<p>Students are finding it hard to focus on school in the midst of a pandemic. But laying a good foundation for how homework gets done is a skill that can be carried into adulthood. Lisa explains the psychological research behind two different kinds of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic. Is it appropriate to reward kids for doing their work? Lisa discusses what parents can do to help kids self-motivate and stay on task.<br><br>Lisa's October column in The New York Times: How to Do School When Motivation Has Gone Missing <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/29/well/family/teenagers-motivation-school.html" target="_blank">https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/29/well/family/teenagers-motivation-school.html</a><br><br>For Children Everywhere - &nbsp;GoFundMe.org’s Covid-19 Relief Fund financially supports people impacted by the pandemic and organizations helping with relief efforts: <a href="https://www.gofundme.com/f/covid19-relief-cause-fund" target="_blank">https://www.gofundme.com/f/covid19-relief-cause-fund</a><br><br>Special Guest Jeff Selingo, author of “Who Gets In and Why: A Year Inside College Admissions,” will be joining us in an upcoming episode. Send us your college admission questions to <a href="//AskLisa@DrLisaDamour.com">AskLisa@DrLisaDamour.com</a> and we'll pose them to Jeff.<br><br>Follow us on Instagram at @asklisapodcast @Lisa.Damour @ReenaNinan</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How can parents help children cultivate the ability to have tough conversations? How do we teach tolerance? Lisa explains the building blocks of civil discourse and the emotional and developmental skills that help kids engage peers constructively on the charged topics of politics and race.</p><p>Laurel's Center for Research on Girls, civil discourse resources (scroll down for "Engaging in Civil Discourse" brief): <a href="https://lcrg.laurelschool.org/research/lcrg-research-briefs" target="_blank">https://lcrg.laurelschool.org/research/lcrg-research-briefs</a></p><p>For Children Everywhere - iCivics is an online resource founded in 2009 by Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor to provide free resources for civics education:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.icivics.org/" target="_blank">https://www.icivics.org</a></p><p>The Rebound: Watch the first episode on how a former NFL player rebounded from police brutality. New YouTube show hosted by Reena Ninan about coming out of your worst moments:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/TheReboundwithReenaNinan" target="_blank">www.youtube.com/TheReboundwithReenaNinan</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a><br><br>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Eating concerns are an issue in many families, especially during the Coronavirus pandemic. What should a parent look out for? When is it time to be concerned? And what happens in the mind of someone who struggles with an eating disorder? A new survey by WETA/PBS Newshour finds that teenagers ranked body image as their top source of concern in the pandemic - with boys expressing this worry almost as often as girls. Lisa looks at the factors exacerbating this problem: social media, the wish for control, and more.</p><p>Lisa is also featured in a virtual conversation sponsored by WETA/PBS Newshour called “Wellbeings: Teens, Covid, and Coping.” Watch at:&nbsp;<a href="https://wellbeings.org/" target="_blank">https://wellbeings.org/</a></p><p>For Children Everywhere - Chef Jose Andres’ World Central Kitchen which provides food where it’s needed the most from voting polls to disaster areas:&nbsp;<a href="https://wck.org/" target="_blank">https://wck.org/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Parents are faced with new pressures under Covid-19, and many of us are barely holding it together.&nbsp;When does having personal struggles translate into bad parenting?&nbsp;While it's important to be honest with our kids, Lisa explains what’s&nbsp;<em>not</em>&nbsp;okay for your kids to see and experience as you are working through a difficult time. Adding to the pressure, many parents have lost their supportive networks. We no longer see other parents during school pick-up or on the sidelines of soccer games. It may be time to find our new “soccer sideline” groups. Reena also talks about her fear of winter coming in a brainstorming session about how we'll cope. Lisa explains the research on how having breaks to look forward to can help your mental health.</p><p>Lisa &amp; Reena also announce a new weekly segment called “For Children Everywhere.” One charity will be spotlighted each week for listeners who would like to donate. This week's organization, "Women's Bean Project" is based in Lisa’s hometown of Denver, Colorado. It helps unemployed women return to the work force:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.womensbeanproject.com/">https://www.womensbeanproject.com/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>What really works when kids just won’t listen? Dr. Lisa explains there are two different mental states that parents should toggle between — warm parent and robot parent. She explains how cultivating a joyful relationship with kids puts money in the account from which parents write their disciplinary checks. If you're clashing with your teen, it’s never too late to turn things around. And those raising younger kids find out why it's often harder to parent age three than age two (hint: threes enjoy mean fun).</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Charity of the Week &nbsp;- For Children Everywhere: https://www.childrenshopeindia.org/</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>What should parents do when their kids are fed up and unhappy about school? Psychologists are witnessing the rise of emotional distress in children as they try to manage their disrupted academic year. Stress is processed in different ways by different children - some become anxious and sad, and some act out. How do you get kids to pivot from bad behavior? Dr. Lisa decodes how to identify and work through emotional distress.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Charity of the Week - For Children Everywhere: https://www.modestneeds.org/</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Anxiety often serves as a normal and useful warning system - an emotional alarm that rings when something isn't right. Lisa discusses the difference between healthy and unhealthy anxiety, and explains how anxiety changes the activity of the heart and lungs. She provides tips on how to counter anxiety by harnessing the connection between the lungs and the brain.&nbsp;</p><p>What is the difference between sadness and depression? When should we be concerned about the possibility of suicide? Lisa and Reena also consider common warning signs. The show ends on an upbeat note about effective psychological interventions for treating anxiety and depression.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>When should parents hit the panic button over their child’s social development? A mom writes in about her shy, introverted teen, wondering if her daughter has enough contact with friends. What key milestones might kids be missing as a result of the coronavirus pandemic? Lisa walks us through the development of social skills from infancy through college age, describing what we should keep an eye on and what we can do at home to help kids build the skills they need.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do we get through the pandemic without losing our minds? Lisa offers parents four distinct tools to help ourselves and our children through these challenging times. The specific tools are "feeling with" children, supporting healthy psychological defenses, having the right words for painful emotions, and finding ways - like using humor- to rally when we're feeling down. Reena gets emotional talking about what a teacher did to prepare her students for the first day back. Also explained is a key psychological research finding on how people can significantly increase their well-being.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do we encourage our kids to be active when they want to couch surf? Lisa tackles a listener’s question about a tween who has become sedentary during the pandemic. As much of the U.S. is getting back to school—often with distance learning—exercising, eating well, and maintaining routines now matter more than ever. Talking to kids about healthy eating comes with an unexpected lesson from a famous neighborhood—Sesame Street.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Conflict is unavoidable. Having a strategy can help. Divorce rates have increased in some countries under lockdown from Covid-19. When can a relationship not be repaired? How do we teach our kids to deal with conflict? Lisa covers the research on how to get out of an impasse, especially when parenting teens. Reena shares high school teacher Mrs. Jackson’s words on conflict resolution. How do we come to terms with negative emotions&nbsp;and hit the restart button? How do we get along when we're all stuck at home?</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Uncertainty surrounds this school year amid all the Covid-19 news. Dr. Lisa talks about what families need most as they juggle working from home and school. How do you respond when everything seems out of your control? Reena discusses some of the work-life tradeoffs that she has struggled to manage, including making the hard choice to go to Benghazi with her breast pump.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How can you tell when your child is not coping well during this Covid-19 pandemic? Dr. Lisa breaks down what to watch for in a child’s behavior. How much screen time is bad for a child’s brain? She also explains the term “learned helplessness.”</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.com</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/resources/">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>