Love and affection I think we would all say have value, but how much, in what way, and why? How important is it?

Who you are is good to know but how you are is even better.

That headline itself is rife with controversy, but I think to any sane person it is a fully legitimate question we have all pondered.

After a lifetime in personal development and five years investigating and talking with the top leaders in personal development, I believe we are, all of us, so often missing the root issues of our own personal growth and progress.

It’s a New Year and weight loss, exercise, and eating better are the the most searched for New Year’s Resolution topics.

This is a license to invest in ourselves, not an admonishment.

Should your work truly interest you? What are you missing if it does not?

What do you have hope in? Real hope based on actual expectations?

Two of my favorite movie scenes ask this. In the Notebook, the character Noah asks Allie over and over, “What do you want? What do you want?”

An FBI special agent whose job was gaining trust and catching and recruiting spies, shares his relational strategy at home to win his family’s hearts.

How would you rate your communication skills when presenting something to a group of people at the dinner table, a meeting at work or on stage?

In any conversation you can become a constant dopamine hit for the other person.

What if you were diagnosed with a small, benign brain tumor that you’d had all your life and it had been limiting your cognitive ability.

I’ve always felt to know the true measure of a man, audit how his wife and kids and doing.

As a listener of The Ziglar Show I know you are a more “aspiring” person than the norm, as are our other listeners.

“Blessings” is right there with the word “success” as far as having a lot of baggage connected to it.

This is about how you are arranging your life.

A key to a great story plot or comedy routine is to take people along a predictive path and then disrupt it.

Well, this is interesting. In the episode I play a clip from Zig Ziglar on the power of words we speak with and about other people.

Even if they are listening, are they really hearing?

We generally approach conversations like we approach walking, you just do it.

Boom. You wake in the morning and often the first, conscious thought is a worry, concern or anxiety. It sounds negative, but it may just be how our minds work, to first deal with any threat. But it’s not an optimal way to start the day and if we hold on to the worry it will likely taint the whole day. Neil Pasricha’s tactic is to take that thought captive in the first seconds of his day, and “let it go”. He writes it down in his journal to get it out of his head. Then he also writes down something he is grateful for and what he will focus on. He calls it his Two Minute Morning and actually sells a journal by that name that is a bestseller. Neil was my guest in show 727 where the topic was, quit living your fragile life. I encourage you to visit Neil.blog and subscribe to his podcast, 3 books with Neil Pasricha. And you can get his just released new book, “You Are Awesome” at neil.blog or wherever you buy books. This is our habits episode and it was the mental spoke where he shared his waking routine that kick-starts his day. Hear more about it and his habits in the other spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life, in this show.

You daily, if not hourly, speak a series of words that take away your personal power.

We live in a time of more conveniences, automation, safety, knowledge, and creature comforts than ever.

As we continue to breach the hard questions, this one is a doozy that massively affects our relationships.