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Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

Parenting
Kids & Family
Society & Culture
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Already Over the Christmas Presents Edition
Slate’s parenting podcast debates whether a kid with gift remorse should get a Switch.
46 min
2
Pretty White Boy Edition
Slate’s parenting podcast debates what to do when colorism affects how your teachers treat your child.
47 min
3
New Year, New Us
Slate’s parenting podcast declares some 2020 parenting resolutions.
44 min
4
Peek Behind the Curtain
Slate’s parenting podcast looks back at some of this year’s best Slate Plus segments.
61 min
5
This Was Not in the Parenting Handbook
Slate’s parenting podcast debates whether a daughter should switch schools to be among students who look like her.
37 min
6
Slate Presents: Lockdown
Living through the era of school shootings, one drill at a time.
24 min
7
Candy Cane Lane
Slate’s parenting podcast debates whether a mother-in-law is stealing all the great Christmas moments with the kids.
57 min
8
Home Alone
Slate’s parenting podcast debates whether kids should be left home while parents vacation in Aruba.
51 min
9
Live from Miami
Slate’s parenting podcast, live on stage with Pamela Paul and Adam Mansbach.
41 min
10
Whoops...A Baby!
Slate’s parenting podcast debates whether a kid should be told they were unwanted.
57 min
11
Keep Your Head Above Water
Slate’s parenting podcast debates whether a reluctant swimmer should continue lessons.
46 min
12
Into the Unknown
Slate’s parenting podcast dreads Elsa’s new big song in Frozen 2.
49 min
13
Parent Under the Influence Edition
Slate’s parenting podcast helps a mom who finds storytime more tolerable after a few
53 min
14
Jesus, Take the Wheel!
Rebecca, Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom who wants to better deal with her kid’s identity and a dad who is insisting his kid learn to drive.
51 min
15
You Need To Calm Down
Rebecca, Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom who wants to know if it really makes a difference whether you yell at your kids and another mom who wants to make sure she doesn’t overshare her mental health issues with her kid.
61 min
16
Breast Milk Taste Test
Rebecca and Dan answer listener questions from a mom struggling with whether it’s okay to offer breast milk to her curious kid and a mom who thinks it’s uncool to be disrupted by a kid during a performance for kids.
34 min
17
Birthday Parties and Birthday Suits
Rebecca. Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a a mom disagreeing with a father about their young boys showering with her and a mom who thinks her child’s unsupportive father shouldn’t be invited to a birthday party.
53 min
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Introducing Hang Up and Listen: Kids Play the D...
40 min
19
Suburban Appropriation
Rebecca. Jamilah and Amy answer listener questions from a questioning the appropriateness of a local organization and a mom who wants her husband to be better about raising a body positive child.
50 min
20
Sponsored: It's a Playdate
25 min
21
Wrap It Up
Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom who is feeling anxious about her teenager wanting to buy condoms and a co-parenting dad who has some concerns.
42 min
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How to Be a Family Edition
A very special bonus episode about Dan’s journey around the world and his new book.
63 min
23
Back To Work and Back To School
Rebecca, Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom who is worried she won’t be able to do it all and a mom who wants to keep her parents from putting her kid into a gender box.
46 min
24
Introducing How To! With Charles Duhigg
Mom and Dad listeners, we think you'll enjoy this episode of How To! With Charles Duhigg
28 min
25
Bittersweet
Rebecca, Jamilah and Faith answer listener questions from an aunt struggling to confront her niece’s traumatic experience and a non-parent that wants to be more useful to her friends with kids.
39 min
26
Am I A Spoiled Brat?
Rebecca, Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom that wants her mother to be more supportive an a worried grandma who is looking for the right way to have a tough conversation with a child.
47 min
27
Favorite Grandma
49 min
28
EuroTrip
Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom that’s having second thoughts about a second kid and a mom whose kid wants to travel across Europe.
48 min
29
What's Up With All Those Nannies?
Rebecca, Jamilah, and Tom answer listener questions from a mom that doesn’t seem to understand the need for nannies and a mom that wants to have more inclusive birthday parties.
52 min
30
Playground Beer
Dan, Rebecca, and Jamilah answer listener questions from an introverted dad who wants to raise a social kid and from atheist parents struggling with attending events at their local evangelical university.
51 min
31
Exclusive Besties
The hosts answer listener questions about exclusive best friends and a kid that uses an offensive word during a fight.
50 min
32
Carpool Liability Waiver
The hosts answer listener questions about a mom who has some strong concerns about their kid carpooling and a friend who’s worried that they might be overstepping.
42 min
33
Fish and Candy
The hosts answer listener questions about a mom who wants to know what to do about a sort of stepson and another about a kid who’s hanging out with a kid that counts calories.
53 min
34
What's Up With Your Boyfriend?
The hosts answer listener questions about a mom who wants to know what to do about a sexist boyfriend and a mom who wants to know what to do about her kid being left out in the dark after hanging with a friend.
37 min
35
Teen in Need
The hosts answer listener questions about a teen in need of some support about their sensitive mom and what to do about a little that likes dressing up as problematic princesses.
47 min
36
Don't Forget Grandpa
The hosts answers listener questions about a mother who wants to ensure her kids remember their grandpa after he passes and the importance of table manners at dinner.
57 min
37
Bed, Bath, and Biting Edition
The hosts answers listener questions about what to do when your kid refuses to shower and a kid that refuses to stop biting.
45 min
38
Dan Kois Returns Edition
The hosts answers listener questions about what to do with your kid that refuses everything, even the fun stuff, and another about what it even means to have siblings. We also welcome Dan Kois back to the show.
53 min
39
Pollen Prank Edition
The hosts answer a listener question about what actually matters when parenting your kid. We also say farewell to Gabe and Carvell.
58 min
40
Theatrical Charlatan Edition
Gabe and Carvell interview podcaster and author Theresa Thorn about her upcoming picture book, It Feels Good To Be Yourself: A Book about Gender Identity and answer a listener question about a narcissistic theatre teacher.
45 min
41
Violating The Uber Pool Code Edition
Gabe, Carvell, and Rebecca answer a listener question about what to tell your kids when you’re getting a divorce but staying in the same home.
47 min
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Washing Dishes on an Infomercial Edition
Dan, Carvell, and Rebecca interview Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership, about her article in The New York Times, “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With,” and we answer a listener question about what to do about a mean teenager.
63 min
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Stupid Box Edition
Gabe and Rebecca answer listener questions on what to do after you discover your kid isn’t a child prodigy and how to get your teen to maybe surf waves instead of the internet.
44 min
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On The Table Edition
Ruth, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions on when to consider getting a vasectomy and how to make sure your kid doesn’t become obsessed with their looks.
46 min
45
The Frank Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions on how to set rules for adults at a one-year old’s birthday party and what to do when parents project their childhood traumas onto to their kids.
50 min
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Teenager Under the Bed Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about when to limit a five year old’s Batman intake and if parents should settle for second best when it comes to kid car seats.
45 min
47
Pre-School Nemesis Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about communicating with an ex-spouse's family after divorce and what to do about challenges between a stepdad and kid.
41 min
48
Ages Ten And Up Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and guest host Katherine answer listener questions about putting the pressure on your kid after getting into a prestige school and solutions on getting your kids to play nice with each other.
42 min
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Make The Chicken Dance Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about the looming fear of talking with your kid about death and if it's okay if your ten year-old is into Amy Winehouse and other adult things.
51 min
50
Free Lunch Edition
Rebecca and Isaac talk with the authors of the book Pressure Cooker: Why Home Cooking Won't Solve Our Problems and What We Can Do About It and answer a listener question about placing your kids in a religious pre-school.
45 min
51
Broken Promises Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss follow-up to the piña colada censorship story, husbands that break promises, estranged fathers, and more.
55 min
52
CSI: American Girl Doll Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss temporary visiting dog fails, teacher's strikes, doll-related crime scenes, bedwetting at science camp, and husbands in need of encouragement.
44 min
53
Presenting Decoder Ring: Baby Shark
Decoder Ring is Slate's culture documentary show and this month they have an episode on a subject of special interest to Mom and Dad Are Fighting listeners: Baby Shark.
38 min
54
Do You Like Pina Coladas? Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie are joined by Katherine Goldstein to talk about her brand new podcast The Double Shift, a show about working mothers.
48 min
55
Marching Band Clown Pants Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a trio of parenting fails, a really tough question about telling your kid that her dad isn't her biological dad, and another about a kid that has to be winning at all times.
51 min
56
Toddler Rabies Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace receive a transmission direct from the scene of a temper tantrum, and discuss a question about telling your kids about estranged parents. Plus, learn which member of the Lavoie household is officially a narc.
54 min
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What Next: Anti-Vaxxers Brought Back the Measles
16 min
58
Pesto in a Tub Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss Gabe's greatest-of-all-time parenting triumph, opening up to your kids, making it to year sixteen, whether divorced parents have it easier, and the anxiety of being an older parent.
47 min
59
Mom and Dad Are Fighting: This Job Sucks Edition
46 min
60
Introducing Josie & Jonny are Having a Baby (Wi...
2 min
61
Grandma Inception Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss picky eaters with The Sporkful's Dan Pashman, a listener question about kids and creative problem solving, "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
55 min
62
Accidental Beauties Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Isaac Butler discuss tyrannical grandmas, musical bribery, triumphs and fails, recommendations, and more.
57 min
63
Behind the Velvet Rope Edition
Gabriel Roth hosts a cultivated selection of some favorite Slate Plus segments to ring in the new year, featuring Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, Allison Benedikt, and Isaac Butler.
42 min
64
Friend Zone Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace are prompted by a Washington Post series of three stories about raising boys in the #MeToo era to discuss teenagers, modern masculinity, "the friend zone", and more.
52 min
65
Time Is My Co-Parent Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss the role of step parents, and their relationships to the birth parents of their step-kids.
40 min
66
Welcome to the Man Cave Edition
On this week’s episode, Carvell and Gabe discuss an accidental dirty joke fail while getting a Christmas tree and a rare bureaucratic triumph.
40 min
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Introducing: Who Runs That?
36 min
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Parent Like it's 1985 Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss whether to confront an overprotective daycare, how to make sure your kids aren't "the mean ones", Triumphs and Fails, "endorsements" and more.
47 min
69
Family Game Night Edition
Carvell, Rebecca, and Gabe are joined by Noel Murray to discuss Slate’s new package on family games: the best, the worst, and more, including Rebecca’s spirited defense of the game Clue.
54 min
70
Nerf Gun Fantasy Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Mary Harris discuss Gabe's annual Autumn Sing fail, Carvell's new job as a PA on his son's film, Mary's daughter's competitive , Nerf Gun Christmas gifts, and more.
41 min
71
Grandma's Baggage Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss an academic turnaround in the Lavoie household, Californian air quality, a kid's dislike his grandma, and a tough question about the life of an unsupported military mom.
54 min
72
Weed Stash Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss what to do when your teenager discovers your weed stash, some major parenting fails, recommendations, and more.
43 min
73
Patronising Mirth Edition
Gabriel Roth and Rebecca Lavoie discuss a recent Slate article attacking THIS VERY PODCAST with the writer, Rebecca Onion. Also, empty thermoses, parent teacher conferences, and a question about sleepovers and night terrors
41 min
74
Don't Go to France Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace answer a listener question about a 6-year-old who's getting a little too close to her boyfriend. Then they decide whether it makes sense to bring a newborn baby along for an overseas vacation
42 min
75
Don't Look Free Childcare in the Mouth Edition
This week: Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss homework triumphs, a followup on yelling, questions about watching your insecurities play out in your children, and whether to get on grandma's case for letting the kids watch screens.
46 min
76
Cold Turkey Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss YELLING! and other subjects including kids mocking the weight of their teachers, the privilege conversation, stolen cell phones, and making sick days fun.
54 min
77
Frivolous With Money Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss questions about kids and divorce, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
52 min
78
Get It Together Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie discuss surprising teen triumphs, depressing school lunches, the boredom of tears, and more.
45 min
79
SPECIAL: Surviving a School Shooting, From a Te...
SPECIAL: Surviving a School Shooting, From a Teacher's Point of View
30 min
80
Toxic Preschool Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Steve Lickteig discuss (relatively) late-in-life bicycle lessons, correcting your kid's college essays, toxic masculinity, a potentially toxic preschool teacher, and more.
45 min
81
Recovering Fruitbat Edtion
Carvell Wallace, Isaac Butler, and Ruth Graham discuss how to get your kid to go to sleep already, angry-driving with fussing toddlers, letting go of expectations around your kids, and the ethics of breaking into your teenager's phone.
50 min
82
Kidnappers Not Going to Let Me Use My Phone! Ed...
The panel discusses the tyranny of demanding teens charge their phones, beginning of school-blues, balancing time between kids, and an interview with Slate's Rebecca Onion about how parenting groups are making it impossible to leave Facebook
48 min
83
Age of Fear Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace talk to Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, as well as a listener question about a neighbor on the sex-offender registry, plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
63 min
84
Bad Grandpa Edition
Carvell Wallace, Dan Kois, and Katherine Goldstein discuss listener questions about dealing with a chauvinist grandpa and how and when to talk to your kids about a conspicuous confederate flag on the side of the interstate.
53 min
85
Call Me By Your Screen Name Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a fun game about getting kicked in the face, what it means when children lie for attention, and whether a 17 year old boy should be dating a 25 year old man via Tinder.
47 min
86
Eighth Grade Edition
Allison Benedikt, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss taxidermied animals, being without your kids, summer camp compromises, a listener question about whether to take a young child on a trip to Africa, and the film "Eighth Grade"
44 min
87
Sponsored: Coffee & Crayons Episode 1: Teaching...
A co-production between Target and Slate Studios, this is Coffee & Crayons, a podcast about navigating the highs and lows of back to school time.
27 min
88
Sand Couch Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace continue the conversation about King Kong and the gorilla suit, discuss sand couches, teen films, feminist slogans on two year old boy's t-shirts, and the grooming habits of teenage boys.
56 min
89
Guy in a Gorilla Suit Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and guest host Dana Stevens discuss the difficulty of homespun ABBA cover sessions, trusting teens, perfectionist tennis lessons, bad dads, and more.
54 min
90
Blockchain Baby Names Edition
The panel discusses how to pick a baby's last name, the allure of Avenger's pajamas, salvaging a love of baseball out of a personal hatred, driving in cars with teens, and how to deal when your boy keeps getting called a girl at school.
54 min
91
Accidental Drunkenness Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss mysterious sibling bonding, weird eye infections, relatives who bully kids, and younger sibling-induced touchiness.
50 min
92
Co-Parenting Conundrum Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss haunted AirBnBs, California kids, overbearing mom-reminders, low-key deadbeat dads, co-parenting responsibilities, screen time habits to model for your kids, and more.
43 min
93
Summer Break Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss summer break! Is it better to structure your kid's summers or let them veg out?
37 min
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How to Take Summers Off and Still Get Promoted
30 min
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Do More Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss the situation at the border, anti-mom bias in the workplace with Katherine Goldstein, how not to model vices for your kids, and more.
51 min
96
Easy Baby Envy Edition
The panel discusses feeling envious of parents who's parenting comes easily, how to rearrange a physical household post-divorce, new college scholarships, the diversity of the senate page program, and kids birthday party gift-opening etiquette.
46 min
97
Make Daycare Great Again Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Sam Adams discuss whether one should employ the services of a Trump supporting day-care, what to do about bath-supply snatching kids, high school graduations, guitar lessons, and much more
42 min
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Circumcision Conundrum Edition
This week we're joined by Wendy Zukerman of the podcast Science Vs. to discuss the science and ethics behind circumcision, plus failed video shoots, painting bedrooms on vacation, too-voracious readers, where babies come from, and much more.
53 min
99
Existential Tantrum Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss Carvell's kids anti-authoritarian tendencies, what it means to be "Henry's mom", a tough question about a manipulative ex husband, and how to deal with tantrums when you're depressed, anxious, and pregnant.
53 min
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Great Grandma Name Debate Edition
50 min