Awesome Etiquette

Hosts Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning answer audience questions about modern etiquette with advice based on consideration, respect, and honesty. Like their great-great-grandmother, Emily Post, Lizzie and Dan look for the reasons behinds the traditional rules to guide their search for the correct behavior in all kinds of contemporary situations. Test your social acumen and join the discussion about civility and decency in today's complex world.

Society & Culture
Relationships
Kids & Family
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Episode 515 - Vacation House Dibs
On today’s show, we take your questions on who gets first dibs on a room at a vacation house, what to do with a friend who orders a lot at a restaurant and then asks to split the bill, and a fun question on how to get RSVPs to something called a Pig Pickin’! For community members, your question of the week is about speech-to-text etiquette. Plus, your etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Disability and Etiquette with an interview with Emily Vordee. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
71 min
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Episode 514 - Napkin Roll
On today’s show, we take your questions on really uneven graduation gifts, when to put a rolled napkin on your lap, and how to respond when people always ask if you want kids. For community members, your question of the week is about what to do with a friend who won’t take no for an answer about sleeping at your house. Plus, your etiquette salute, weekly challenge, and a listener feedback postscript segment. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
45 min
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Episode 513 - On Long Letters
On today’s show, we take your questions on graduation gifts for a son’s girlfriend, how long or short to make a letter or card, and attending BIPOC and LGBTQ events as a straight white person. For community members, your question of the week is about rescheduling a baby shower. Plus your etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on funerals and bereavement from Emily’s biography by Laura Claridge. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
56 min
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Episode 512 - Paying for Parents
On today’s show, we take your questions on what to do with a graduation photo card, whether to let a boyfriend’s parents pick up the check and how to let people know you’ve switched from a PO Box to a home address. For community members, your question of the week is about why people seem to think etiquette is only for aristocrats. Plus, your etiquette salute and a postscript segment where we talk about a new survey on incivility in the workplace. 85% Of People Work With Annoying Colleagues, New Survey Shows - Forbes Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
47 min
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Episode 511 - Hats at the Table
On today’s show, we take your questions on how to address a wedding invitation when the bride has already taken the groom’s last name, whether ladies should wear hats in a restaurant, and saying thank you too much when dining out. For community members, your question of the week is about whether shower hosts should be invited to the wedding. Plus, your etiquette salute and a postscript segment where we interview one of the show writers from Bridgerton. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
59 min
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Episode 510 - Likely Attendee
On today’s show, we take your questions on how to handle an unusual food intolerance at work, whether stay-at-home moms and volunteers should have business cards, and whether you can ask potential wedding guests how likely they are to attend…before you send out invitations. For community members, your question of the week is about how to deal with parental boundaries around a wedding. Plus your etiquette salute, weekly etiquette challenge, and a postscript segment where we hear your feedback on our recent questions.
63 min
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Episode 509 - Welcome Deesha Dyer
On today’s show, we take your questions on what to wear to a celebration of life event, how to tip on a guided travel tour, and whether to suggest in advance you split the bill on a date. For community members, your question of the week is about when you can order a drink at a business meeting. Plus, your etiquette salute and a postscript segment where Lizzie Interviews Former White House Social Secretary Deesha Dyer; spoiler: they did not want the conversation to end! Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
86 min
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Episode 508 - Microphone Moments
On today’s show, we take your questions on whether you give a gift at a wedding vow renewal, if you can ask for cash gifts for a 40th birthday, and how to handle an uncomfortable moment at a memorial. For community members, your question of the week is about when to follow up after a job application is submitted. Plus, your etiquette salute, weekly etiquette challenge, and a postscript segment on the definition of incivility from The Cost of Bad Behavior by Christine Porath and Christine Pearson. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
52 min
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Episode 507 - Backing Out
On today’s show, we take your questions on bowing out of a vacation you already agreed on, when a board member’s boyfriend is taking over, and whether you should feed the babysitter. For community members, your question of the week is about when an intern takes the cake–literally, takes an office cake. Plus your etiquette salute and a postscript segment with your favorite examples of etiquette in popular film. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
54 min
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Episode 506 - Change of Address
On today’s show, we take your questions on how to tip when using a restaurant gift card, how to list multiple family names on a change of address card, and how to handle a wedding shower for a very intimate wedding. For community members, your question of the week is about how to handle gifts at graduation parties. Plus, your etiquette salute, weekly etiquette challenge, and a postscript segment where we hear from Emily Post herself. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
38 min
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Episode 505 - Throwing Pillows
On today’s show, we take your questions on what to do with throw pillows when visiting someone’s home, a friend who hosts parties with lots of scented candles, and Rules for visiting a newborn. For community members, your question of the week is about how many times to say thank you for a gift. Plus, your etiquette salute, weekly etiquette challenge, and a postscript segment from Dan on Emily Post on Emily Post! Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
55 min
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Episode 504 - Dual Showers
On today’s show, we take your questions on a sniffling airplane seatmate, strangers judging a child with a disability while dining, and friends hosting a dual wedding shower for their kids. For community members, your question of the week is about automation and AI and how it impacts our social behavior. Plus, your etiquette salute and our first feedback postscript segment. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
66 min
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Episode 503 - Looking Tired
On today’s show, we take your questions on a money transfer travesty, whether it’s ever OK to say, “You look tired,” and pre-written letters of recommendation. For community members, your question of the week is about what to do when someone asks if you invited them by mistake–and you didn’t! Plus, your etiquette salute and a postscript on a 'standing wedding breakfast' or reception. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
49 min
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Episode 502 - Tentative Teens
On today’s show, we take your questions on tentative teens who won’t commit to plans, using cash-app on a graduation invitation, and taking photos when dining out. For community members, your question of the week is about being called by an ex’s name at a party. Plus your etiquette salute, and a postscript on etiquette on the big screen.
51 min
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Episode 501 - Total Eclipse
On today’s show, we take your questions on Easter traditions that change without warning, when to use titles and when not to as you get older, and how to handle registries you aren’t fond of. For Community Members, your question of the week is about eating food that is too hot. Plus your etiquette salute and a postscript on our favorite things about Emily Post. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
59 min
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Episode 500 - Yes, 500
On today’s special 500th show, we take your questions on why we can’t correct others' etiquette, early RSVP expectations, bridal shower alerts for registry items, and to ask or not about a work issue. For Community Members, your question of the week is on: To correct or not to correct? Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on the past, present, and future of Awesome Etiquette. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
103 min
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Episode 499 - Etiquette vs. Protocol
On today’s show, we take your questions on preparing for cell phone disruptions at concerts, the idea of asking for recycled birthday gifts, whether you should tip your tax accountant, and whether seconds at the buffet are okay. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members, your question of the week is a two-for-one, with a question on when to stop using social titles and tipping practices today. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on Protocol where Lizzie Interviews protocol expert Catherine Wilson. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
67 min
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Episode 498 - New Gift Etiquette
On today’s show, we take your questions on preparing for porch pirates, paying for your plate at a wedding, handling salespeople in big box and grocery stores, and what to do when you’re invited to all the wedding parties. For Awesome Etiquette community members, your question of the week is about moving someone to BCC in business emails. Plus, your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript from The Rituals of Dinner by Margaret Visser. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
64 min
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Episode 497 - Etiquette Fails
On today’s show, we take your questions on a camping birthday bash, sympathy cards in lieu of funeral attendance, when to begin at a banquet, and how to handle plus-ones for wedding invitations. For Awesome Etiquette community members, your question of the week is about a gift card wedding shower. Plus, your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on our most memorable etiquette fails. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
77 min
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Episode 496 - Registered
On today’s show, we take your questions on how to handle a thank you and condolence card, setting hosting boundaries with your social spouse, navigating a very awkward situation with a coworker, and how to handle sympathy you’ve received when there’s no contact information to acknowledge it. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members, your question of the week is about needing to deflect well-meaning conversations about hard times. Plus, your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a wedding-themed postscript on setting up registries. Join the community, support the show - emilypost.substack.com
67 min
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Episode 495 - Dinner Plate Decisions
58 min
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Episode 494 - Emily Post Postscript
On today’s show, we take your questions on hosting gifts, a puzzling wedding invitation, the good reason to ghost, and how to handle one menu for four people. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members, our question concerns condolences for a miscarriage. Plus, your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on the life of Emily Post by Emily Post.
56 min
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Episode 493 - Copy Edit Curse
On today’s show, we take your questions on getting everyone involved at a wedding, the curse of the copy edit, sending acknowledgments to condolences, and a guest of honor who doesn’t want to participate. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members, our question is about non-invitation invitations. Plus, your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on eating bread and soup.
74 min
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Episode 492 - Reluctant Host
On today’s show, we take your questions on whether or not to host a bachelorette party after the wedding, stealing a thank you, some misguided guest requests, and how to handle feeling unwelcome with extended family. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members, our question is about season tickets when you have guests in town. Plus, your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on keeping your mouth shut while eating from Margaret Vissers, the rituals of dinner.
62 min
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Episode 491 - Professionalism
On today’s show, we take your questions on personal stationery use, sympathy note wording, how to handle that last piece of bread in the basket, and a real speaker phone shocker. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members, our question is about a Vexed semi-vegetarian. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on professionalism.
66 min