<p>A single mom writes in feeling worried because her daughter is questioning her gender. Dr. Lisa explains what we understand about gender identity and sexual orientation, and offers advice on what to do when you are at an impasse with your child. Parents often feel they need to drive the bus on getting to a desired outcome, but that's not usually the best approach. Lisa and Reena talk about how to think with your child about complex and delicate topics, and Lisa explains what teenagers really respect in adults. She also discusses research she uncovered about the parent-child relationship while writing&nbsp;<em>Untangled</em>&nbsp;that might surprise you.</p><p>Lisa's 10/7/20 book review in The New York Times:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/07/books/review/lisa-selin-davis-tomboy.html?fbclid=IwAR2w_sRIfD6jBZnqiZesvcrsPWRW6392luO5qIdFsP2R60uDBWFa3xoq1Ds" target="_blank">'Tomboy’ Looks at Gender Roles, and Role-Playing, Through the Ages</a></p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p><strong>Dr. Lisa Damour’s “Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood.”</strong></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/1/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>It’s not always easy to be the grownup in the room. What are the teachable moments for our children as we watch alarming events unfold in Washington DC?</p><p>How do you move beyond intense polarization? Lisa talks about research conducted by social psychologist, Henri Tajfel, who survived WW II only because his German captors never discovered that he was Jewish. Tajfel explains how the Nazis are not so different from us. How does his research apply to present day and the recent Capitol Hill riots?</p><p>How do you help kids see when they’re dehumanizing other people? Reena asks about radicalization online and cancel culture. Lisa explains how you can help your family work against discrimination and prejudice.</p><p>Lisa's 1.7.20 article in The New York Times: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/07/well/family/parenting-capitol-mob.html"><strong>Parenting While Shocked</strong></a></p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>New York Times personal finance columnist Ron Lieber's new book publishes next week! Enter to win one of 3 copies being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 1/25/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners directly from the publisher.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Parents are finding it hard to get their children to feel motivated about school, especially when they are learning remotely. Dr. Lisa explains strategies that might help and how parents can help kids keep the academic train on its tracks. Lisa and Reena talk about supporting children for whom school is an uphill battle, even under normal conditions, and what parents should do if they are the ones who feel like they are drowning. Reena talks about the emotional experience she had selling an old sofa and how it put into perspective the struggle many parents are going through.</p><p>For Children Everywhere - UNICEF works in 180 different countries and territories to save children’s lives and protect their rights.</p><p><a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.unicef.org/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1sGxSkt3e14bbjibaJLJUp" target="_blank">https://www.unicef.org/</a></p><p>Join us&nbsp;this Friday, Jan 15th, 2021 at 3pm EST&nbsp;on Instagram Live @asklisapodcast. We will be taking your parenting questions live!</p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.drlisadamour.com/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0Bhz4OPcke-D2IfRVpNc4H" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3ANWoolpTN0XFBJM7hWRoz" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp; @LDamour @ReenaNinan&nbsp;Sent from my iPhone</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Lisa and Reena kick off the new year with a look at positive psychology. What is it and how exactly does it work? How do you stay positive when things aren’t rosy? Reena asks about the psychology of manifesting. Does it really work? They also look at sadness and happiness. Lisa shares why the two emotions don't cancel each other out but, instead, often live side by side. In other words, the presence of negative does not mean the absence of positive. Lisa explains that what psychologists call "pleasure scheduling" can help boost mood and also covers the critical importance of our personal running narratives - or "self-talk."<br><br>For Children Everywhere<strong> - </strong>Brain &amp; Behavior Research Foundation is the nation’s top non-governmental founder of mental health research grants to scientists. <a href="http://www.bbrfoundation.org/" target="_blank">Www.BBRFoundation.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:</p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by</p><p><a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>When can your kids get vaccinated? If my child has recovered from Covid-19, how long does immunity last? How do you know when it’s really safe to send your kids back to school?&nbsp; Lisa and Reena get answers to key medical questions about kids and Covid-19 with special guest expert, pediatrician Dr. Cara Natterson.&nbsp;<br><br>CARA NATTERSON, MD, is a pediatrician who has been helping schools with Covid-19 health and safety plans and a&nbsp;<em>New York Times</em>&nbsp;bestselling author of puberty and parenting books. Dr. Natterson pens a weekly newsletter about the intersection of science, parenting, and the coronavirus. Learn more about Dr. Natterson and subscribe to her newsletter at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.worryproofmd.com/" target="_blank">www.worryproofmd.com</a>.</p><p>For Children Everywhere - The American Lung Association supports your breath through education, advocacy and groundbreaking research. With COVID-19, the lung disease that has stopped the world, support to the Lung Association is needed now more than ever. Donate at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.lung.org/" target="_blank">www.lung.org</a></p><p>Talk to your child about vaping with the American Lung Association's <a href="https://www.lung.org/quit-smoking/helping-teens-quit/talk-about-vaping">Get Your Head Out of the Cloud</a> conversation guide. Lisa was honored to help develop the conversation guide in collaboration with the American Lung Association.</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>We like to think that time can heal a lot, but when do we need to worry about the pandemic's lasting impact on our children?&nbsp;Lisa introduces us to the concept of “ordinary magic” - protective processes that happen at home which can shield children from persistently difficult circumstances. Lisa and Reena discuss the research on resilience and what it teaches us about kids who thrive during hardship and how parents can help.</p><p>Resources on resiliency:</p><p>Check out Reena’s show on YouTube “The Rebound” for stories of how people have made it out of their hardest moments&nbsp;@itstherebound: <a href="https://bit.ly/381xcAf" target="_blank">bit.ly/381xcAf</a></p><p>“Ordinary Magic” a book by psychologist Dr. Ann Masten.&nbsp;<a href="https://www.guilford.com/books/Ordinary-Magic/Ann-Masten/9781462523719/reviews" target="_blank">https://www.guilford.com/books/Ordinary-Magic/Ann-Masten/9781462523719/reviews</a></p><p>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;Blessings in a Backpack mobilizes communities, individuals, and resources to provide food for elementary school children across America who might otherwise go hungry. Donate at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.blessingsinabackpack.org/" target="_blank">www.blessingsinabackpack.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>What’s the limit for children socializing online? Many kids use social media to connect with their friends and as an escape from the monotony of this pandemic. Lisa walks us through the pros and cons of being online - from when getting lost in distractions can be a good thing to when digital technology can be detrimental to a child’s development. Lisa and Reena unpack the research on how best to take a break, especially when our kids (or we!) need to give the body a rest from stress hormones or clear out mental clutter. The episode wraps up by answering a critical question: When is it time to be concerned about our kids' online social activity?</p><p>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;Crisis Text Line is free&nbsp;24/7&nbsp;support for those in crisis. Text 741 741 from anywhere in the US to reach a trained crisis counselor.&nbsp;<a href="http://www.crisistextline.org/" target="_blank">www.crisistextline.org</a></p><p>Lisa’s most recent NYT column:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/03/well/family/teenagers-downtime-free-time-choices.html" target="_blank">How Teens Use Downtime to Connect, Distract or Reflect</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you approach your child when you know they may be struggling but won’t open up? Lisa shares what she learned when she asked teens why they sometimes clam up around their parents. Lisa and Reena consider how much parents really need to know about the details of their kid's lives and the different ways to support children and help them process their emotions, even when they play their cards close to their chests. For parents who feel that their kid broke up with them, how do you regain their trust? When should you really start to worry?</p><p>For Children Everywhere - <a href="//kiva.org"><strong>KIVA&nbsp;</strong></a>crowd funds<a href="//kiva.org"> </a>loans for businesses in over 80 countries. The borrowers have a 96% repayment rate. Once repayment is made, you can resend again to someone else. One hundred percent of the money you give goes straight to funding the loans.</p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Navigating the holidays under Covid has its own pressures. A season that should be marked by joy is being met with sadness and loss by so many. Lisa explains how taking time to mourn the temporary loss of our regular traditions can help us deal with, and move past, these emotions. Understanding that it won’t always feel this way can help children cope with uncertainty. The silver lining is that finding our way through intensely sad times helps to build resilience.</p><p><strong>For Children Everywhere </strong>- Feeding America&nbsp;is the nation’s largest domestic hunger-relief organization. It has served over 40 million people through food banks and meal programs:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.feedingamerica.org/" target="_blank">www.feedingamerica.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>High school seniors are feeling the disruption of the pandemic as they tackle the college admissions process.&nbsp; How do we help them manage these uncertain times while they plan the next chapter of their lives?<br><br>Special guest and New York Times bestselling author Jeff Selingo joins us to answer your questions about applying to college in a pandemic. Drawing on research from his brand new book,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Who-Gets-Why-College-Admissions/dp/1982116293/ref=pd_lpo_14_t_0/137-8249024-2674918?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_i=1982116293&amp;pd_rd_r=19b16243-231f-4ad3-a792-43ef65ac2262&amp;pd_rd_w=be8fg&amp;pd_rd_wg=UuxgG&amp;pf_rd_p=7b36d496-f366-4631-94d3-61b87b52511b&amp;pf_rd_r=E8RQW34Q65EX98A50NHD&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=E8RQW34Q65EX98A50NHD"><em>Who Gets In &amp; Why: A Year Inside College Admissions</em></a><em>,&nbsp;</em>Jeff explains what he learned while&nbsp;embedded with three university admissions offices. How do admissions gatekeepers decide who gets in? How can applicants stand out? Are schools doing away with the SAT/ACT? How much do grades really matter? How are universities changing their approach to admissions in light of the pandemic? Jeff answers these questions and more.</p><p><strong>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;</strong>Girlstart inspires girls in STEM. Their mission is to increase girls’ interest and engagement in STEM through innovative, informal STEM education programs:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.girlstart.org/" target="_blank">www.girlstart.org</a><br><br>For more on Jeff Selingo, check out&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jeffselingo.com/" target="_blank">https://www.jeffselingo.com/</a></p><p>Lisa's&nbsp;<em>New York Times&nbsp;</em>article about taking a gap year:&nbsp;<a href="https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/04/27/college-admission-and-college-readiness-two-very-different-things/?ref=us&amp;_r=0" target="_blank">Getting Into College Doesn't Mean Students are Ready to Go</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do dads differ from moms when it comes to raising kids? Lisa unpacks the research on the different roles each parent plays while pointing out that there are no hard and fast gender lines in parenting and that you don't have to be a parent to play a powerful role in a child's life. Lisa and Reena talk about the dynamics that often unfold between dads and daughters and mothers and sons, especially in the context of adolescence. What do all kids want? They want to feel valued and admired.</p><p><strong>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;</strong>Jumpstart is a national early education organization giving kids help with literacy and social-emotional programming for preschool children from under-resourced communities.&nbsp; It promotes quality early learning for all children:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jstart.org/" target="_blank">https://www.jstart.org/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a><br><br>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast">@asklisapodcast</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Students are finding it hard to focus on school in the midst of a pandemic. But laying a good foundation for how homework gets done is a skill that can be carried into adulthood. Lisa explains the psychological research behind two different kinds of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic. Is it appropriate to reward kids for doing their work? Lisa discusses what parents can do to help kids self-motivate and stay on task.<br><br>Lisa's October column in The New York Times: How to Do School When Motivation Has Gone Missing <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/29/well/family/teenagers-motivation-school.html" target="_blank">https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/29/well/family/teenagers-motivation-school.html</a><br><br>For Children Everywhere - &nbsp;GoFundMe.org’s Covid-19 Relief Fund financially supports people impacted by the pandemic and organizations helping with relief efforts: <a href="https://www.gofundme.com/f/covid19-relief-cause-fund" target="_blank">https://www.gofundme.com/f/covid19-relief-cause-fund</a><br><br>Special Guest Jeff Selingo, author of “Who Gets In and Why: A Year Inside College Admissions,” will be joining us in an upcoming episode. Send us your college admission questions to <a href="//AskLisa@DrLisaDamour.com">AskLisa@DrLisaDamour.com</a> and we'll pose them to Jeff.<br><br>Follow us on Instagram at @asklisapodcast @Lisa.Damour @ReenaNinan</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How can parents help children cultivate the ability to have tough conversations? How do we teach tolerance? Lisa explains the building blocks of civil discourse and the emotional and developmental skills that help kids engage peers constructively on the charged topics of politics and race.</p><p>Laurel's Center for Research on Girls, civil discourse resources (scroll down for "Engaging in Civil Discourse" brief): <a href="https://lcrg.laurelschool.org/research/lcrg-research-briefs" target="_blank">https://lcrg.laurelschool.org/research/lcrg-research-briefs</a></p><p>For Children Everywhere - iCivics is an online resource founded in 2009 by Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor to provide free resources for civics education:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.icivics.org/" target="_blank">https://www.icivics.org</a></p><p>The Rebound: Watch the first episode on how a former NFL player rebounded from police brutality. New YouTube show hosted by Reena Ninan about coming out of your worst moments:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/TheReboundwithReenaNinan" target="_blank">www.youtube.com/TheReboundwithReenaNinan</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a><br><br>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Eating concerns are an issue in many families, especially during the Coronavirus pandemic. What should a parent look out for? When is it time to be concerned? And what happens in the mind of someone who struggles with an eating disorder? A new survey by WETA/PBS Newshour finds that teenagers ranked body image as their top source of concern in the pandemic - with boys expressing this worry almost as often as girls. Lisa looks at the factors exacerbating this problem: social media, the wish for control, and more.</p><p>Lisa is also featured in a virtual conversation sponsored by WETA/PBS Newshour called “Wellbeings: Teens, Covid, and Coping.” Watch at:&nbsp;<a href="https://wellbeings.org/" target="_blank">https://wellbeings.org/</a></p><p>For Children Everywhere - Chef Jose Andres’ World Central Kitchen which provides food where it’s needed the most from voting polls to disaster areas:&nbsp;<a href="https://wck.org/" target="_blank">https://wck.org/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Parents are faced with new pressures under Covid-19, and many of us are barely holding it together.&nbsp;When does having personal struggles translate into bad parenting?&nbsp;While it's important to be honest with our kids, Lisa explains what’s&nbsp;<em>not</em>&nbsp;okay for your kids to see and experience as you are working through a difficult time. Adding to the pressure, many parents have lost their supportive networks. We no longer see other parents during school pick-up or on the sidelines of soccer games. It may be time to find our new “soccer sideline” groups. Reena also talks about her fear of winter coming in a brainstorming session about how we'll cope. Lisa explains the research on how having breaks to look forward to can help your mental health.</p><p>Lisa &amp; Reena also announce a new weekly segment called “For Children Everywhere.” One charity will be spotlighted each week for listeners who would like to donate. This week's organization, "Women's Bean Project" is based in Lisa’s hometown of Denver, Colorado. It helps unemployed women return to the work force:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.womensbeanproject.com/">https://www.womensbeanproject.com/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>What really works when kids just won’t listen? Dr. Lisa explains there are two different mental states that parents should toggle between — warm parent and robot parent. She explains how cultivating a joyful relationship with kids puts money in the account from which parents write their disciplinary checks. If you're clashing with your teen, it’s never too late to turn things around. And those raising younger kids find out why it's often harder to parent age three than age two (hint: threes enjoy mean fun).</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Charity of the Week &nbsp;- For Children Everywhere: https://www.childrenshopeindia.org/</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>What should parents do when their kids are fed up and unhappy about school? Psychologists are witnessing the rise of emotional distress in children as they try to manage their disrupted academic year. Stress is processed in different ways by different children - some become anxious and sad, and some act out. How do you get kids to pivot from bad behavior? Dr. Lisa decodes how to identify and work through emotional distress.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Charity of the Week - For Children Everywhere: https://www.modestneeds.org/</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Anxiety often serves as a normal and useful warning system - an emotional alarm that rings when something isn't right. Lisa discusses the difference between healthy and unhealthy anxiety, and explains how anxiety changes the activity of the heart and lungs. She provides tips on how to counter anxiety by harnessing the connection between the lungs and the brain.&nbsp;</p><p>What is the difference between sadness and depression? When should we be concerned about the possibility of suicide? Lisa and Reena also consider common warning signs. The show ends on an upbeat note about effective psychological interventions for treating anxiety and depression.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>When should parents hit the panic button over their child’s social development? A mom writes in about her shy, introverted teen, wondering if her daughter has enough contact with friends. What key milestones might kids be missing as a result of the coronavirus pandemic? Lisa walks us through the development of social skills from infancy through college age, describing what we should keep an eye on and what we can do at home to help kids build the skills they need.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do we get through the pandemic without losing our minds? Lisa offers parents four distinct tools to help ourselves and our children through these challenging times. The specific tools are "feeling with" children, supporting healthy psychological defenses, having the right words for painful emotions, and finding ways - like using humor- to rally when we're feeling down. Reena gets emotional talking about what a teacher did to prepare her students for the first day back. Also explained is a key psychological research finding on how people can significantly increase their well-being.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do we encourage our kids to be active when they want to couch surf? Lisa tackles a listener’s question about a tween who has become sedentary during the pandemic. As much of the U.S. is getting back to school—often with distance learning—exercising, eating well, and maintaining routines now matter more than ever. Talking to kids about healthy eating comes with an unexpected lesson from a famous neighborhood—Sesame Street.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Conflict is unavoidable. Having a strategy can help. Divorce rates have increased in some countries under lockdown from Covid-19. When can a relationship not be repaired? How do we teach our kids to deal with conflict? Lisa covers the research on how to get out of an impasse, especially when parenting teens. Reena shares high school teacher Mrs. Jackson’s words on conflict resolution. How do we come to terms with negative emotions&nbsp;and hit the restart button? How do we get along when we're all stuck at home?</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How can you tell when your child is not coping well during this Covid-19 pandemic? Dr. Lisa breaks down what to watch for in a child’s behavior. How much screen time is bad for a child’s brain? She also explains the term “learned helplessness.”</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Uncertainty surrounds this school year amid all the Covid-19 news. Dr. Lisa talks about what families need most as they juggle working from home and school. How do you respond when everything seems out of your control? Reena discusses some of the work-life tradeoffs that she has struggled to manage, including making the hard choice to go to Benghazi with her breast pump.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>