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Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.
Kids & Family
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Violating The Uber Pool Code Edition
Gabe, Carvell, and Rebecca answer a listener question about what to tell your kids when you’re getting a divorce but staying in the same home.
47 min
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Washing Dishes on an Infomercial Edition
Dan, Carvell, and Rebecca interview Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership, about her article in The New York Times, “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With,” and we answer a listener question about what to do about a mean teenager.
63 min
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Stupid Box Edition
Gabe and Rebecca answer listener questions on what to do after you discover your kid isn’t a child prodigy and how to get your teen to maybe surf waves instead of the internet.
44 min
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On The Table Edition
Ruth, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions on when to consider getting a vasectomy and how to make sure your kid doesn’t become obsessed with their looks.
46 min
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The Frank Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions on how to set rules for adults at a one-year old’s birthday party and what to do when parents project their childhood traumas onto to their kids.
50 min
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Teenager Under the Bed Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about when to limit a five year old’s Batman intake and if parents should settle for second best when it comes to kid car seats.
45 min
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Pre-School Nemesis Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about communicating with an ex-spouse's family after divorce and what to do about challenges between a stepdad and kid.
41 min
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Ages Ten And Up Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and guest host Katherine answer listener questions about putting the pressure on your kid after getting into a prestige school and solutions on getting your kids to play nice with each other.
42 min
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Make The Chicken Dance Edition
Rebecca, Gabe, and Carvell answer listener questions about the looming fear of talking with your kid about death and if it's okay if your ten year-old is into Amy Winehouse and other adult things.
51 min
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Free Lunch Edition
Rebecca and Isaac talk with the authors of the book Pressure Cooker: Why Home Cooking Won't Solve Our Problems and What We Can Do About It and answer a listener question about placing your kids in a religious pre-school.
45 min
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Broken Promises Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss follow-up to the piña colada censorship story, husbands that break promises, estranged fathers, and more.
55 min
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CSI: American Girl Doll Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss temporary visiting dog fails, teacher's strikes, doll-related crime scenes, bedwetting at science camp, and husbands in need of encouragement.
44 min
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Presenting Decoder Ring: Baby Shark
Decoder Ring is Slate's culture documentary show and this month they have an episode on a subject of special interest to Mom and Dad Are Fighting listeners: Baby Shark.
38 min
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Do You Like Pina Coladas? Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie are joined by Katherine Goldstein to talk about her brand new podcast The Double Shift, a show about working mothers.
48 min
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Marching Band Clown Pants Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a trio of parenting fails, a really tough question about telling your kid that her dad isn't her biological dad, and another about a kid that has to be winning at all times.
51 min
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Toddler Rabies Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace receive a transmission direct from the scene of a temper tantrum, and discuss a question about telling your kids about estranged parents. Plus, learn which member of the Lavoie household is officially a narc.
54 min
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What Next: Anti-Vaxxers Brought Back the Measles
16 min
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Pesto in a Tub Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss Gabe's greatest-of-all-time parenting triumph, opening up to your kids, making it to year sixteen, whether divorced parents have it easier, and the anxiety of being an older parent.
47 min
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Mom and Dad Are Fighting: This Job Sucks Edition
46 min
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Introducing Josie & Jonny are Having a Baby (Wi...
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Grandma Inception Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss picky eaters with The Sporkful's Dan Pashman, a listener question about kids and creative problem solving, "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
55 min
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Accidental Beauties Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Isaac Butler discuss tyrannical grandmas, musical bribery, triumphs and fails, recommendations, and more.
57 min
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Behind the Velvet Rope Edition
Gabriel Roth hosts a cultivated selection of some favorite Slate Plus segments to ring in the new year, featuring Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, Allison Benedikt, and Isaac Butler.
42 min
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Friend Zone Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace are prompted by a Washington Post series of three stories about raising boys in the #MeToo era to discuss teenagers, modern masculinity, "the friend zone", and more.
52 min
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Time Is My Co-Parent Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss the role of step parents, and their relationships to the birth parents of their step-kids.
40 min
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Welcome to the Man Cave Edition
On this week’s episode, Carvell and Gabe discuss an accidental dirty joke fail while getting a Christmas tree and a rare bureaucratic triumph.
40 min
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Introducing: Who Runs That?
36 min
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Parent Like it's 1985 Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss whether to confront an overprotective daycare, how to make sure your kids aren't "the mean ones", Triumphs and Fails, "endorsements" and more.
47 min
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Family Game Night Edition
Carvell, Rebecca, and Gabe are joined by Noel Murray to discuss Slate’s new package on family games: the best, the worst, and more, including Rebecca’s spirited defense of the game Clue.
54 min
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Nerf Gun Fantasy Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Mary Harris discuss Gabe's annual Autumn Sing fail, Carvell's new job as a PA on his son's film, Mary's daughter's competitive , Nerf Gun Christmas gifts, and more.
41 min
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Grandma's Baggage Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss an academic turnaround in the Lavoie household, Californian air quality, a kid's dislike his grandma, and a tough question about the life of an unsupported military mom.
54 min
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Weed Stash Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss what to do when your teenager discovers your weed stash, some major parenting fails, recommendations, and more.
43 min
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Patronising Mirth Edition
Gabriel Roth and Rebecca Lavoie discuss a recent Slate article attacking THIS VERY PODCAST with the writer, Rebecca Onion. Also, empty thermoses, parent teacher conferences, and a question about sleepovers and night terrors
41 min
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Don't Go to France Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace answer a listener question about a 6-year-old who's getting a little too close to her boyfriend. Then they decide whether it makes sense to bring a newborn baby along for an overseas vacation
42 min
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Don't Look Free Childcare in the Mouth Edition
This week: Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss homework triumphs, a followup on yelling, questions about watching your insecurities play out in your children, and whether to get on grandma's case for letting the kids watch screens.
46 min
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Cold Turkey Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss YELLING! and other subjects including kids mocking the weight of their teachers, the privilege conversation, stolen cell phones, and making sick days fun.
54 min
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Frivolous With Money Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss questions about kids and divorce, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
52 min
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Get It Together Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie discuss surprising teen triumphs, depressing school lunches, the boredom of tears, and more.
45 min
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SPECIAL: Surviving a School Shooting, From a Te...
SPECIAL: Surviving a School Shooting, From a Teacher's Point of View
30 min
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Toxic Preschool Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Steve Lickteig discuss (relatively) late-in-life bicycle lessons, correcting your kid's college essays, toxic masculinity, a potentially toxic preschool teacher, and more.
45 min
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Recovering Fruitbat Edtion
Carvell Wallace, Isaac Butler, and Ruth Graham discuss how to get your kid to go to sleep already, angry-driving with fussing toddlers, letting go of expectations around your kids, and the ethics of breaking into your teenager's phone.
50 min
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Kidnappers Not Going to Let Me Use My Phone! Ed...
The panel discusses the tyranny of demanding teens charge their phones, beginning of school-blues, balancing time between kids, and an interview with Slate's Rebecca Onion about how parenting groups are making it impossible to leave Facebook
48 min
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Age of Fear Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace talk to Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, as well as a listener question about a neighbor on the sex-offender registry, plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
63 min
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Bad Grandpa Edition
Carvell Wallace, Dan Kois, and Katherine Goldstein discuss listener questions about dealing with a chauvinist grandpa and how and when to talk to your kids about a conspicuous confederate flag on the side of the interstate.
53 min
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Call Me By Your Screen Name Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a fun game about getting kicked in the face, what it means when children lie for attention, and whether a 17 year old boy should be dating a 25 year old man via Tinder.
47 min
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Eighth Grade Edition
Allison Benedikt, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss taxidermied animals, being without your kids, summer camp compromises, a listener question about whether to take a young child on a trip to Africa, and the film "Eighth Grade"
44 min
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Sponsored: Coffee & Crayons Episode 1: Teaching...
A co-production between Target and Slate Studios, this is Coffee & Crayons, a podcast about navigating the highs and lows of back to school time.
27 min
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Sand Couch Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace continue the conversation about King Kong and the gorilla suit, discuss sand couches, teen films, feminist slogans on two year old boy's t-shirts, and the grooming habits of teenage boys.
56 min
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Guy in a Gorilla Suit Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and guest host Dana Stevens discuss the difficulty of homespun ABBA cover sessions, trusting teens, perfectionist tennis lessons, bad dads, and more.
54 min
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Blockchain Baby Names Edition
The panel discusses how to pick a baby's last name, the allure of Avenger's pajamas, salvaging a love of baseball out of a personal hatred, driving in cars with teens, and how to deal when your boy keeps getting called a girl at school.
54 min
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Accidental Drunkenness Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss mysterious sibling bonding, weird eye infections, relatives who bully kids, and younger sibling-induced touchiness.
50 min
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Co-Parenting Conundrum Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss haunted AirBnBs, California kids, overbearing mom-reminders, low-key deadbeat dads, co-parenting responsibilities, screen time habits to model for your kids, and more.
43 min
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Summer Break Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss summer break! Is it better to structure your kid's summers or let them veg out?
37 min
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How to Take Summers Off and Still Get Promoted
30 min
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Do More Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss the situation at the border, anti-mom bias in the workplace with Katherine Goldstein, how not to model vices for your kids, and more.
51 min
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Easy Baby Envy Edition
The panel discusses feeling envious of parents who's parenting comes easily, how to rearrange a physical household post-divorce, new college scholarships, the diversity of the senate page program, and kids birthday party gift-opening etiquette.
46 min
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Make Daycare Great Again Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Sam Adams discuss whether one should employ the services of a Trump supporting day-care, what to do about bath-supply snatching kids, high school graduations, guitar lessons, and much more
42 min
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Circumcision Conundrum Edition
This week we're joined by Wendy Zukerman of the podcast Science Vs. to discuss the science and ethics behind circumcision, plus failed video shoots, painting bedrooms on vacation, too-voracious readers, where babies come from, and much more.
53 min
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Existential Tantrum Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss Carvell's kids anti-authoritarian tendencies, what it means to be "Henry's mom", a tough question about a manipulative ex husband, and how to deal with tantrums when you're depressed, anxious, and pregnant.
53 min
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Great Grandma Name Debate Edition
50 min
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Make Your Own Dang Breakfast Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Dan Kois discuss sibling solidarity in the face of morning lateness, new solutions to those morning routines, difficult parents and destination events, and the effect of a parent's mental illness on their children
50 min
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Four Wheelers and a Hot Tub Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss the danger inherent in eating watermelon rinds, kid's bad taste in music, if and how to forbid teens from having sex, the rudeness of texting, and more.
44 min
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Joyless Slog Edition
They panel discusses kid anger fails, reading getting in the way of basic life functions, the joy of barely passing German class, the joyless slog of the early parenting years, and what to do about teens and drinking and the friends they drink with.
48 min
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Falling Piano Edition
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace are joined by Marlo Mack of the How to be a Girl podcast to discuss whether a mom should push her ex-husband to allow their transgender son to start taking hormones
54 min
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Reservoir Puppies Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss reluctant playdates, college manipulation, digital loss in the iCloud, how to have a familial relationship with your step-son, kids noticing violence on TV, and much more.
53 min
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Fascist Haircut Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss raising children of a different skin color from your own, whether we should allow kids to have fascist haircuts, spring break schedules, Dungeons & Dragons, bro dates, and more.
53 min
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Anonymous Sex Question Box Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss the terror of not teaching a child to ride a bike, Rebecca's "beautiful" daughter, fluids, and a difficult question about a child with a potential and non-specific disability.
38 min
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Technological Dystopia Edition
Carvell Wallace, Gabriel Roth, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss an educational math game called Prodigy, and how to deal with a kid's potential over-interest in a video game
49 min
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Simpering Airhead Mermaid Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Katherine Goldstein discuss failed voice lessons, resigning yourself to chicken nuggets, dude time, what to do about sexist cartoons, how to cope with friends with bad parenting technique, plus recommendations and more.
43 min
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Minimalist Hellscape Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss the cause and treatment of childhood anxiety with Lynn Lyons, LICSW. Also an overwound Leo, a follow-up about summer camp for kids-of-color, managing kids acquisition of knick knacks, and more.
61 min
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Chickenpox for the Soul Edition
43 min
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Professionalized Childhood Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a followup from last week's toxic mother-in-law situation, mean kids, forced activities, the power of Black Panther, Mickey Mouse t-shirt privilege, and much more.
51 min
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Vintage Suitcase Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a parable of vintage suitcases, valentines in the yellow room, false accusations of serious crimes, lazy dads, and much more.
56 min
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Secret Twins Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss how to deal with multiple stuffies, whether sexual abuse at camp should worry parents, teaching boys to wash their clothes, the sexism of dress codes and more.
45 min
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Binky Barter Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace and Katherine Goldstein discuss a mostly successful binky-for-trains program, answer questions about a difficult divorce, and reading, plus more "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
49 min
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The Fifteen Candles Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a question from a listener about racism in the classroom
42 min
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Too Cool For School Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth interview Ann Hulbert, author of Off the Charts: The Hidden Lives and Lessons of American Child Prodigies, and take a question from a listener with daddy problems.
44 min
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Look Who's Back Edition
Carvell Wallace and Gabriel Roth are joined by Allison Benedikt to discuss Ruth Graham's article “My Life Is a Waking Nightmare” about the world of online parenting advice
51 min
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Becoming Aunt Gertie Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss a question from a listener about whether to let an abusive step parent into the life of her children
42 min
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Potty Camp Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how many performances of Bye Bye Birdie is too many, what's normal around divorced families holidays, and how to potty train without ruining your child.
42 min
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Spurious Holiday Grinch Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace gather round the podcasting hearth for a holiday edition of Mom and Dad Are Fighting, with holiday-related listener questions and recommendations, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and more.
40 min
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Your Child is Made of Meat Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss Periscope's problem with online predators with Slate's April Glaser, Rebecca's big news, Carvell's creeping fail, and Gabe's three kiss accident in "Triumphs and Fails" and "Recommendations".
50 min
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"What's Elf on the Shelf?" Edition
The panel discuss dealing with estranged parents and how to introduce them to your kids, whether following the rules too much is bad for kids, and the joy and sorrow of holiday traditions. Plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
49 min
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Grandpa Rules Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss their annoyingly triumphant week, how to raise your kids outside of the influence of toxic masculinity, and what to do about a doting grandpa
49 min
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Who's Your Mommy Edition
The panel discusses the effect of leather jackets on teen boys, why Sartre is so annoying for parents, questions about when it's OK for a kid to call a step-parent "mom" and if giving kids freedom also enables their tantrums
47 min
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Sadistic Track Coach Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how to deal with verbally abusive dad-coaches, Gabe's not-messed-up weekend with Leo, a question about in-laws whose culture you disagree with, and more in Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
44 min
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If You Give a Mouse a Handout Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Katherine Goldstein discuss the welfare state critique of To Give a Mouse a Cookie, children's negotiating skills, potty training, Shrinky Dinks, and more.
49 min
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What's Under the Bed Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth discuss phone etiquette, what to do about a teenage boy's under-bed ephemera, trick or treating, a tough question about a father who doesn't get along with his son, and more.
46 min
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Your Life Is Terrible Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss carpool politics, daddy's girls, and how late capitalism makes fools of us all in listener questions, "Triumphs and Fails", and recommendations.
41 min
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Poison Resentment Edition
The panels sits down with John Culhane, author of Slate's Hey, Daddy! column about being a gay dad of twins, plus step-parenting resentments, the sad end of bedtime reading time, Rebecca's new family project, and more.
53 min
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Some Kids Are Jerks Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth talk to Elissa Strauss about her article in Elle, "The Leftover Embryo Crisis", answer a question about dealing with friends whose kids don't get along with their kids, plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
39 min
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Full Brony Edition
Gabriel Roth and Carvell Wallace discuss broken phones, how to gift an inheritance, My Little Pony: the Movie, and are joined by Slate's Aisha Harris to tackle a tough question about American Girl dolls.
45 min
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Parental Obsolescence Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace and Gabriel Roth sit down with Suzanne Bouffard, author of THE MOST IMPORTANT YEAR: Pre-Kindergarten and the Future of Our Children to discuss the state of pre-K education. Plus, "triumphs and fails", and recommendations.
55 min
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Emotional Bloodshed Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace, and Rebecca Lavoie discuss how to deal with a longterm toddler beef, how to feel about well subsidised adult stepchildren, teen street harassment, and more. Plus "Triumphs and Fails" and recommendations.
58 min
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The Competitive Step-Parenting Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace answer a call about managing the adult relationships in a step-child's life, and Carvell shares news about his son's computer.
45 min
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Dude Where's My Carvell Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth answer listener questions about how to help other kids understand her son with Down's Syndrome, and sharing household responsibilities.
41 min
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Abstraction of Hooptyism Edition
Carvell Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth discuss the politics of choosing a guardian for your kids and what to do about a daycare center that's been a little lax on vaccines.
47 min
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Three Fails Edition
Carvell Wallace and Allison Benedikt are joined by Ami Cooper to talk about her experience raising a trans sixth grader. Plus triumphs and fails (spoiler alert: all fails), and recommendations.
39 min
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Happiest Podcast on Earth Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss how to talk to your kids about recent events in Charlottesville Virginia, and whether smartphones are "destroying a generation," with Lisa Guernsey and Janelle Krupicka.
47 min
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Teenage Fashion Plate Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace discuss choosing a school district in a segregated city, and how to encourage a teen's individual style while keeping their values intact. Plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
39 min
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Eating Your Feelings Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Gabriel Roth discuss whether to worry about a 9-year-old's weight gain, and how to inject some passion into passionless pre-teen. Plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
41 min
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The Return of the Dan Edition
Carvell Wallace, Nina Aron, and Dan Kois sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Ava Siegler about her new book What Do I Tell My Kids?: Parenting in the Age of Trump, which includes an essay by Dan. Plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
43 min
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Adventures in Babysitting Edition
Gabriel Roth, Carvell Wallace and Rebecca Lavoie discuss a very unusual quandary involving the inappropriate email address of their babysitter, plus babysitting in general, triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
47 min
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Do What You Can Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss raising Muslim kids in America with Rabia Chaudry of the podcast Undisclosed. Plus, what to do about bad kid friends, Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
54 min
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Happy Independence Day Edition
Carvel Wallace, Rebecca Lavoie, and Gabriel Roth take questions about reconciling disparate parenting styles and how to make space for an introverted kid, plus Triumphs and Fails and recommendations.
50 min
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Aggressive Little Hugger Edition
The panel discusses feedback from last week's question on having a second child, talking to kids about a dying caregiver, and what to do with an aggressive hugger, plus Triumphs and Fails and their recommendations.
42 min
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Welcome to the Gun Show Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Carvell Wallace, and Gabriel Roth discuss what to do about a child's growing interest in guns, having two children versus one, plus their Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations.
42 min
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Teenage Invasion Edition
Rebecca Lavoie and Carvell Wallace are joined by actual teenager and Carvell's son, Ezra Wallace. They discuss what life is like for a biracial teen, plus triumphs and fails, recommendations and an Ezra lightning round.
35 min
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Empathy Redux Edition
The panel returns to a poorly-answered listener question about empathy with UCLA post-doctoral researcher Nicole McDonald. Plus recommendations, divorcing uncles, and Triumphs and Fails.
38 min
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Bureaucratic Nightmare Edition
The panel is joined by Andee Brown to talk about her son's struggle with mental health. Plus, Triumphs and Fails, recommendations, and a listener question about whether to have another child under difficult circumstances.
44 min
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Here’s Steve Instead of Carvell Edition
Carvell is sick, so Steve Lickteig joins Gabriel Roth, and Rebecca Lavoie to discuss how to teach empathy in young kids and sibling dynamics, plus triumphs and fails and recommendations.
39 min
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Porn, Actually Edition
The panel discusses dealing with media you find problematic and whether it's worth trying to filter it for your kids, the n-word, broken nanny dates, and more, in Triumphs and Fails and Recommendations.
42 min
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Dude Where's My Car Edition
Rebecca Lavoie, Gabriel Roth, and Carvell Wallace discuss the youtube abuse controversy surrounding DaddyOFive, together time after a divorce, triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
39 min
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Touchhole Edition
The panel discusses getting back to work after a long absence, post-vacation troubles, and disappearing nannies. Plus, hamster trouble in Triumphs and Fails, and recommendations.
38 min
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Bible Movies Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting answer listener calls concerning unwanted bible movies and how to explain sibling-relationship boundaries to your kids.
39 min
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Deathbed Sandwich Generation Edition
Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace discuss coping with a dying parent as a parent, plus charades, laid-back husbands, and listening to your kids in our weekly triumphs and fails, and recommendations.
47 min
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Sperm In Top Hats Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss their favorite parenting hacks and answer a call from a listener struggling to decide if medication is right for her child.
56 min
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Designer Genes Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss tips for parenting adolescents and the emerging science of birth-related gene selection.
57 min
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Allison's Viking Funeral Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting say goodby to Allison Benedikt and talk with teacher Matt Dicks about how to get the most from parent-teacher conferences.
58 min
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Teenage Life Coach Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss how children are now the economic drivers in the household and offer tricks for parents struggling to carve out time for homework.
56 min
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Child Care War Machine Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss the history of child care and how children often segregate friendships along gender lines by the time they reach preschool age.
47 min
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The Sad Laura Ashley Bat Mitzvah Dress Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss author Lizzie Skurnick's experience raising a son whose father is a sperm donor and the rules that influence kids on social media.
48 min
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The Hardest Age Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss raising children through their tumultuous middle-school years and wether Rogue One is too violent for children.
52 min
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See Ya Dan Kois Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting say goodbye to Dan Kois and interview high school junior Matthew Herrity who's protesting a rezoning that will lead to racial changes at his school.
52 min
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Unexpected Loss Edition
Mom And Dad Are Fighting talk with Debbie Haine Vijayvergiya, an advocate for stillborn awareness, about her experience delivering a stillborn child.
56 min
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Trump, Turkey, and Teens Edition
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss how to talk about Trump with your kids and the new movie "The Edge Of Seventeen."
50 min
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Why Isn't My Kid's Teacher Returning My Texts E...
Mom and Dad Are Fighting discuss a new OshKosh B'Gosh ad and how to create a non-terrible relationship with your kid's teachers.
45 min
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Mom's With Her Edition
Allison and Dan ask moms of girls how they're talking to their daughters about the coming Hillary presidency.
42 min
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The National Clown Threat Edition
Allison and Dan dive deep into the mythology of killer clowns. And RJ Palacio, best-selling author of “Wonder,” stops by the studio to talk about her quest to spread kindness.
48 min
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The Six Kids and Twelve Nannys Edition
Dan and Allison search for insight into the mystery of Brangelexit by speaking with two members of a real-life big family, Noreen Malone and her mom, Mary Ellen Brennan.
47 min
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The How Soon Is Too Soon To E-Mail the Teacher ...
Dan and Allison discuss the thorny issue of parent-teacher communication with Matt Dicks.
51 min
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The Mom and Dad Have Answers Edition
Allison and Dan spelunk deep into their psyches to answer listener calls.
54 min
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The “Doping for Kids” Edition
Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter are joined by two hosts of Slate’s Hang Up and Listen to discuss how to be a good parent while watching the Olympics.
46 min
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Mean Girls and Lazy Guys Edition
On today's show Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk with Rosalind Wiseman about the new edition about her classic guide to girls' friendships and discuss the division of household labor.
55 min
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Blame Dan and Donald
Mom And Dad Are Fighting is taking a break this week. Blame Dan and Donald Trump.
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What to Expect When You're Unexpectedly the Fir...
On today's show Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss how to talk to your kids about weight and Dan interviews the soon-to-be First Lady of Iceland.
51 min
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Tale of Two Cities Edition
On today's show Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter discuss school segregation with The New York Times' Nikole Hannah-Jones and parenting a difficult toddler.
49 min
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Dads and Dogs Edition
On today's show Allison and Dan discuss putting a family pet asleep and for Father's Day we'll hear stories about dads from Slate staffers.
52 min
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Extreme Bedtime Edition
On today's show Allison and Dan discuss absurdly early bedtimes for kids and then make some summertime resolutions.
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Is Grit Good? Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dan discuss game theory parenting and whether children need grit to succeed.
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Mothers and Meddlers Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dan hear stories from Slate staff about their mothers and talk talks with actor Susan Sarandon about motherhood and the movie The Meddler.
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Positive Opposites Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dad talk to the owner and chef of a vegan preschool and then debate the latest child psychology trend in parenting discipline of not punishing kids for bad behavior.
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Defending Easter Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dad talk with a Brooklyn principal about what to do when parents have a problem with school administrators and then Dan calls the Easter Bunny.
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Trump is a Very Bad Man Edition
On today's show, Allison and Dad talk to parents about raising a transgender child and how to talk to your kids about Trump.
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Dóna Prump Edition
Dan Kois discusses social media and teens with author Nancy Jo Sales and Black-ish with Slate's Aisha Harris.
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Live from Brooklyn Edition
Dan and Allison are live at the Bell House in Brooklyn.
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Live Show Lateness
Mom And Dad Are Fighting is going to be late this week.
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Better Get a Shotgun Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the Zika virus with an OBGYN and the new HBO Sesame Street.
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The Worst Time for Your Milk to Come In Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss iPads in the classroom and talk with two mothers who had their children days apart.
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The Failed Resolutions Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss parenting and money with New York Times columnist Ron Lieber and then check with Slate staffers about how they did on their 2015 New Year's resolutions.
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Dan Goes to the Mall Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the Every Child Succeeds Act and Dan goes to the mall to talk with dads about how they really feel about holiday shopping.
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The Dear Prudence Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss how to talk with your kids about the terrible news of the world with teacher Matthew Dicks and then Slate's new Dear Prudence columnist Mallory Ortberg answers listeners' parenting questions. Mom and Dad are...
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Another Obama Administration Official Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk to education secretary Arne Duncan and discuss passing along faith to your kids when you have none. Mom and Dad are Fighting is brought to you by Prudential's 40/40 Vision,
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The Agony of Defeat Edition
Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the appropriate screentime for kids and childhood sports heartbreak.   Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little Passports, the award-winning...
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Live from Basically The White House Edition
From Washington D.C.'s Woolly Mammoth Theatre Company, Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk with Stephen Thompson of NPR's "Pop Culture Happy Hour" about the joys and pitfalls of passing along your pop culture taste to your children, White House Senior...
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Adult Trick or Treat Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk with Meredith Fein Lichtenberg about parenting with cancer, and then discuss the most important holiday of the year, Halloween.   Mom and Dad are Fighting is...
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Two Truths and a Lie Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss why it is important to let your kids fail and foster parenting. Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Frank Einstein and the BrainTurbo—the third...
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Hikes for Whiners Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss how to get your kids to enjoy nature and the cost of summer for poor families.   Mom and Dad are Fighting is sponsored by Frank Einstein and the...
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Back to School Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss parental math anxiety and back-to-school from the teacher's perspective.
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Lower Your Expectations Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Allison Benedikt and Jessica Winter the state of college tuition with Slate's Jordan Weissmann and the insane world of the Radar family parenting vlog with Slate's Amanda Hess.
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After "Sex After Baby" Edition
In this episode of Slate's parenting podcast, Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt sort through listener responses to a segment about sex after pregnancy. And, a trip down the rabbit-hole of organic food for kids. Plus triumphs and fails with a vinyl...
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Sex After Baby Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where Allison Benedict and Jessica Winter talk about bed wetting and sex after having a baby.   Mom and Dad Are Fighting Is Sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little...
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Dad And Dad Are Fighting Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where Dan Kois and Dan Check discuss how to deal with judgmental parents and gay parenting with Andrew Solomon. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Little Passports. Keep your kids busy this summer with Little...
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Live from Durham Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast live from Durham, North Carolina. Allison and Dan are joined by Superchunk frontman and Merge co-owner Mac McCaughan to life as a touring dad, the worst children's songs, and play a song from his latest album. Mom...
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Your Kids Are Not Getting a Scholarship Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss the endless Hell of travel sports for kids and parenting lifestyles of Upper East Side mothers with author Wednesday Martin. Mom And Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Bluum, helping new families...
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Attacking Molly Weasley Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we one New York's school controverserial program to teach children about race and the decision to become a single mom at 41 with Rachel Sklar.   Mom and Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Bluum, helping...
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Xenomorph Mom Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss talking to children about death and our favorite moms from TV and film. Mom and Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Macmillian, a publisher of children's books, including Tractor Mac. A favorite of...
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Barrenness Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss child support and being child free. Mom And Dad Are Fighting is sponsored by Stone Reset by Gemvara. Get 15% off the stone reset of your choice at Stonereset.com/momanddad. And by Macmillan, a...
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Quantity Time Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss spending more time with your teens and what it's like to confront your childhood bully.
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Tampon Falling Out of Your Ear Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss attending sex ed with your teen and how to deal with guns in people's homes.
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"Is My Kid a Narcissist?" Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss whether we are unintentionally raising narcissistic children and edler care with Bettyville author George Hodgman.
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Call Your Mom Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss raising charitable kids with Ron Lieber and then give our moms a call.
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Vaccinate Your Kids Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss how to deal with parents who do not vaccinate their children and snowday activities.
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If I Only Had a Girl Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss free range parenting and how children watch movies. Link to our podcast survey: www.slate.com/survey
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I Quit Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss when to allow your child to quit an activity and parenting with chronic pain.
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Better Luck This Year Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss parents' New Year's resolutions and take questions from non-parents.
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The Truth About Santa Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss Santa and toys that require a bit of building.
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Where Can a Parent Score Some Weed? Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss baby names and weed-smoking parents.
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Disdaingate Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast where we discuss stay-at-home parenting and unpack Dan Kois' complicated feelings about it.
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"You Put That Ninja Sword Where?" Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast on children's sexual explorations and parenting kids' phone usage.
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The Your Own Personal Fantasyland Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast on the dos and don'ts of allowance and the magical wonder that is Disney.
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"Mom Jeans, Dad Jokes" Edition
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast on teen sexual health and pop-cultural mockery of parents.
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"Should I Even Be a Parent?" Edition
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on whether you should allow your kids to play football and the decision to become a parent.
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"The Porn Talk" Edition
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on talking to your children about porn and whether the tradition of the family meal is overrated.
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"It Costs How Much?" Edition
Slate's Allison Benedikt speaks with Stacia Brown and Dwayne Betts about how black parents talk to their children about racism and the police. Allison is then joined by Slate's Jessica Winter to discuss the Department of Agriculture's eye-popping...
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Indigo Child Edition
Slate's Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss changing standards of childhood independence and talk to Slate TV Critic Willa Paskin about Bravo's new show "Extreme Guide to Parenting".
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Slate Staff Call-...
Slate's Dan Kois answers listeners' parenting questions with Hanna Rosin, Katy Waldman, Jordan Weissmann, Amanda Hess, Julia Turner and Troy Patterson.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Ethan Hawke in a ...
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on Boyhood, with special guest dad Richard Linklater, and pre-pregnancy contracts.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Magic Beer Fridge...
Slate's Dan Kois and guest host Emily Yoffe (Slate's Dear Prudence columnist) discuss preparing your kids for peer pressure, talking with girls about their first period, and more.
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Mom and Dad Are Fighting: The Pre-School Pomp a...
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on maternal mental illness and Kindergarten Graduations.
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Mom and Dad Are Fighting: The Trash Can Footbal...
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on teacher gifts and Father’s Day.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Two Kids in a Hot...
Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on college dropout intervention and the ethics of intervening in other people’s parenting.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Open Hearts by Ja...
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast on campus sexual assault, talking to kids about different kinds of families, and Mother's Day.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The What's in That Sc...
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast on school lunches and the stigma of having, and being, an only child.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Grand Canyon Heat...
Slate's Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss paternity leave with the New York Times' Michael Roston, and talk about the pros and cons of adventurous parenting with Slate's Amanda Hess.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: Live And Let Lice Edi...
Slate's Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss why you should not help your kids with their homework with journalist Dana Goldstein, and whether or not head lice are really that big of a deal.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: Don't Be So Bossy Edi...
Slate's Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk about new changes with the SAT with author Todd Balf, and discuss Sheryl Sandberg's "Ban Bossy" campaign.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The City vs. Suburbs ...
Listen to Slate's parenting podcast about losing the Asperger's diagnosis, and the great debate: Where is it better to raise kids, in the city or the suburbs?
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: Everything Is Awesome...
Slate's Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt talk to the creators of American Promise, a documentary that follows two black boys from kindergarten through high school graduation, and discuss the Lego Movie.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: I Am The Standard Edi...
Slate's Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss gap years before college and are joined by author Jennifer Senior to discuss "All Joy and No Fun", her new book about modern parenting.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Be Present Edition
Slate's Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss the pros and cons of summer camp and are joined by blogger Carla Naumburg to talk about mindful parenting.
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Mom And Dad Are Fighting: The Holiday Swirl Edi...
Slate's Dan Kois and Allison Benedikt discuss parental "hate reads", and are joined by author Susan Katz Miller to talk about holidays in interfaith families.
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Mom and Dad Are Fighting Ep. 1: Don't Test My Kids
Slate editors Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois discuss the small but growing number of parents who opt their children out of standardized tests, and the new Disney movie Frozen.
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