesome Etiquette community members our extra question is about inviting spouses to weddings when you’re not close with them. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript pulled from the 1950’s Emily Post cookbook with menu recommendations for entertaining.
56 min
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Episode 453 - Almost Everybody
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on guests who are gluten-free, asking others what they do for work, inviting almost everyone to a gathering, and tipping for an appliance delivery. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about difficult apologies. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on how we use Consideration, Respect and Honesty to answer etiquette questions.
69 min
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Episode 452 - Handwritten
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on addressing wedding invitations with bad handwriting, talking to others about their childrens’ behavior, buying gifts for an exchange at a reduced price, and breaking the news about someone’s passing. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about bringing someone coffee. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Awesome Etiquette origins.
64 min
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Episode 451 - Not a Good Match
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on realizing too late that an event is child-free, putting a registry link on the baby shower invite, weeding out who would make a good match on dating apps, and people who take over company meetings. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question of the week is about getting too much ice built up in your water glass after several refills. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on wine with one of our trainers Nisha Travedi.
67 min
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Episode 450 - Availability
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on putting the name of someone who has died on a wedding invite, keeping your calendar open, breaking gift-giving traditions, and people commenting on how old or young you look. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a wedding RSVP dilemma. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on bringing children to restaurants.
59 min
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Episode 449 - Good Grief
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on not looking your best at an interview, placing glasses on the table, giving gifts to the host of a bridal shower, and family members who always bring their dog along. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about sending gifts for graduation. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Emily Post and Grief.
58 min
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Episode 448 - No Wedding Gift
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on not wanting a kids’ cup at restaurants, sending a wedding gift if you’re not attending, family members who push their politics on you, and waiters bringing out cleaning supplies with your food. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about where to put the date on monogrammed stationery. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on airplane etiquette
73 min
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Episode 447 - Imitation
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on making small talk with old colleagues, asking for sensitive information when a loved one is dying, what to wear at a funeral, and approaching someone who is copying you. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about inviting last-minute wedding guests. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on etiquette at concerts.
52 min
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Episode 446 - On Salad Knives
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on overly attentive wait staff, inviting new couples to dinner parties, not feeling like you can ask for help, and salad knives on the table. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about getting cash in condolence cards. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on dining together.
57 min