Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Pare...
Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety.
Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety.
Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness.
Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST.
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The Anxiety Vaccine For Kids
There are known strategies that can prevent anxiety disorders from developing. In this two-part episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons share her skill-based approach to raising emotionally literate children with the tools needed to manage worry. Prevention starts with our parenting. How can we reduce the impact of anxiety in our families?
36 min
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The progress we’re making with anxious kids
In response to last week's episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the mistakes we make around helping our kids and students with anxiety and trauma, this episode celebrates the progress we've made since the 2013 publication of her book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. Lynn talks about the effective ways some schools and parents are promoting connection and anxiety management. We share examples that are skill-building and preventative for all of us to try.
28 min
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The Mental Health Mistakes Schools Make
Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discusses ways high schools and colleges support student mental health despite the research indicating they have opposite results, from safe rooms to trigger warnings. We can do better to support students and our kids with anxiety and trauma, but we must avoid quick fixes.
32 min
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Ted Lasso Is What We Need
Ted Lasso, the critically acclaimed show starring Jason Sudeikis on Apple TV, serves as a springboard in this podcast episode to discuss the emotional lives of fathers and sons. We encourage parents to watch Ted Lasso with their tweens and teens and the many lessons the show teaches on mental health, connection, and injury.
30 min
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If Our Kids Are Anxious, Do We Blame Ourselves?
Join Lynn and Robin as they respond to a listener question that will resonate with many. When parents struggle with anxiety, it is difficult to watch their children repeat similar patterns. Lynn describes how to disrupt family patterns and how we can move through the blame and shame.
32 min
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How to Raise Problem Solvers
Every parent wants to raise a problem solver, but that means we have to give our kids the practice of creating solutions, not fixing things for them. Join anxiety expert Lynn Lyons wrap up the third of a three-part series on the principal skills children need for a strong foundation in mental health (along with flexibility and autonomy).
41 min
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Developing Your Kid's Cognitive Flexibility Fro...
A kid with a flexible brain becomes a person who can go with the flow when life doesn’t unfold as planned. Handling the unexpected is a critical skill in most scenarios. Rigidity just makes life harder. What does it mean to be cognitively flexible and how can you help your child get there?
35 min
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Developing Your Kid's Autonomy: How Controlling...
In this new, three-episode series, we unpack Lynn Lyons's big triad: Autonomy, Flexibility, and Problem Solving. These essential skills help prevent mental health issues from developing, and, of course, Lynn will tell you how to nurture them in your children.We tackle autonomy in this episode, and the important question every parent should ask: "How controlling am I with my kids?"
35 min
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What Parents Need To Know About Anxiety Medicat...
The decision to medicate an anxious child is a big one for parents, as it should be. In this episode, we address the most important considerations. And Lynn gets real about the changes she’s seen over her thirty years of clinical practice.
35 min
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The Good News About Your Kid's Psychological Im...
immune system and the role of both positive and adverse childhood experiences. While adverse childhood experiences could happen to our kids, parents can have much more control over creating the seven positive childhood experiences that support mental health for life.
39 min
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What's New in Season 4 of Flusterclux
Anxious Kids? Worried Parents? Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to support their family’s mental health with the stresses of our new normal. Anxiety has been a growing, dominant force in the culture in recent years, and parents need to be on the offense to manage it for themselves and for their kids. Anxiety is treatable when families have the right tools. Psychotherapist and author Lynn Lyons guides you through the "flusterclux" of raising a family.
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Back To School! 4 Ways to Boost Your Kids' Ment...
The Back To School season is here, and it's important to check in on the state of your kid's mental health. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons walks us through this list of things to think about to see how you can support your family's mental health, from sleep to social connection. Lynn also talks to parents feeling anxious about sending their kids off to class in another year of COVID.
37 min
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Yelling At Our Kids: When its OK and When It's Not
Yelling, or even when kids perceive that we are yelling, is a part of most family communications. In this episode anxiety expert and therapist, Lynn Lyons, LICSW, talks about the things we need to pay attention to if and when we yell. This is the last of our short summer episodes before Season 4!
14 min
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Anxiety in Families: Is it Nature or Nurture?
Is anxiety genetic? Does it run in families? If your parents had anxiety or depression, what does that mean for you and your children? What approaches can we take to disrupt these generational cycles?
17 min
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Not Talking About Anxiety Makes It Worse
One of the easiest mistakes we make when trying to deal without anxiety is to try get rid of the thing that makes us anxious. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains why that isn't the goal but also why talking about anxiety is critical for a family when learning to tame it.
12 min
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Find This Sweet Spot In Parenting Where There's...
Even though parenting feels like walking a tight rope, it isn't. There's lots of room for your mistakes as long as you stay within the sweet spot of emotional management. Here's how.
9 min
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Global Language in Kids: How "Never" & "Always"...
What is global language? Do you or your kids have a habit of using it? Why is it such a strong predictor of anxiety and depression? Here's what to do if your kid loves to drop "always" and "never" bombs.
13 min
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The Opposite of Anxiety isn't Certainty: A Tale...
Parents love offering certainty to their kids. It feels very loving and nurturing. But the opposite of anxiety is not certainty. Hear what parents should focus on helping with instead, as soon as their kids can talk. It's the game changer.
15 min
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Take a Vacation From Mom Guilt
There's no time for mom guilt in a busy summer. Or ever.
8 min
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Why Anxiety Makes Us Overreact With Our Kids an...
In this short summer break, we talk about our reactions. Anxiety can make us overreact, so how do we shift?
10 min
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How Anxious Parents Give Too Much Information T...
Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons offers some summer homework for anxious parents: stop giving your kids too much information. Learn what to do instead and why anxiety drives this habit.
13 min
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Summer Safety Traps for Anxious Parents
Summer’s here and parents are stressed. Hear Lynn talk about safety chatter, what it is, and why anxious parents do it. Our language matters so much. Lynn shares how to offer safety instructions to kids and teens that are practical and not catastrophic.
21 min
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This Makes Anxiety Worse: What Not to Do to He...
At the conclusion of Mental Health Awareness month, we weed through the bad advice that is so prevalent about anxiety that only makes it worse. We discuss the certain skills we must help our kids (and ourselves) develop to manage anxiety, and we talk about the things parents might try that have the desired outcome. This is an updated version of a previously released episode.
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Listeners Ask: Teens & Drinking and Anxiety vs....
In today’s episode Lynn answers two listener questions. First a mom discovers her 15 year old has been thinking of drinking to manage her stress. What are the conversations parents should be having with their teens around stress, substance abuse and peer pressure?And another mom raised by an anxious parent is trying to break the cycle with her daughters. She asks Lynn how to know when the voices inside her head are generational patterns of worry repeating or intuitive warnings. How does anxiety filter the decisions we make and the information we receive?
40 min
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OCD in Families: What it Is and Isn't
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is often missed or just misunderstood. What is OCD and what isn’t? How does it differ from really anxious thoughts? How is it treated? While it can show up at any point in life, some kids commonly show signs around 7 when there’s a family history. Lynn explains the connection with anxiety and how it differs, but most importantly, how to manage it and what signs to look for.
49 min