How to Start Over

In this series, Atlantic staff writer Olga Khazan analyzes what it takes to change our relationships, our work, and our perspective—with a practical approach to one of life’s greatest mysteries: how to start over. Change can be really hard. Inertia is powerful, mortgages and marriages are long-term, and personality traits can feel pretty hardwired. But we’re in an era characterized by change. This series is your guide to starting over in the ways you’ve always wanted, why change is so hard, and whether it is, sometimes, overrated.

This series was produced by Rebecca Rashid and hosted by Olga Khazan. Editing by A.C. Valdez and Claudine Ebeid. Fact-check by Ena Alvarado. Sound design by Matthew Simonson. If you have any questions, stories, or feedback, please email us at or leave us a voicemail at 925-967-2091.

How to Forgive Ourselves for What We Can’t Change
Regret As a Catalyst for Change
29 min
The Misgivings of Friend-Making
Why Is It So Hard to Make a Friend?
37 min
When Can a Marriage Be Saved?
How to Know When It’s Time to End a Relationship
38 min
When Partnership Is Not the Destination
Happily Ever After Starts With Singlehood
29 min
'Parents Are Not All Good and All Bad'
Starting Over With the People Who Raised You
27 min
Starting Over When You Think It's Too Late
How to Make the Most of Midlife Malaise
30 min
Introducing: How To Start Over
Your one-stop shop for navigating the challenges of changing your life.
2 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How to Identify What...
How to Have Fun, Experience Satisfaction Through Purpose, and Find Joy In Everyday Life
39 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How to Live When You...
The Path Forward in Struggle and The Paradox of Human Happiness
47 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How to Find the Secr...
Working Towards Happier Days at Work
38 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How to Know That You...
Staying Present and Breaking the Illusion of Stability
35 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How Not to Be Your O...
What It Means to Be Yourself
32 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How to Know You're L...
Loneliness, Lending a Hand, and Living Life Around People
38 min
How to Build a Happy Life: How to Be Self-Aware
Manage Your Feelings, So They Don't Manage You
34 min
Introducing: How to Build a Happy Life
The Atlantic's new show on all things happiness, featuring Arthur Brooks
2 min