Awesome Etiquette

Hosts Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning answer audience questions about modern etiquette with advice based on consideration, respect, and honesty. Like their great-great-grandmother, Emily Post, Lizzie and Dan look for the reasons behinds the traditional rules to guide their search for the correct behavior in all kinds of contemporary situations. Test your social acumen and join the discussion about civility and decency in today's complex world.

Society & Culture
Relationships
Kids & Family
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Episode 484 - Visiting Whom
Welcome Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on brushing your teeth at the office, opening gifts from clients in front of them, someone asking to see your wound, and friends who always want you to come see them. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about keeping the toilet lid shut to contain germs. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on getting kids ready for the holidays.
58 min
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Episode 483 - Holiday Tips
On today’s show, we take your questions on listing your degrees in your email signature, conversations interrupted by kids, being honest yet polite, and people who repeatedly mispronounce your name. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question of the week is about responding when being teased in front of others. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on Holiday Tipping.
57 min
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Episode 482 - Re-gifting Again
On today’s show, we take your questions on sending out cards without asking for an address, quickly replying ‘no’ to an invitation, hosting your own birthday, and when to not open gifts at the party. For Emily Post Substack subscribers our bonus question of the week is about sitting properly in a restaurant booth. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on Gift Giving and Re-Gifting.
58 min
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Episode 481 - Phone-free Holidays
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on using a two-handled soup bowl, keeping the holidays phone-free, arriving late to a holiday dinner, and being unsure if someone got your wedding gift. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about not inviting someone to a holiday this year who has been invited in years past. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on holiday cards.
56 min
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Episode 480 - Thanksgiving Host
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on having multiple hosts for Thanksgiving, e-invites for children's birthday parties, maintaining old friendships, and setting plates directly on the table. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about well meaning intrusive comments. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on conversation.
66 min
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Episode 479 - Bringing Dishes
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on turning a Bunco party into a birthday party, keeping up old friendships, having your baby shower in your own home, and bringing dishes to holiday meals. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members your question is about side conversations at small dinners. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on the future of business etiquette.
61 min
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Episode 478 - How Much is That?
On today’s show, we take your questions on being asked how much something costs, the order of co-chairs on an invitation, managing a difficult family situation, and thanking someone for attending your wedding. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about agreeing to host something once, but not every year. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on being a great guest of honor.
59 min
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Episode 477 - Not Too Scary
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on conversation poachers, large parties with no split checks, setting boundaries with family members, and waiting for machines at the gym. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about riding in an Uber where the driver makes an illegal turn. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on, "BOO!", Trick-or-Treat Etiquette!
68 min
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Episode 476 - Not Feeling Rushed
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on not wanting others to feel rushed at the dinner table, wearing flip flops at the office, feeding out-of-town guests at the rehearsal dinner, and where to dry your hands at someone else’s house. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is a followup to a question about tipping with gift cards. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on being a great guest of honor.
64 min
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Episode 475 - Inviting Adult Children
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on invitations for multiple generations in one household, why it’s a good idea to open gifts at a shower, changing traditions in answering the phone and whose name goes first in an obituary. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about getting called out for napkin use. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on setting up your guest room.
59 min
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Episode 474 - New Phone Manners
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on difficult mother-daughter relationships, doctor titles on wedding invitations, whether or not to invite the pastor to a small intimate wedding reception, and what’s the deal with registering for things. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about family members who don’t acknowledge others’ accomplishments. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on the new phone manners media storm caused by the Washington Post's Heather Kelly with an assist from Lizzie.
63 min
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Episode 473 - Wedge-shaped Food
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on riding in the car with a female superior, finding out someone’s engagement was canceled, trying to plan a less-chaotic extended family Christmas, and serving wedge-shaped food. For Awesome Etiquette Community Members our question is about being kicked out of a wedding for no reason. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a historical postscript from Emily Posts Children are People
53 min
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Episode 472 - No Receiving Line
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on people who ask you to send their thanks along to someone else, not having a receiving line at the wedding, whether or not to invite a friend who is bothering the bride to a wedding, and how to handle a charity birthday present request for a kids’ birthday. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question of the week is about a very generous, maybe too generous, host. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a historical postscript on spitting from Margaret Visser’s The Rituals Of Dinner.
67 min
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Episode 471 - Can You Hear Me Now?
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on gifts for weddings and vow renewals, making sure someone got your card, the expenses that come with destination weddings, and tipping for rehearsal dinner venues. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about guests not showing appreciation for their host. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on serving styles for entertaining at home.
47 min
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Episode 470 - RSVP Asterisk
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on RSVPing with an asterisk, walkers entering your private yard, the rules for wearing white at a wedding, and thank you notes in other countries. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about visitors using your house as a “crash pad” rather than coming to spend time with you. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on performative etiquette from a recent Miss Manners column.
53 min
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Episode 469 - Let's Celebrate
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on graduation announcements, an out of state over-think for a bridal shower, talking sports at work, and adult children who just want to celebrate their parent’s 50th anniversary darnit! For Awesome Etiquette Community members, our question of the week explores how hosts make decisions about sleeping arrangements for house-guests. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Wearing White After Labor Day.
64 min
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Episode 468 - Plane Etiquette Please
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on etiquette when on planes, more etiquette for plane travel, not saying "sorry", and addressing a Dr. as part of a married couple. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about getting to know neighbors in a quiet community. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on registries throughout Emily Post History.
60 min
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Episode 467 - Gift Card Tip
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on hyphenating names on cards, paying for the plate you didn’t eat at a wedding reception, tipping when you paid with a gift card, and sending a sympathy card late. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about letting someone know their hair is out of place before taking a photo. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript concluding our reading from The Cost of Bad Behavior.
53 min
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Episode 466 - Colorful Wedding
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on a colorful wedding dress code, birthday parties at places that charge for extra guests, tipping for an at-home service rather than one at a salon, and teaching consent early. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about attending a birthday party when you can’t afford a gift. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript continuing a historical review of etiquette from the Cost of Bad Behavior.
61 min
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Episode 465 - Not a Date
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on using ‘sir’ and ‘ma’am,’ requesting certain foods at other people’s houses, avoiding people you have a romantic interest in, and telling someone ‘this isn’t a date.’ For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about showing appreciation for your partner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from The Cost of Bad Behavior.
61 min
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Episode 464 - Listening to Voicemail?
On today’s show we take your questions on sending gifts ahead of the bridal shower, someone who doesn’t listen to voicemails, rehearsal dinner meal preferences, and serving the RIGHT amount of small talk. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a mystery bowl at dinner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript interview with Elizabeth H. Cottrell Author of HeartSpoken
67 min
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Episode 463 - Children Are People
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on hosting trouble with traditional gender roles, handling invitations when you’re overseas and grieving, a short question about being a new grandparent and how to handle family names on a wedding invitation envelope. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a moment of awkwardness around an up in the air wedding invitation. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on parenting don’ts from Emily Post’s 1940s parent book Children are People.
56 min
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Episode 462 - Helping Hands
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on bringing gifts to birthday dinners, navigating a wedding invite when the date has been posted online already, what to do when someone constantly interrupts you with questions, and avoiding neighborhood gossip. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about winning gracefully. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on lending a hand. All that's coming up!
60 min
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Episode 461 - Service Charge
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on feeling excluded from conversations, service charges at restaurants, RSVPing for a wedding before getting a formal invite, and declining to give tours of your home. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about asking your coworkers not to play explicit songs. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Emily's wedding day.
76 min
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Episode 460 - Subject Change
Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on responding to people who disrespect your religious beliefs, bosses who text you after hours, changing the subject during uncomfortable conversations, and a wedding invite that leaves out important information. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about dating in real life instead of finding people on apps. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on clam bakes and BBQ's.
74 min