<p>Talking to kids about their love lives can be uncomfortable, but discussing consent is one of the most important conversations to have with our children. Dr. Lisa explains why she feels that when we focus on&nbsp;consent,&nbsp;we are articulating the lowest possible bar for acceptable physical intimacy. She offers thoughts on how we might rethink and reframe the entire topic in order to be most helpful to our children. Reena asks: Can we change our collective mindset on consent? And how do you explain coercion and consent to children? The conversation includes a look at how pornography factors into teenagers' understanding of consensual relationships.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>One copy each of <em>Girls &amp; Sex</em>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<em>Boys &amp; Sex</em> by&nbsp;Peggy Orenstein</p><p>Enter to win one of 2 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 5/10/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p><strong>OTHER RESOURCES:</strong></p><p>Lisa's articles from the NYT:<br><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2017/01/11/well/family/talking-about-sex-with-daughters-and-sons.html?rref=collection%2Fsectioncollection%2Fwell-family&amp;action=click&amp;contentCollection=family&amp;region=rank&amp;module=package&amp;version=highlights&amp;contentPlacement=2&amp;pgtype=sectionfront" target="_blank">Talking With Both Daughters and Sons About Sex</a> (1/11/17)<br><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/well/getting-consent-for-sex-is-too-low-a-bar.html" target="_blank">Getting ‘Consent’ for Sex Is Too Low a Bar</a> (7/18/18)<br><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/14/well/family/why-teenagers-mix-drinking-and-sex.html" target="_blank">Why Teenagers Mix Drinking and Sex</a> (11/14/18)</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Experts are finding that the pandemic has led to an alarming rise in eating disorders. Dr. Lisa explains how eating disorders can sneak up on families and why they can be incredibly harmful. Lisa and Reena discuss how social media can contribute to eating disorders and the fact that these illnesses affects people from all genders, economic backgrounds, and races. Early intervention matters, so what are the signs of an eating disorder? How do you talk to kids about eating disorders? And when should you seek help?</p><p><strong>FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE:</strong></p><p>Eating disorders can be linked to food insecurity. Feeding America can help you find your local food bank to make a donation.</p><p><a href="https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank" target="_blank">https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank</a></p><p><strong>ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:</strong></p><p>Lisa’s NYT column: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/28/well/family/teens-eating-disorders.html">Eating Disorders in Teens Have 'Exploded' in the Pandemic</a></p><p><a href="http://anorexiafamily.com/" target="_blank"><strong>anorexiafamily.com</strong></a><strong> </strong>Help for parents of children and teens suffering from anorexia and other eating disorders.</p><p><a href="http://feast-ed.org/" target="_blank"><strong>feast-ed.org</strong></a><strong> </strong>F.E.A.S.T. is an international non-profit organization of and for caregivers of loved ones suffering from eating disorders.</p><p><a href="http://nationaleatingdisorders.org/" target="_blank"><strong>nationaleatingdisorders.org</strong></a><strong> </strong>NEDA supports individuals and families affected by eating disorders, and serves as a catalyst for prevention, cures and access to quality care.</p><p><a href="http://maudsleyparents.org/" target="_blank"><strong>maudsleyparents.org</strong></a><strong> </strong>Maudsley Parents was created in 2006 by parents who helped their children recover with family-based treatment, to offer hope and help to other families confronting eating disorders.&nbsp;</p><p><a href="http://eatingdisorders.ucsd.edu/resources/" target="_blank"><strong>eatingdisorders.ucsd.edu/resources/</strong></a><strong> </strong>Resources recommended by the Eating Disorders Center for Treatment and Research at University of California, San Diego</p><p><a href="http://www.childrenshospital.org/centers-and-services/programs/a-_-e/eating-disorders-program/helpful-links" target="_blank"><strong>www.childrenshospital.org/centers-and-services/programs/a-_-e/eating-disorders-program/helpful-links</strong></a><strong> </strong>Resources recommended by the Eating Disorders Program at Boston Children’s Hospital</p><p><a href="https://www.aedweb.org/resources/about-eating-disorders" target="_blank"><strong>https://www.aedweb.org/resources/about-eating-disorders</strong></a><strong> </strong>Informational resources developed by the Academy for Eating Disorders</p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>"If the pandemic is about anything, it's about loss,” says Dr. Lisa Damour. Grief can come in different forms - from losing a loved one, to mourning the loss of senior year in high school, to not getting into your favorite college. How can you tell if your child is grieving and what can you do to help? Lisa and Reena examine how to support our kids as they cope with loss. Reena shares how a bouncy castle rented on the morning of her grandfather’s funeral helped her family deal with loss. Lisa discusses insights from Sigmund Freud - written over one hundred years ago - that can be helpful as we find our way through the pandemic.</p><p>Enter to win one of two copies of&nbsp;"Fall of Freddie the Leaf"&nbsp;being given away by the @asklisapodcast. The book has helped children and adults deal with the mourning process.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠</p><p>4. For U.S. residents only⁠</p><p>⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on&nbsp;4/26/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you talk to kids about social media postings that might cross a line?&nbsp;What's the best way to start a conversation with your sons and daughters about what's too sexy for public consumption?&nbsp;A parent writes to Lisa and Reena about the suggestive TikTok postings her daughter puts up. Lisa explains how to open up lines of communication and the guidance parents might give about posts that could be seen as provocative. Lisa also shares what she is seeing during the pandemic and details why kids post suggestive content at this age.</p><p>Enter to win one of two copies being given away by the @asklisapodcast of Lisa's fabulous New York Times best-selling book <em>Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls.</em></p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/" target="_blank">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠<br>4. For U.S. residents only⁠<br>⁠</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on&nbsp;4/19/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you prepare kids for life in the real world? Author Julie Lythcott-Haims joins Lisa and Reena for a conversation on the non-academic skills your children need to succeed as they move into young adulthood. Julie spent more than a decade at Stanford University, some of that time as the dean of first-year students. The women talk about how to discuss race with our children, the different chores kids should take on as they age, and the critical importance of having real responsibilities at home. Julie describes the power of positive parenting and talks about her brand-new book&nbsp;<em>Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.</em></p><p>Enter to win one of two copies being given away by the @asklisapodcast of Julie’s new book&nbsp;<em>Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.</em></p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/asklisapodcast/" target="_blank">@asklisapodcast</a>&nbsp;⁠<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠<br>4. For U.S. residents only⁠<br>⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on&nbsp;4/12/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p>Ask Lisa&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>As we move into the next phase of this pandemic we take listeners&nbsp;back to an encore presentation&nbsp;of "Toolbox for Terrible Times: How to Manage Hopelessness and Helplessness." Lisa offers specific tools to help children with their feelings and describes the key role played by healthy psychological defenses. Reena gets emotional talking about what her son's Connecticut teacher did to prepare her students for the first day back at school. The conversation also covers psychological research on how both children and adults can significantly increase their well-being.</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: <a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a><br>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>There are many reasons why kids lie to parents. Dr. Lisa gives several explanations for why kids sometimes don’t tell the truth and shares stories from her practice of the difficult scenarios she's helped families navigate, including an example of when parents assume the worst about their teen's behavior and get kids to live down to their expectations. Dr. Lisa and Reena also discuss cheating and how what happens in the mind of a six-year-old cheater differs from cheating among high school students. Ultimately, helping kids develop a fine-tuned conscience can make all the difference when it comes to being honest.<br><br>FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE: <em>First Book </em>works with&nbsp;half a million teachers in underserved communities to get them books and much needed resources. The organization believes the best way out of poverty is education: <a href="http://www.firstbook.org/" target="_blank">www.firstbook.org</a></p><p>ARTICLE: Lisa's NYT article&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/26/well/family/teens-homework-school.html?searchResultPosition=2" target="_blank">How to Help a Teen Out of a Homework Hole</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Talking to a child about pornography might not be a conversation most parents think of having. However, by the age of sixteen, 90% of kids have looked at porn. Dr. Lisa Damour explains that kids' interest in sex is normal and part of healthy development. But she also explains how porn can be traumatic and confusing to kids and teens who encounter it. How do you approach the conversation and at what age should you start discussing it? Reena asks for tips on how to make these talks less uncomfortable.</p><p>BOOK GIVEAWAY</p><p>Enter to win a copy of <em>Sex, Teens, &amp; Everything in Between</em> by Shafia Zaloom or a copy of <em>It's Perfectly Normal</em> by Robie H. Harris and Michelle Emberley, given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/22/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>ARTICLES</p><p>Lisa's NYT article: <a href="https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/03/31/how-to-talk-to-your-teenager-about-pornography/?searchResultPosition=1" target="_blank">How to Talk to Your Teenager About Pornography</a></p><p>Shafia Zaloom's NYT article: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/10/well/family/children-pornhub.html?searchResultPosition=1" target="_blank">Kids Are Watching Pornography. Here's How to Talk About It</a></p><p><br></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>With the one year anniversary of the pandemic approaching there are reasons to be hopeful. The infection rates are dropping and more vaccines are being distributed. So why do so many people still feel down? Reena asks about what parents can do when they feel the ground is shifting and things are out of their control. How do we help kids manage the anxiety of starting in-person school and the persistent stress of this pandemic? Lisa talks through strategies for finding a way out of feeling anxious and depressed.</p><p><u>Book Giveaway!!</u></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies of A Place to Hang the Moon by Kate Albus&nbsp;being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/15/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Finding time to quiet your mind can have real benefits for you and your child. Author, instructor, mom, and entrepreneur Mallika Chopra is our special guest. She says that meditation isn’t just repeating mantras - there are many other ways your kids can be mindful. Mallika also talks about her father Deepak Chopra and how he found meditation after going through his own personal struggles. Mindful eating is also discussed.</p><p><strong>Book Giveaway!!</strong></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies of Mallika Chopra's new book&nbsp;<em>Just Be You</em>&nbsp;being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/8/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>A parent writes in asking for help to address a teenager's marijuana use. Some teens are turning to drugs in this pandemic as they are looking for ways to cope with the sadness and boredom. Dr. Lisa explains what actually works in getting kids to stop using drugs and how to talk with kids in a way that's likely to keep them from becoming involved with drugs in the first place. Dr. Lisa talks about choices kids might make in the pandemic that could have irreversible consequences, while also offering tips on positive coping. Reena asks when adults should be concerned about their own behavior with regard to alcohol or marijuana use.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>Thrivers: The Surprising Reason Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine, by Dr. Michele Borba</p><p>Enter to win one of 3 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/1/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Should you speak up when you disagree with the approach other families are taking with their Covid rules? Reena discusses the latest news on the spread of the British mutation and Dr. Lisa describes the mental maneuvers we make when trying to rationalize behavior. How do we find peace when we feel uneasy with what other families are doing?&nbsp;And how do you talk with children about the fact that different families follow different rules?</p><p>For Children Everywhere - “A Million Thanks” collects and sends millions of letters thanking and supporting our active, reserve, and veteran military. Generosity can come in the form of writing letters or sending art work - all your child needs to send is a picture or note. The organization does request a $1 donation for postage as they sort letters to get into the hands of those who need the mail the most:<br><a href="https://amillionthanks.org/" target="_blank">https://amillionthanks.org/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com"><strong>asklisa@drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/"><strong>https://www.drlisadamour.com</strong></a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast"><strong>@asklisapodcast</strong></a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>When kids hit thirteen they often become highly emotional. What happens in the brain and the body during this time? Dr. Lisa explains and also talks about the process of "separation-individuation" where young people seek to define their own identities - often by being hard on their folks.</p><p>Parents sometimes assume that age thirteen is the beginning of adolescence. But is it really? And how can you help a tween or teen who's having an emotional meltdown?&nbsp;Dr. Lisa has good news: the intensity of early adolescence doesn’t last forever and there are effective things parents can do to manage bumpy moments with their teen.</p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:&nbsp;</strong>14 Talks By Age 14:&nbsp;The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School; by Michelle Icard</p><p>Enter to win one of 3 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/15/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you get kids to understand the importance of hygiene? A mom writes in that her son is making life unbearable at home because he refuses to take regular showers since he has spent much of the year learning remotely. Dr. Lisa explains the concept of habituation - the process of growing accustomed to sensory input - and discusses with Reena the science behind sensation and perception. Lisa offers strategies to help kids understand why they can't smell themselves and gives guidance on when, as a parent, it's time to lay down the law. Reena and Lisa also talk about the sweet smell of success. Reena’s Tampa Bay Buccaneers made it to the Super Bowl. What life lessons can Tom Brady and Gronk teach us from the football field?<br><br>Lisa's 1/29/29 article in The New York Times: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/29/well/family/teenager-anger-pandemic.html" target="_blank">Helping&nbsp;a Teen Who Is Angry About House Rules on Covid<br><br></a><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY: </strong>Dr. Cara Natterson's books on puberty: "The Care &amp; Keeping of You" (Book 1 for younger girls &amp; Book 2 for older girls) and "Guy Stuff." Enter to win one set of all 3 books being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p><br>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast<br>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)<br>3. Enter as many times as you'd like<br>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only<br>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/8/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)<br></p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>A single mom writes in feeling worried because her daughter is questioning her gender. Dr. Lisa explains what we understand about gender identity and sexual orientation, and offers advice on what to do when you are at an impasse with your child. Parents often feel they need to drive the bus on getting to a desired outcome, but that's not usually the best approach. Lisa and Reena talk about how to think with your child about complex and delicate topics, and Lisa explains what teenagers really respect in adults. She also discusses research she uncovered about the parent-child relationship while writing&nbsp;<em>Untangled</em>&nbsp;that might surprise you.</p><p>Lisa's 10/7/20 book review in The New York Times:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/07/books/review/lisa-selin-davis-tomboy.html?fbclid=IwAR2w_sRIfD6jBZnqiZesvcrsPWRW6392luO5qIdFsP2R60uDBWFa3xoq1Ds" target="_blank">'Tomboy’ Looks at Gender Roles, and Role-Playing, Through the Ages</a></p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p><strong>Dr. Lisa Damour’s “Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood.”</strong></p><p>Enter to win one of 3 copies being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/1/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>It’s not always easy to be the grownup in the room. What are the teachable moments for our children as we watch alarming events unfold in Washington DC?</p><p>How do you move beyond intense polarization? Lisa talks about research conducted by social psychologist, Henri Tajfel, who survived WW II only because his German captors never discovered that he was Jewish. Tajfel explains how the Nazis are not so different from us. How does his research apply to present day and the recent Capitol Hill riots?</p><p>How do you help kids see when they’re dehumanizing other people? Reena asks about radicalization online and cancel culture. Lisa explains how you can help your family work against discrimination and prejudice.</p><p>Lisa's 1.7.20 article in The New York Times: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/07/well/family/parenting-capitol-mob.html"><strong>Parenting While Shocked</strong></a></p><p><strong>BOOK GIVEAWAY:</strong></p><p>New York Times personal finance columnist Ron Lieber's new book publishes next week! Enter to win one of 3 copies being given away by&nbsp;@asklisapodcast.</p><p>1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook&nbsp;@asklisapodcast</p><p>2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook)</p><p>3. Enter as many times as you'd like</p><p>4. For U.S.&nbsp;residents only</p><p>(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close&nbsp;at 11:59 p.m. EST on 1/25/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners directly from the publisher.)</p><p>Additional&nbsp;resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Parents are finding it hard to get their children to feel motivated about school, especially when they are learning remotely. Dr. Lisa explains strategies that might help and how parents can help kids keep the academic train on its tracks. Lisa and Reena talk about supporting children for whom school is an uphill battle, even under normal conditions, and what parents should do if they are the ones who feel like they are drowning. Reena talks about the emotional experience she had selling an old sofa and how it put into perspective the struggle many parents are going through.</p><p>For Children Everywhere - UNICEF works in 180 different countries and territories to save children’s lives and protect their rights.</p><p><a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.unicef.org/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1sGxSkt3e14bbjibaJLJUp" target="_blank">https://www.unicef.org/</a></p><p>Join us&nbsp;this Friday, Jan 15th, 2021 at 3pm EST&nbsp;on Instagram Live @asklisapodcast. We will be taking your parenting questions live!</p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.drlisadamour.com/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0Bhz4OPcke-D2IfRVpNc4H" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/&amp;source=gmail-imap&amp;ust=1610976333000000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3ANWoolpTN0XFBJM7hWRoz" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp; @LDamour @ReenaNinan&nbsp;Sent from my iPhone</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Lisa and Reena kick off the new year with a look at positive psychology. What is it and how exactly does it work? How do you stay positive when things aren’t rosy? Reena asks about the psychology of manifesting. Does it really work? They also look at sadness and happiness. Lisa shares why the two emotions don't cancel each other out but, instead, often live side by side. In other words, the presence of negative does not mean the absence of positive. Lisa explains that what psychologists call "pleasure scheduling" can help boost mood and also covers the critical importance of our personal running narratives - or "self-talk."<br><br>For Children Everywhere<strong> - </strong>Brain &amp; Behavior Research Foundation is the nation’s top non-governmental founder of mental health research grants to scientists. <a href="http://www.bbrfoundation.org/" target="_blank">Www.BBRFoundation.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:</p><p><a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by</p><p><a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>When can your kids get vaccinated? If my child has recovered from Covid-19, how long does immunity last? How do you know when it’s really safe to send your kids back to school?&nbsp; Lisa and Reena get answers to key medical questions about kids and Covid-19 with special guest expert, pediatrician Dr. Cara Natterson.&nbsp;<br><br>CARA NATTERSON, MD, is a pediatrician who has been helping schools with Covid-19 health and safety plans and a&nbsp;<em>New York Times</em>&nbsp;bestselling author of puberty and parenting books. Dr. Natterson pens a weekly newsletter about the intersection of science, parenting, and the coronavirus. Learn more about Dr. Natterson and subscribe to her newsletter at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.worryproofmd.com/" target="_blank">www.worryproofmd.com</a>.</p><p>For Children Everywhere - The American Lung Association supports your breath through education, advocacy and groundbreaking research. With COVID-19, the lung disease that has stopped the world, support to the Lung Association is needed now more than ever. Donate at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.lung.org/" target="_blank">www.lung.org</a></p><p>Talk to your child about vaping with the American Lung Association's <a href="https://www.lung.org/quit-smoking/helping-teens-quit/talk-about-vaping">Get Your Head Out of the Cloud</a> conversation guide. Lisa was honored to help develop the conversation guide in collaboration with the American Lung Association.</p><p>Additional resources: <a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by: <a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast &nbsp;@LDamour @ReenaNinan</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>We like to think that time can heal a lot, but when do we need to worry about the pandemic's lasting impact on our children?&nbsp;Lisa introduces us to the concept of “ordinary magic” - protective processes that happen at home which can shield children from persistently difficult circumstances. Lisa and Reena discuss the research on resilience and what it teaches us about kids who thrive during hardship and how parents can help.</p><p>Resources on resiliency:</p><p>Check out Reena’s show on YouTube “The Rebound” for stories of how people have made it out of their hardest moments&nbsp;@itstherebound: <a href="https://bit.ly/381xcAf" target="_blank">bit.ly/381xcAf</a></p><p>“Ordinary Magic” a book by psychologist Dr. Ann Masten.&nbsp;<a href="https://www.guilford.com/books/Ordinary-Magic/Ann-Masten/9781462523719/reviews" target="_blank">https://www.guilford.com/books/Ordinary-Magic/Ann-Masten/9781462523719/reviews</a></p><p>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;Blessings in a Backpack mobilizes communities, individuals, and resources to provide food for elementary school children across America who might otherwise go hungry. Donate at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.blessingsinabackpack.org/" target="_blank">www.blessingsinabackpack.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>What’s the limit for children socializing online? Many kids use social media to connect with their friends and as an escape from the monotony of this pandemic. Lisa walks us through the pros and cons of being online - from when getting lost in distractions can be a good thing to when digital technology can be detrimental to a child’s development. Lisa and Reena unpack the research on how best to take a break, especially when our kids (or we!) need to give the body a rest from stress hormones or clear out mental clutter. The episode wraps up by answering a critical question: When is it time to be concerned about our kids' online social activity?</p><p>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;Crisis Text Line is free&nbsp;24/7&nbsp;support for those in crisis. Text 741 741 from anywhere in the US to reach a trained crisis counselor.&nbsp;<a href="http://www.crisistextline.org/" target="_blank">www.crisistextline.org</a></p><p>Lisa’s most recent NYT column:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/03/well/family/teenagers-downtime-free-time-choices.html" target="_blank">How Teens Use Downtime to Connect, Distract or Reflect</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do you approach your child when you know they may be struggling but won’t open up? Lisa shares what she learned when she asked teens why they sometimes clam up around their parents. Lisa and Reena consider how much parents really need to know about the details of their kid's lives and the different ways to support children and help them process their emotions, even when they play their cards close to their chests. For parents who feel that their kid broke up with them, how do you regain their trust? When should you really start to worry?</p><p>For Children Everywhere - <a href="//kiva.org"><strong>KIVA&nbsp;</strong></a>crowd funds<a href="//kiva.org"> </a>loans for businesses in over 80 countries. The borrowers have a 96% repayment rate. Once repayment is made, you can resend again to someone else. One hundred percent of the money you give goes straight to funding the loans.</p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>Navigating the holidays under Covid has its own pressures. A season that should be marked by joy is being met with sadness and loss by so many. Lisa explains how taking time to mourn the temporary loss of our regular traditions can help us deal with, and move past, these emotions. Understanding that it won’t always feel this way can help children cope with uncertainty. The silver lining is that finding our way through intensely sad times helps to build resilience.</p><p><strong>For Children Everywhere </strong>- Feeding America&nbsp;is the nation’s largest domestic hunger-relief organization. It has served over 40 million people through food banks and meal programs:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.feedingamerica.org/" target="_blank">www.feedingamerica.org</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>High school seniors are feeling the disruption of the pandemic as they tackle the college admissions process.&nbsp; How do we help them manage these uncertain times while they plan the next chapter of their lives?<br><br>Special guest and New York Times bestselling author Jeff Selingo joins us to answer your questions about applying to college in a pandemic. Drawing on research from his brand new book,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Who-Gets-Why-College-Admissions/dp/1982116293/ref=pd_lpo_14_t_0/137-8249024-2674918?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_i=1982116293&amp;pd_rd_r=19b16243-231f-4ad3-a792-43ef65ac2262&amp;pd_rd_w=be8fg&amp;pd_rd_wg=UuxgG&amp;pf_rd_p=7b36d496-f366-4631-94d3-61b87b52511b&amp;pf_rd_r=E8RQW34Q65EX98A50NHD&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=E8RQW34Q65EX98A50NHD"><em>Who Gets In &amp; Why: A Year Inside College Admissions</em></a><em>,&nbsp;</em>Jeff explains what he learned while&nbsp;embedded with three university admissions offices. How do admissions gatekeepers decide who gets in? How can applicants stand out? Are schools doing away with the SAT/ACT? How much do grades really matter? How are universities changing their approach to admissions in light of the pandemic? Jeff answers these questions and more.</p><p><strong>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;</strong>Girlstart inspires girls in STEM. Their mission is to increase girls’ interest and engagement in STEM through innovative, informal STEM education programs:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.girlstart.org/" target="_blank">www.girlstart.org</a><br><br>For more on Jeff Selingo, check out&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jeffselingo.com/" target="_blank">https://www.jeffselingo.com/</a></p><p>Lisa's&nbsp;<em>New York Times&nbsp;</em>article about taking a gap year:&nbsp;<a href="https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/04/27/college-admission-and-college-readiness-two-very-different-things/?ref=us&amp;_r=0" target="_blank">Getting Into College Doesn't Mean Students are Ready to Go</a></p><p>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com/</a></p><p><em>Ask Lisa</em>&nbsp;is produced by&nbsp;<a href="http://www.goodtroubleproductions.com/" target="_blank">Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com</a></p><p>Be sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast</p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>

<p>How do dads differ from moms when it comes to raising kids? Lisa unpacks the research on the different roles each parent plays while pointing out that there are no hard and fast gender lines in parenting and that you don't have to be a parent to play a powerful role in a child's life. Lisa and Reena talk about the dynamics that often unfold between dads and daughters and mothers and sons, especially in the context of adolescence. What do all kids want? They want to feel valued and admired.</p><p><strong>For Children Everywhere -&nbsp;</strong>Jumpstart is a national early education organization giving kids help with literacy and social-emotional programming for preschool children from under-resourced communities.&nbsp; It promotes quality early learning for all children:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jstart.org/" target="_blank">https://www.jstart.org/</a></p><p>Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:asklisa@drlisadamour.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">asklisa@drlisadamour.com</a><br><br>Additional resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.drlisadamour.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.drlisadamour.com</a></p><p>Follow us on Instagram and Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/asklisapodcast">@asklisapodcast</a></p><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for privacy and opt-out information.</p>