Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Demp...
HOT MESS is a laugh-out-loud podcast with Actor & Comedian Alec Mapa along with professional psychotherapist, Matthew Dempsey, who both explore the pursuit of health and wellness in a hilarious and compassionate way. Everyone’s trying to survive in a world that’s turned upside down, but beneath the surface we’re all a HOT MESS and the healing process can trigger intense feelings. But, have no fear, Alec and Matthew are here! They’ll zero in on an ISSUE OF THE DAY to compare and despair uncertainties, anxiety of social media, body image, aging in a youth-obsessed culture and unaddressed conflict that is HOLDING YOU BACK. They’ll discuss practical coping strategies and workable solutions that get down to the nitty gritty of what it takes to FEEL BETTER. All discussed with compassion, honesty, vulnerability and above all humor. Each week a celebrity guest will join them to discuss their own wellness journey including failures, frustrations, and ultimately what worked for them. By sharing real-life stories with complete candor, they aim to empower you with valuable information, the knowledge you’re not alone, we’re ALL works in progress and feeling good is the ultimate goal of anyone who’s a HOT MESS.
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The Best of Drag Queens
In this special episode of Hot Mess, we bring you the very best of drag queens! Listen to Alec and Matt’s favorite conversations with some of the most compelling, fascinating, and hilarious drag queens ever to appear on the show!
47 min
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Best of Hot Messages
This special episode of Hot Mess, brings you the best of all of the Hot Messages from the show. Here what some of our favorite guests have to say about how to live your best life!
19 min
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Ross Mathews: Understanding Grief
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa and psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey re-air one of their absolute favorite conversations with gifted tv personality Ross Mathews shortly after his mother passed away. Alec, Matt and Ross talk about stages of grief, the value of a positive framework, and finding meaning in suffering.
45 min
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Raven: The End of People-Pleasing: Now Calling ...
Alec and Matthew address people-pleasing with Raven, the Emmy award-winning make-up artist and host of the new competition show Painted with Raven on Wow Presents Plus. Raven opens up about growing up in Victorville, California, falling in love with makeup and beauty, being the runner-up in Season Two of Drag Race, ending people-pleasing, getting rid of crazymakers and finding people worth an emotional investment. Listen in and you’ll feel inspired to find all the beauty in yourself and others! Interested in advertising on the show? Visit: https://www.advertisecast.com/AlecMapaHotMesswithMatthewDempsey
47 min
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Rock M Sakura: Sex worker
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12, the fabulous Rock M Sakura. Rock opens up about surviving her challenging childhood, how she became a sex worker, and her feelings about transactional sex and sex with older men. You know it’s going to be an interesting episode when it starts with a demo of a prostate massager.
53 min
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Alyson Stoner: Healing Yourself
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome childhood dancer, Disney channel actress and creator of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner to the show for a conversation about how to heal yourself. Alyson shares openly about the struggles in her life, including an eating disorder and the diagnosis of Alexithymia and the strategies, mindset and tools that help her to heal, empower herself, and thrive in her life.
53 min
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Re-Air Kristen Johnston: Premier Episode
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa and psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey share their heartfelt gratitude for their listeners and re-air their first ever episode of the show with Emmy-Award winning actress Kristen Johnston! Kristen shares her own personal struggles of being an addict, how she overcame it, and dishes with Alec on all things Hollywood!
47 min
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Quinn Cummings: Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome Oscar-nominated actress and author of Notes From the Underwire, humorist Quinn Cummings to the show for a fascinating conversation about why she decided to try Ketamine treatments. Alec, Matt and Quinn talk about the purpose of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy and Quinn shares details of her experience, what she hoped to resolve, and whether or not it was helpful.
49 min
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Ginger Minj: Living with Chronic Depression
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome star of 3 seasons of Drag Race, Ginger Minj for a raw and fascinating conversation about living with chronic depression. Ginger reveals things about her life she has never spoken about publicly before and the three talk how to move forward and live well with mental health struggles.
49 min
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Jennifer Tilly: Self-Deprecating Humor
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome Oscar-nominated actress and star of the new Chucky television show, Jenifer Tilly. Matt, Alec and Jennifer have a wild and hilarious conversation about using self-deprecating humor and how it can work for us and against us in life. Jennifer tells stories of being a “weirdo” growing up, playing the role of airhead and her journey to recognize her talent and find her place in the world.
51 min
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D.J.“Shangela” Pierce: What Drives You
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 2 and 3 and star of HBO’s We’re Here, D.J. “Shangela” Pierce. The three have a personal and hilarious conversation about what drives us in life. Shangela opens up about how he started doing drag, rebounded after being first to get voted off, coped with the mental strain of reality tv, and how he keeps driving forward in life no matter what.
52 min
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Beth Hall: How to Reset
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome actress and comedian Bell Hall who starred as Caroline on Mad Men and Wendy on the hit show Mom. The three open up about what it means to “reset” in your life- why we resist change, how fear can stop us from taking risks, and the power of saying YES.
49 min
13
Alec and Matt: Alec not drinking
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey talk openly to one another about the role alcohol has played in their lives. Alec gets vulnerable and honest about why he stopped drinking and the impact it has had on his relationships and life.
47 min
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Navigating an open relationship Part 2: with Al...
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa’s husband of of 20 years, Jamie Hebert, is back to continue their highly personal conversation about how they navigate an open relationship. This time, Matt is there to ask the tough questions and extend his support to Alec and Jamie as they talk very vulnerably about aspects of their relationship they have never spoken about publicly until now.
50 min
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Eureka: Feeling “Othered”
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season seasons 9 and 10 and All Stars Season 6, Eureka for a powerful conversation about being “othered.” Eureka opens up about their experiences growing up, how they came to find drag, and how they feel they are a better person now for all of their difficult experiences in life.
48 min
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Tina Burner: Turning Adversity Into Strength
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13, the fabulous Tina Burner for a conversation about turning adversity into strength. The three open up about their own personal challenges and the importance of leaving the victim mentality behind and building strength from suffering
49 min
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Jack Plotnick: Managing Anxiety
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome actor, writer, and director Jack Plotnick to the show to talk about managing anxiety. Alec and Matt talk about what causes anxiety for them and how they cope with their own uncomfortable feelings. Jack shares his teachings and best tools and practices for managing anxiety and feeling your best.
45 min
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Denali: Negative Self-Talk
In this episode of Hot Mess, Alec and Matt are excited to welcome Denali from the 13th season of RuPaul’s Drag Race. Denali opens up about feeling invisible on the show, the negative self-talk that she has struggled with throughout her life, and how to get in touch with your own intrinsic worthiness.
49 min
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Jackie Beat: Sex Positivity
In this episode of Hot Mess, Comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey welcome drag entertainer for over 30 years, Jackie Beat, for a fascinating conversation about sex positivity. Jackie opens up about why she went over 20 years without having sex and what shifted to allow her to embrace herself and her sexuality again.
54 min
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Navigating an open relationship: with Alec’s hu...
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa invites his husband of 20 years, Jamie Hebert, to join him for a personal and revealing conversation about their relationship. The two discuss what drives them crazy about each other, what they learn and admire about each other, how they handle conflict, and after 14 years of monogamy, why they decided to open up their relationship.
47 min
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Kirsten Vangsness: Sexual Trauma
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa and psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey have an intimate and important conversation with playwright, actor, and star of 15 seasons on the hit show Criminal Minds, Kirsten Vangsness. Kirsten opens up about the sexual abuse she experienced growing up, the impact it had on her physically and emotionally, and the work she has done to understand and heal from trauma.
46 min
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Q & A: Hook-Up Culture
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa and psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey do another listener Q & A! This time the topic is hook-up culture!
40 min
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Carson Kressley: Dating
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey invite Emmy-Award winning television personality and judge on RuPaul’s Drag Race and Barbeque Brawl, Carson Kressley, for a funny and personal conversation about dating and relationships. Matt, Alec and Carson share their thoughts and feelings about being single, navigating dating apps, attachment styles, what they have learned about themselves and what they are looking for in a relationship.
44 min
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Laraine Newman: Longevity
In this episode of Hot Mess, Alec and Matt are excited to welcome founding member of the The Groundlings and original cast member of Saturday Night Live, comedy icon Laraine Newman. The three have a hilarious and heartfelt conversation about comedy, addiction, neglect, self-worth, and what it takes to have longevity in the entertainment business.
50 min
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50th Episode Special
In this episode of Hot Mess, comedian Alec Mapa and Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey celebrate their 50th episode of the podcast by talking about how the podcast began, why they are both so passionate about the show, and with a look back at some of their favorite moments from the last year!
47 min