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Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

Parenting
Kids & Family
Society & Culture
101
Easy Baby Envy Edition
The panel discusses feeling envious of parents who's parenting comes easily, how to rearrange a physical household post-divorce, new college scholarships, the diversity of the senate page program, and kids birthday party gift-opening etiquette.
46 min
102
Make Daycare Great Again Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Sam Adams discuss whether one should employ the services of a Trump supporting day-care, what to do about bath-supply snatching kids, high school graduations, guitar lessons, and much more
42 min
103
Circumcision Conundrum Edition
This week we're joined by Wendy Zukerman of the podcast Science Vs. to discuss the science and ethics behind circumcision, plus failed video shoots, painting bedrooms on vacation, too-voracious readers, where babies come from, and much more.
53 min
104
Existential Tantrum Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss Carvell's kids anti-authoritarian tendencies, what it means to be "Henry's mom", a tough question about a manipulative ex husband, and how to deal with tantrums when you're depressed, anxious, and pregnant.
53 min
105
Great Grandma Name Debate Edition
50 min
106
Make Your Own Dang Breakfast Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Dan Kois discuss sibling solidarity in the face of morning lateness, new solutions to those morning routines, difficult parents and destination events, and the effect of a parent's mental illness on their children
50 min
107
Four Wheelers and a Hot Tub Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss the danger inherent in eating watermelon rinds, kid's bad taste in music, if and how to forbid teens from having sex, the rudeness of texting, and more.
44 min
108
Joyless Slog Edition
They panel discusses kid anger fails, reading getting in the way of basic life functions, the joy of barely passing German class, the joyless slog of the early parenting years, and what to do about teens and drinking and the friends they drink with.
48 min
109
Falling Piano Edition
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace are joined by Marlo Mack of the How to be a Girl podcast to discuss whether a mom should push her ex-husband to allow their transgender son to start taking hormones
54 min
110
Reservoir Puppies Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss reluctant playdates, college manipulation, digital loss in the iCloud, how to have a familial relationship with your step-son, kids noticing violence on TV, and much more.
53 min
111
Fascist Haircut Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss raising children of a different skin color from your own, whether we should allow kids to have fascist haircuts, spring break schedules, Dungeons & Dragons, bro dates, and more.
53 min
112
Anonymous Sex Question Box Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss the terror of not teaching a child to ride a bike, Rebecca's "beautiful" daughter, fluids, and a difficult question about a child with a potential and non-specific disability.
38 min
113
Technological Dystopia Edition
Carvell Wallace, Gabriel Roth, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss an educational math game called Prodigy, and how to deal with a kid's potential over-interest in a video game
49 min
114
Simpering Airhead Mermaid Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Katherine Goldstein discuss failed voice lessons, resigning yourself to chicken nuggets, dude time, what to do about sexist cartoons, how to cope with friends with bad parenting technique, plus recommendations and more.
43 min
115
Minimalist Hellscape Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss the cause and treatment of childhood anxiety with Lynn Lyons, LICSW. Also an overwound Leo, a follow-up about summer camp for kids-of-color, managing kids acquisition of knick knacks, and more.
61 min
116
Chickenpox for the Soul Edition
43 min
117
Professionalized Childhood Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a followup from last week's toxic mother-in-law situation, mean kids, forced activities, the power of Black Panther, Mickey Mouse t-shirt privilege, and much more.
51 min
118
Vintage Suitcase Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a parable of vintage suitcases, valentines in the yellow room, false accusations of serious crimes, lazy dads, and much more.
56 min
119
Secret Twins Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss how to deal with multiple stuffies, whether sexual abuse at camp should worry parents, teaching boys to wash their clothes, the sexism of dress codes and more.
45 min
120
Binky Barter Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace and Katherine Goldstein discuss a mostly successful binky-for-trains program, answer questions about a difficult divorce, and reading, plus more "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
49 min
121
The Fifteen Candles Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a question from a listener about racism in the classroom
42 min
122
Too Cool For School Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth interview Ann Hulbert, author of Off the Charts: The Hidden Lives and Lessons of American Child Prodigies, and take a question from a listener with daddy problems.
44 min
123
Look Who's Back Edition
Carvell Wallace and Gabriel Roth are joined by Allison Benedikt to discuss Ruth Graham's article “My Life Is a Waking Nightmare” about the world of online parenting advice
51 min
124
Becoming Aunt Gertie Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a question from a listener about whether to let an abusive step parent into the life of her children
42 min
125
Potty Camp Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how many performances of Bye Bye Birdie is too many, what's normal around divorced families holidays, and how to potty train without ruining your child.
42 min
126
Spurious Holiday Grinch Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace gather round the podcasting hearth for a holiday edition of Mom and Dad Are Fighting, with holiday-related listener questions and recommendations, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and more.
40 min
127
Your Child is Made of Meat Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss Periscope's problem with online predators with Slate's April Glaser, Rebecca's big news, Carvell's creeping fail, and Gabe's three kiss accident in "Triumphs and Fails" and "Recommendations".
50 min
128
"What's Elf on the Shelf?" Edition
The panel discuss dealing with estranged parents and how to introduce them to your kids, whether following the rules too much is bad for kids, and the joy and sorrow of holiday traditions. Plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
49 min
129
Grandpa Rules Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss their annoyingly triumphant week, how to raise your kids outside of the influence of toxic masculinity, and what to do about a doting grandpa
49 min
130
Who's Your Mommy Edition
The panel discusses the effect of leather jackets on teen boys, why Sartre is so annoying for parents, questions about when it's OK for a kid to call a step-parent "mom" and if giving kids freedom also enables their tantrums
47 min
131
Sadistic Track Coach Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how to deal with verbally abusive dad-coaches, Gabe's not-messed-up weekend with Leo, a question about in-laws whose culture you disagree with, and more in Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
44 min
132
If You Give a Mouse a Handout Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Katherine Goldstein discuss the welfare state critique of To Give a Mouse a Cookie, children's negotiating skills, potty training, Shrinky Dinks, and more.
49 min
133
What's Under the Bed Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss phone etiquette, what to do about a teenage boy's under-bed ephemera, trick or treating, a tough question about a father who doesn't get along with his son, and more.
46 min
134
Your Life Is Terrible Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss carpool politics, daddy's girls, and how late capitalism makes fools of us all in listener questions, "Triumphs and Fails", and recommendations.
41 min
135
Poison Resentment Edition
The panels sits down with John Culhane, author of Slate's Hey, Daddy! column about being a gay dad of twins, plus step-parenting resentments, the sad end of bedtime reading time, Rebecca's new family project, and more.
53 min
136
Some Kids Are Jerks Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth talk to Elissa Strauss about her article in Elle, "The Leftover Embryo Crisis", answer a question about dealing with friends whose kids don't get along with their kids, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
39 min
137
Full Brony Edition
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace discuss broken phones, how to gift an inheritance, My Little Pony: the Movie, and are joined by Slate's Aisha Harris to tackle a tough question about American Girl dolls.
45 min
138
Parental Obsolescence Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace and Gabriel Roth sit down with Suzanne Bouffard, author of THE MOST IMPORTANT YEAR: Pre-Kindergarten and the Future of Our Children to discuss the state of pre-K education. Plus, "triumphs and fails", and recommendations.
55 min
139
Emotional Bloodshed Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss how to deal with a longterm toddler beef, how to feel about well subsidised adult stepchildren, teen street harassment, and more. Plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
58 min
140
The Competitive Step-Parenting Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace answer a call about managing the adult relationships in a step-child's life, and Carvell shares news about his son's computer.
45 min
141
Dude Where's My Carvell Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth answer listener questions about how to help other kids understand her son with Down's Syndrome, and sharing household responsibilities.
41 min
142
Abstraction of Hooptyism Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth discuss the politics of choosing a guardian for your kids and what to do about a daycare center that's been a little lax on vaccines.
47 min
143
Three Fails Edition
Carvell Wallace and Allison Benedikt are joined by Ami Cooper to talk about her experience raising a trans sixth grader. Plus triumphs and fails (spoiler alert: all fails), and recommendations.
39 min
144
Happiest Podcast on Earth Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how to talk to your kids about recent events in Charlottesville Virginia, and whether smartphones are "destroying a generation," with Lisa Guernsey and Janelle Krupicka.
47 min
145
Teenage Fashion Plate Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss choosing a school district in a segregated city, and how to encourage a teen's individual style while keeping their values intact. Plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
39 min
146
Eating Your Feelings Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth discuss whether to worry about a 9-year-old's weight gain, and how to inject some passion into passionless pre-teen. Plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
41 min
147
The Return of the Dan Edition
Carvell Wallace, Nina Aron, and Dan Kois sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Ava Siegler about her new book What Do I Tell My Kids?: Parenting in the Age of Trump, which includes an essay by Dan. Plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
43 min
148
Adventures in Babysitting Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie discuss a very unusual quandary involving the inappropriate email address of their babysitter, plus babysitting in general, triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
47 min
149
Do What You Can Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss raising Muslim kids in America with Rabia Chaudry of the podcast Undisclosed. Plus, what to do about bad kid friends, Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
54 min
150
Happy Independence Day Edition
Carvel Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth take questions about reconciling disparate parenting styles and how to make space for an introverted kid, plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
50 min
151
Aggressive Little Hugger Edition
The panel discusses feedback from last week's question on having a second child, talking to kids about a dying caregiver, and what to do with an aggressive hugger, plus Triumphs and Fails and their recommendations.
42 min
152
Welcome to the Gun Show Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss what to do about a child's growing interest in guns, having two children versus one, plus their Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations.
42 min
153
Teenage Invasion Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace are joined by actual teenager and Carvell's son, Ezra Wallace. They discuss what life is like for a biracial teen, plus triumphs and fails, recommendations and an Ezra lightning round.
35 min
154
Empathy Redux Edition
The panel returns to a poorly-answered listener question about empathy with UCLA post-doctoral researcher Nicole McDonald. Plus recommendations, divorcing uncles, and Triumphs and Fails.
38 min
155
Bureaucratic Nightmare Edition
The panel is joined by Andee Brown to talk about her son's struggle with mental health. Plus, Triumphs and Fails, recommendations, and a listener question about whether to have another child under difficult circumstances.
44 min
156
Here’s Steve Instead of Carvell Edition
Carvell is sick, so Steve Lickteig joins Gabriel Roth, and Rebecca Lavoie to discuss how to teach empathy in young kids and sibling dynamics, plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
39 min
157
Porn, Actually Edition
The panel discusses dealing with media you find problematic and whether it's worth trying to filter it for your kids, the n-word, broken nanny dates, and more, in Triumphs and Fails and Recommendations.
42 min
158
Dude Where's My Car Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace discuss the youtube abuse controversy surrounding DaddyOFive, together time after a divorce, triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
39 min
159
Touchhole Edition
The panel discusses getting back to work after a long absence, post-vacation troubles, and disappearing nannies. Plus, hamster trouble in Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations.
38 min
160
Bible Movies Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting answer listener calls concerning unwanted bible movies and how to explain sibling-relationship boundaries to your kids.
39 min
161
Deathbed Sandwich Generation Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss coping with a dying parent as a parent, plus charades, laid-back husbands, and listening to your kids in our weekly triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
47 min
162
Sperm In Top Hats Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss their favorite parenting hacks and answer a call from a listener struggling to decide if medication is right for her child.
56 min
163
Designer Genes Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss tips for parenting adolescents and the emerging science of birth-related gene selection.
57 min
164
Allison's Viking Funeral Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting say goodby to Allison Benedikt and talk with teacher Matt Dicks about how to get the most from parent-teacher conferences.
58 min
165
Teenage Life Coach Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss how children are now the economic drivers in the household and offer tricks for parents struggling to carve out time for homework.
56 min
166
Child Care War Machine Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss the history of child care and how children often segregate friendships along gender lines by the time they reach preschool age.
47 min
167
The Sad Laura Ashley Bat Mitzvah Dress Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss author Lizzie Skurnick's experience raising a son whose father is a sperm donor and the rules that influence kids on social media.
48 min
168
The Hardest Age Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss raising children through their tumultuous middle-school years and wether Rogue One is too violent for children.
52 min
169
See Ya Dan Kois Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting say goodbye to Dan Kois and interview high school junior Matthew Herrity who's protesting a rezoning that will lead to racial changes at his school.
52 min
170
Unexpected Loss Edition
Mom And Dad Are Fighting talk with Debbie Haine Vijayvergiya, an advocate for stillborn awareness, about her experience delivering a stillborn child.
56 min
171
Trump, Turkey, and Teens Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss how to talk about Trump with your kids and the new movie "The Edge Of Seventeen."
50 min
172
Why Isn't My Kid's Teacher Returning My Texts E...
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss a new OshKosh B'Gosh ad and how to create a non-terrible relationship with your kid's teachers.
45 min
173
Mom's With Her Edition
Allison and Dan ask moms of girls how they're talking to their daughters about the coming Hillary presidency.
42 min
174
The National Clown Threat Edition
Allison and Dan dive deep into the mythology of killer clowns. And RJ Palacio, best-selling author of “Wonder,” stops by the studio to talk about her quest to spread kindness.
48 min
175
The Six Kids and Twelve Nannys Edition
Dan and Allison search for insight into the mystery of Brangelexit by speaking with two members of a real-life big family, Noreen Malone and her mom, Mary Ellen Brennan.
47 min
176
The How Soon Is Too Soon To E-Mail the Teacher ...
Dan and Allison discuss the thorny issue of parent-teacher communication with Matt Dicks.
51 min
177
The Mom and Dad Have Answers Edition
Allison and Dan spelunk deep into their psyches to answer listener calls.
54 min
178
The “Doping for Kids” Edition
Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter are joined by two hosts of Slate’s Hang Up and Listen to discuss how to be a good parent while watching the Olympics.
46 min
179
Mean Girls and Lazy Guys Edition
On today's show Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk with Rosalind Wiseman about the new edition about her classic guide to girls' friendships and discuss the division of household labor.
55 min
180
Blame Dan and Donald
Mom And Dad Are Fighting is taking a break this week. Blame Dan and Donald Trump.
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181
What to Expect When You're Unexpectedly the Fir...
On today's show Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss how to talk to your kids about weight and Dan interviews the soon-to-be First Lady of Iceland.
51 min
182
Tale of Two Cities Edition
On today's show Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter discuss school segregation with The New York Times' Nikole Hannah-Jones and parenting a difficult toddler.
49 min
183
Dads and Dogs Edition
On today's show Allison and Dan discuss putting a family pet asleep and for Father's Day we'll hear stories about dads from Slate staffers.
52 min
184
Extreme Bedtime Edition
On today's show Allison and Dan discuss absurdly early bedtimes for kids and then make some summertime resolutions.
48 min
185
Is Grit Good? Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dan discuss game theory parenting and whether children need grit to succeed.
51 min
186
Mothers and Meddlers Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dan hear stories from Slate staff about their mothers and talk talks with actor Susan Sarandon about motherhood and the movie The Meddler.
49 min
187
Positive Opposites Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dad talk to the owner and chef of a vegan preschool and then debate the latest child psychology trend in parenting discipline of not punishing kids for bad behavior.
43 min
188
Defending Easter Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dad talk with a Brooklyn principal about what to do when parents have a problem with school administrators and then Dan calls the Easter Bunny.
42 min
189
Trump is a Very Bad Man Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dad talk to parents about raising a transgender child and how to talk to your kids about Trump.
47 min
190
Dóna Prump Edition
Dan Kois discusses social media and teens with author Nancy Jo Sales and Black-ish with Slate's Aisha Harris.
41 min
191
Live from Brooklyn Edition
Dan and Allison are live at the Bell House in Brooklyn.
58 min
192
Live Show Lateness
Mom And Dad Are Fighting is going to be late this week.
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Better Get a Shotgun Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the Zika virus with an OBGYN and the new HBO Sesame Street.
47 min
194
The Worst Time for Your Milk to Come In Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss iPads in the classroom and talk with two mothers who had their children days apart.
48 min
195
The Failed Resolutions Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss parenting and money with New York Times columnist Ron Lieber and then check with Slate staffers about how they did on their 2015 New Year's resolutions.
54 min
196
Dan Goes to the Mall Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the Every Child Succeeds Act and Dan goes to the mall to talk with dads about how they really feel about holiday shopping.
41 min
197
The Dear Prudence Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss how to talk with your kids about the terrible news of the world with teacher Matthew Dicks and then Slate's new Dear Prudence columnist Mallory Ortberg answers listeners' parenting questions. Mom and Dad are...
47 min
198
Another Obama Administration Official Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk to education secretary Arne Duncan and discuss passing along faith to your kids when you have none. Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by Prudential's 40/40 Vision,
47 min
199
The Agony of Defeat Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the appropriate screentime for kids and childhood sports heartbreak.   Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little Passports, the award-winning...
47 min
200
Live from Basically The White House Edition
From Washington D.C.'s Woolly Mammoth Theatre Company, Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk with Stephen Thompson of NPR's "Pop Culture Happy Hour" about the joys and pitfalls of passing along your pop culture taste to your children, White House Senior...
66 min