<p>Is it ever too late to help your child rethink a friendship? How do you lay the groundwork to help children choose the right people to be in their lives? Dr. Lisa explains how the friends our kids chose can also give us a window into the people they may date. Even during the teenage years Lisa says there are ways to help foster new friendships. Reena asks when should a parent intervene.</p><p>Read Lisa’s latest New York Times Column:</p><p><a href="https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2021/08/23/well/family/back-to-school-teens.amp.html"><strong>How to Support Teenagers as They Head Back to School</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><p><strong>Additional&nbsp;resources:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><strong>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by:</strong></p><p><a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan kick off Season Two of Ask Lisa by talking about how to cope with another school year under Covid-19. They tackle a letter from a parent seeking advice on how to deal with her own anxiety about kids going back to school as the Delta variant rages. She is exhausted and does not see relief coming any time soon. How do we help our kids feel school-ready when we are running on empty?</p><p>Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><p><strong>Additional&nbsp;resources:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Should we be pushing children and teens to make up for lost learning this summer? Or should we let them call the shots on how they spend their time? What really matters most? Dr. Lisa has advice that might seem counterintuitive for parents who feel ready to charge ahead. A mom writes in asking for advice on how to think about summer schedules for her three kids. Reena seeks guidance on managing social media and video games once school lets out. Dr. Lisa and Reena talk about what families should focus on when making summer plans. In this final episode of the season, Lisa and Reena also explain how to stay connected with the podcast this summer. Season Two starts&nbsp;August 24th.</p><p>Objective Wellness is sponsoring this episode. Our listeners get 15% off their chocolate-y treat Sweet Calm made with 60% dark cacao, the calming ayurvedic herb ashwagandha, and magnesium.</p><p>Calm your mind and rediscover your inner peace.&nbsp;Head to&nbsp;<a href="http://wwww.objectivewellness.com/"><strong>wwww.ObjectiveWellness.com</strong></a></p><p>Enter the <strong>ASKLISA</strong> promo code to get 15% off.</p><p><u><strong>Dr. Lisa’s Summer Resource List</strong></u></p><p><a href="https://www.verywellfamily.com/summer-fun-ideas-kids-and-parents-3542627" target="_blank">100 Summer Fun Ideas for Kids and Parents</a></p><p><a href="https://wehavekids.com/parenting/100-things-to-do-this-summer-teens" target="_blank">100+ Things for Teens to Do This Summer</a></p><p>Lisa Damour's 6.1.21 New York Times column&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/01/well/family/teenagers-summer-reset.html" target="_blank">Why Teens Need a Break This Summer</a></p><p>Email us your questions&nbsp;or topics you would like us to cover to&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a>.</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Lisa and Reena are joined by guest Emmanuel Acho, former NFL linebacker, current FoxSports analyst, host of the YouTube hit "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man," and author of a book by the same name. Most recently, Emmanuel wrote the instant #1<em>&nbsp;New York Times</em>&nbsp;Bestseller "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Boy." In a discussion both wide-ranging and deep, Emmanuel tackles how to talk with our kids about the n-word, what we can do to address&nbsp;systemic racism and prejudice, and what it really means for parents and their children to act as allies.</p><p><u>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</u></p><p>Enter to win one of two copies of <em>Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Boy</em> By Emmanuel Acho from the @asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 6/7/21. Winners will be chosen at random and books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p><u>Parent Promotion</u></p><p>Objective Wellness is sponsoring this episode. Our listeners get 15% off their chocolate-y treat Sweet Calm made with 60% dark cacao, the calming ayurvedic herb ashwagandha, and magnesium. Calm your mind and rediscover your inner peace.&nbsp;Head to&nbsp;<a href="http://wwww.objectivewellness.com/" target="_blank">wwww.ObjectiveWellness.com</a> and enter the ASKLISA promo code to get 15% off.</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>The pandemic has disrupted our kids' social lives. What can parents do to help a child make new friends if they've withdrawn from their peers? How do we help kids who are reluctant to reach out, or who rub their classmates the wrong way? A mom emails about her twelve and a half-year-old daughter who was once an extrovert and now is not. Dr. Lisa explains the five categories that have been identified by research to describe kids' social profiles, and how knowing these categories helps us give children the right kind of support. Should parents try to engineer friendships? Lisa has a strong opinion on this topic while Reena asks how we can help kids find secure friendships as we emerge from Covid-19.</p><p><u>BOOKGIVEAWAY:</u></p><p><em>The Science of Making Friends: Helping Socially Challenged Teens and Young Adults; </em>By Elizabeth A. Laugeson, Psy.D.</p><p>Enter to win a copy from the @asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 5/31/21. Winners will be chosen at random and books will be mailed to the winners.</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Should you be concerned if your child has a messy, disorganized room?&nbsp;A mom emails asking for advice on how to handle a kid's room that feels out of control. Dr. Lisa introduces us to the term <em>executive functioning,</em> the mental processes that help with managing oneself and one's possessions. Reena asks if being disorganized as a child can lead to problems down the line. Lisa offers guidance on when it's time to step in and how to help your children organize themselves and their things.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY</strong></p><p>Enter to win a copy of <em>How to Talk So Kids Will Listen &amp; Listen So Kids Will Talk </em>by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/" target="_blank">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠<br>4. For U.S. residents only⁠<br>⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EDT on 5/24/21. Winner will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>After more than a year of being stuck at home in a pandemic, it’s no surprise siblings are getting on each other's nerves.&nbsp;Should parents step in - or step back - when kids start fighting? Dr. Lisa tackles this question and also explains how parents' approach to conflict can influence how kids fight with their siblings. Reena asks how parents can keep their cool when heads are getting hot, and whether kids can really learn to manage their own conflicts. Dr. Lisa describes strategies that work having seen them in action during a unique summer job.</p><p><u><strong>For Children Everywhere</strong></u></p><p><a href="https://www.giveindia.org/" target="_blank">www.giveindia.org</a></p><p>Give India helps individuals donate to NGO’s in India helping to fight the Covid-19 outbreak.</p><p>Send us your questions for our upcoming podcast on talking to kids about race with author Emmanuel Acho. Send questions to <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a>.</p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Talking to kids about their love lives can be uncomfortable, but discussing consent is one of the most important conversations to have with our children. Dr. Lisa explains why she feels that when we focus on&nbsp;consent,&nbsp;we are articulating the lowest possible bar for acceptable physical intimacy. She offers thoughts on how we might rethink and reframe the entire topic in order to be most helpful to our children. Reena asks: Can we change our collective mindset on consent? And how do you explain coercion and consent to children? The conversation includes a look at how pornography factors into teenagers' understanding of consensual relationships.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>One copy each of <em>Girls &amp; Sex</em>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<em>Boys &amp; Sex</em> by&nbsp;Peggy Orenstein</p><p>Enter to win one of 2 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 5/10/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p><strong>OTHER RESOURCES:</strong></p><p>Lisa's articles from the NYT:<br><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/11/well/family/talking-about-sex-with-daughters-and-sons.html?rref=collection%2Fsectioncollection%2Fwell-family&amp;action=click&amp;contentCollection=family&amp;region=rank&amp;module=package&amp;version=highlights&amp;contentPlacement=2&amp;pgtype=sectionfront" target="_blank">Talking With Both Daughters and Sons About Sex</a> (1/11/17)<br><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/well/getting-consent-for-sex-is-too-low-a-bar.html" target="_blank">Getting ‘Consent’ for Sex Is Too Low a Bar</a> (7/18/18)<br><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/14/well/family/why-teenagers-mix-drinking-and-sex.html" target="_blank">Why Teenagers Mix Drinking and Sex</a> (11/14/18)</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Experts are finding that the pandemic has led to an alarming rise in eating disorders. Dr. Lisa explains how eating disorders can sneak up on families and why they can be incredibly harmful. Lisa and Reena discuss how social media can contribute to eating disorders and the fact that these illnesses affects people from all genders, economic backgrounds, and races. Early intervention matters, so what are the signs of an eating disorder? How do you talk to kids about eating disorders? And when should you seek help?</p><p><strong>FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE:</strong></p><p>Eating disorders can be linked to food insecurity. Feeding America can help you find your local food bank to make a donation.</p><p><a href="https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank" target="_blank">https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank</a></p><p><strong>ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:</strong></p><p>Lisa’s NYT column: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/28/well/family/teens-eating-disorders.html">Eating Disorders in Teens Have 'Exploded' in the Pandemic</a></p><p><a href="http://anorexiafamily.com/" target="_blank"><strong>anorexiafamily.com</strong></a><strong> </strong>Help for parents of children and teens suffering from anorexia and other eating disorders.</p><p><a href="http://feast-ed.org/" target="_blank"><strong>feast-ed.org</strong></a><strong> </strong>F.E.A.S.T. is an international non-profit organization of and for caregivers of loved ones suffering from eating disorders.</p><p><a href="http://nationaleatingdisorders.org/" target="_blank"><strong>nationaleatingdisorders.org</strong></a><strong> </strong>NEDA supports individuals and families affected by eating disorders, and serves as a catalyst for prevention, cures and access to quality care.</p><p><a href="http://maudsleyparents.org/" target="_blank"><strong>maudsleyparents.org</strong></a><strong> </strong>Maudsley Parents was created in 2006 by parents who helped their children recover with family-based treatment, to offer hope and help to other families confronting eating disorders.&nbsp;</p><p><a href="http://eatingdisorders.ucsd.edu/resources/" target="_blank"><strong>eatingdisorders.ucsd.edu/resources/</strong></a><strong> </strong>Resources recommended by the Eating Disorders Center for Treatment and Research at University of California, San Diego</p><p><a href="http://www.childrenshospital.org/centers-and-services/programs/a-_-e/eating-disorders-program/helpful-links" target="_blank"><strong>www.childrenshospital.org/centers-and-services/programs/a-_-e/eating-disorders-program/helpful-links</strong></a><strong> </strong>Resources recommended by the Eating Disorders Program at Boston Children’s Hospital</p><p><a href="https://www.aedweb.org/resources/about-eating-disorders" target="_blank"><strong>https://www.aedweb.org/resources/about-eating-disorders</strong></a><strong> </strong>Informational resources developed by the Academy for Eating Disorders</p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>"If the pandemic is about anything, it's about loss,” says Dr. Lisa Damour. Grief can come in different forms - from losing a loved one, to mourning the loss of senior year in high school, to not getting into your favorite college. How can you tell if your child is grieving and what can you do to help? Lisa and Reena examine how to support our kids as they cope with loss. Reena shares how a bouncy castle rented on the morning of her grandfather’s funeral helped her family deal with loss. Lisa discusses insights from Sigmund Freud - written over one hundred years ago - that can be helpful as we find our way through the pandemic.</p><p>Enter to win one of two copies of&nbsp;"Fall of Freddie the Leaf"&nbsp;being given away by the @asklisapodcast. The book has helped children and adults deal with the mourning process.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠</p><p>4. For U.S. residents only⁠</p><p>⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on&nbsp;4/26/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you talk to kids about social media postings that might cross a line?&nbsp;What's the best way to start a conversation with your sons and daughters about what's too sexy for public consumption?&nbsp;A parent writes to Lisa and Reena about the suggestive TikTok postings her daughter puts up. Lisa explains how to open up lines of communication and the guidance parents might give about posts that could be seen as provocative. Lisa also shares what she is seeing during the pandemic and details why kids post suggestive content at this age.</p><p>Enter to win one of two copies being given away by the @asklisapodcast of Lisa's fabulous New York Times best-selling book <em>Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls.</em></p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/" target="_blank">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠<br>4. For U.S. residents only⁠<br>⁠</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on&nbsp;4/19/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you prepare kids for life in the real world? Author Julie Lythcott-Haims joins Lisa and Reena for a conversation on the non-academic skills your children need to succeed as they move into young adulthood. Julie spent more than a decade at Stanford University, some of that time as the dean of first-year students. The women talk about how to discuss race with our children, the different chores kids should take on as they age, and the critical importance of having real responsibilities at home. Julie describes the power of positive parenting and talks about her brand-new book&nbsp;<em>Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.</em></p><p>Enter to win one of two copies being given away by the @asklisapodcast of Julie’s new book&nbsp;<em>Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.</em></p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/" target="_blank">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠<br>4. For U.S. residents only⁠<br>⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on&nbsp;4/12/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>As we move into the next phase of this pandemic we take listeners&nbsp;back to an encore presentation&nbsp;of "Toolbox for Terrible Times: How to Manage Hopelessness and Helplessness." Lisa offers specific tools to help children with their feelings and describes the key role played by healthy psychological defenses. Reena gets emotional talking about what her son's Connecticut teacher did to prepare her students for the first day back at school. The conversation also covers psychological research on how both children and adults can significantly increase their well-being.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a><br>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>There are many reasons why kids lie to parents. Dr. Lisa gives several explanations for why kids sometimes don’t tell the truth and shares stories from her practice of the difficult scenarios she's helped families navigate, including an example of when parents assume the worst about their teen's behavior and get kids to live down to their expectations. Dr. Lisa and Reena also discuss cheating and how what happens in the mind of a six-year-old cheater differs from cheating among high school students. Ultimately, helping kids develop a fine-tuned conscience can make all the difference when it comes to being honest.<br><br>FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE: <em>First Book </em>works with&nbsp;half a million teachers in underserved communities to get them books and much needed resources. The organization believes the best way out of poverty is education: <a href="http://www.firstbook.org/" target="_blank">www.firstbook.org</a></p><p>ARTICLE: Lisa's NYT article&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/26/well/family/teens-homework-school.html?searchResultPosition=2" target="_blank">How to Help a Teen Out of a Homework Hole</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Talking to a child about pornography might not be a conversation most parents think of having. However, by the age of sixteen, 90% of kids have looked at porn. Dr. Lisa Damour explains that kids' interest in sex is normal and part of healthy development. But she also explains how porn can be traumatic and confusing to kids and teens who encounter it. How do you approach the conversation and at what age should you start discussing it? Reena asks for tips on how to make these talks less uncomfortable.</p><p>BOOK GIVEAWAY</p><p>Enter to win a copy of <em>Sex, Teens, &amp; Everything in Between</em> by Shafia Zaloom or a copy of <em>It's Perfectly Normal</em> by Robie H. Harris and Michelle Emberley, given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/22/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>ARTICLES</p><p>Lisa's NYT article: <a href="https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/03/31/how-to-talk-to-your-teenager-about-pornography/?searchResultPosition=1" target="_blank">How to Talk to Your Teenager About Pornography</a></p><p>Shafia Zaloom's NYT article: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/10/well/family/children-pornhub.html?searchResultPosition=1" target="_blank">Kids Are Watching Pornography. Here's How to Talk About It</a></p><p><br></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>With the one year anniversary of the pandemic approaching there are reasons to be hopeful. The infection rates are dropping and more vaccines are being distributed. So why do so many people still feel down? Reena asks about what parents can do when they feel the ground is shifting and things are out of their control. How do we help kids manage the anxiety of starting in-person school and the persistent stress of this pandemic? Lisa talks through strategies for finding a way out of feeling anxious and depressed.</p><p><u>Book Giveaway!!</u></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies of A Place to Hang the Moon by Kate Albus&nbsp;being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/15/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Finding time to quiet your mind can have real benefits for you and your child. Author, instructor, mom, and entrepreneur Mallika Chopra is our special guest. She says that meditation isn’t just repeating mantras - there are many other ways your kids can be mindful. Mallika also talks about her father Deepak Chopra and how he found meditation after going through his own personal struggles. Mindful eating is also discussed.</p><p><strong>Book Giveaway!!</strong></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies of Mallika Chopra's new book&nbsp;<em>Just Be You</em>&nbsp;being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/8/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>A parent writes in asking for help to address a teenager's marijuana use. Some teens are turning to drugs in this pandemic as they are looking for ways to cope with the sadness and boredom. Dr. Lisa explains what actually works in getting kids to stop using drugs and how to talk with kids in a way that's likely to keep them from becoming involved with drugs in the first place. Dr. Lisa talks about choices kids might make in the pandemic that could have irreversible consequences, while also offering tips on positive coping. Reena asks when adults should be concerned about their own behavior with regard to alcohol or marijuana use.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>Thrivers: The Surprising Reason Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine, by Dr. Michele Borba</p><p>Enter to win one of 3 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/1/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Should you speak up when you disagree with the approach other families are taking with their Covid rules? Reena discusses the latest news on the spread of the British mutation and Dr. Lisa describes the mental maneuvers we make when trying to rationalize behavior. How do we find peace when we feel uneasy with what other families are doing?&nbsp;And how do you talk with children about the fact that different families follow different rules?</p><p>For Children Everywhere - “A Million Thanks” collects and sends millions of letters thanking and supporting our active, reserve, and veteran military. Generosity can come in the form of writing letters or sending art work - all your child needs to send is a picture or note. The organization does request a $1 donation for postage as they sort letters to get into the hands of those who need the mail the most:<br><a href="https://amillionthanks.org/" target="_blank">https://amillionthanks.org/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>When kids hit thirteen they often become highly emotional. What happens in the brain and the body during this time? Dr. Lisa explains and also talks about the process of "separation-individuation" where young people seek to define their own identities - often by being hard on their folks.</p><p>Parents sometimes assume that age thirteen is the beginning of adolescence. But is it really? And how can you help a tween or teen who's having an emotional meltdown?&nbsp;Dr. Lisa has good news: the intensity of early adolescence doesn’t last forever and there are effective things parents can do to manage bumpy moments with their teen.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:&nbsp;</strong>14 Talks By Age 14:&nbsp;The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School; by Michelle Icard</p><p>Enter to win one of 3 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/15/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you get kids to understand the importance of hygiene? A mom writes in that her son is making life unbearable at home because he refuses to take regular showers since he has spent much of the year learning remotely. Dr. Lisa explains the concept of habituation - the process of growing accustomed to sensory input - and discusses with Reena the science behind sensation and perception. Lisa offers strategies to help kids understand why they can't smell themselves and gives guidance on when, as a parent, it's time to lay down the law. Reena and Lisa also talk about the sweet smell of success. Reena’s Tampa Bay Buccaneers made it to the Super Bowl. What life lessons can Tom Brady and Gronk teach us from the football field?<br><br>Lisa's 1/29/29 article in The New York Times: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/29/well/family/teenager-anger-pandemic.html" target="_blank">Helping&nbsp;a Teen Who Is Angry About House Rules on Covid<br><br></a><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY: </strong>Dr. Cara Natterson's books on puberty: "The Care &amp; Keeping of You" (Book 1 for younger girls &amp; Book 2 for older girls) and "Guy Stuff." Enter to win one set of all 3 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p><br>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like<br>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only<br>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/8/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)<br></p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>A single mom writes in feeling worried because her daughter is questioning her gender. Dr. Lisa explains what we understand about gender identity and sexual orientation, and offers advice on what to do when you are at an impasse with your child. Parents often feel they need to drive the bus on getting to a desired outcome, but that's not usually the best approach. Lisa and Reena talk about how to think with your child about complex and delicate topics, and Lisa explains what teenagers really respect in adults. She also discusses research she uncovered about the parent-child relationship while writing&nbsp;<em>Untangled</em>&nbsp;that might surprise you.</p><p>Lisa's 10/7/20 book review in The New York Times:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/07/books/review/lisa-selin-davis-tomboy.html?fbclid=IwAR2w_sRIfD6jBZnqiZesvcrsPWRW6392luO5qIdFsP2R60uDBWFa3xoq1Ds" target="_blank">'Tomboy’ Looks at Gender Roles, and Role-Playing, Through the Ages</a></p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p><strong>Dr. Lisa Damour’s “Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood.”</strong></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/1/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>It’s not always easy to be the grownup in the room. What are the teachable moments for our children as we watch alarming events unfold in Washington DC?</p><p>How do you move beyond intense polarization? Lisa talks about research conducted by social psychologist, Henri Tajfel, who survived WW II only because his German captors never discovered that he was Jewish. Tajfel explains how the Nazis are not so different from us. How does his research apply to present day and the recent Capitol Hill riots?</p><p>How do you help kids see when they’re dehumanizing other people? Reena asks about radicalization online and cancel culture. Lisa explains how you can help your family work against discrimination and prejudice.</p><p>Lisa's 1.7.20 article in The New York Times: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/07/well/family/parenting-capitol-mob.html"><strong>Parenting While Shocked</strong></a></p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>New York Times personal finance columnist Ron Lieber's new book publishes next week! Enter to win one of 3 copies being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 1/25/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners directly from the publisher.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Parents are finding it hard to get their children to feel motivated about school, especially when they are learning remotely. Dr. Lisa explains strategies that might help and how parents can help kids keep the academic train on its tracks. Lisa and Reena talk about supporting children for whom school is an uphill battle, even under normal conditions, and what parents should do if they are the ones who feel like they are drowning. Reena talks about the emotional experience she had selling an old sofa and how it put into perspective the struggle many parents are going through.</p><p>For Children Everywhere - UNICEF works in 180 different countries and territories to save children’s lives and protect their rights.</p><p><a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.unicef.org/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1sGxSkt3e14bbjibaJLJUp" target="_blank">https://www.unicef.org/</a></p><p>Join us&nbsp;this Friday, Jan 15th, 2021 at 3pm EST&nbsp;on Instagram Live @asklisapodcast. We will be taking your parenting questions live!</p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.drlisadamour.com/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0Bhz4OPcke-D2IfRVpNc4H" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3ANWoolpTN0XFBJM7hWRoz" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp; @LDamour @ReenaNinan&nbsp;Sent from my iPhone</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Lisa and Reena kick off the new year with a look at positive psychology. What is it and how exactly does it work? How do you stay positive when things aren’t rosy? Reena asks about the psychology of manifesting. Does it really work? They also look at sadness and happiness. Lisa shares why the two emotions don't cancel each other out but, instead, often live side by side. In other words, the presence of negative does not mean the absence of positive. Lisa explains that what psychologists call "pleasure scheduling" can help boost mood and also covers the critical importance of our personal running narratives - or "self-talk."<br><br>For Children Everywhere<strong> - </strong>Brain &amp; Behavior Research Foundation is the nation’s top non-governmental founder of mental health research grants to scientists. <a href="http://www.bbrfoundation.org/" target="_blank">Www.BBRFoundation.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:</p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by</p><p><a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>