Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Pare...
Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety.
Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety.
Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness.
Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST.
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Passing Out From Anxiety: Funny Tales From Our ...
Do you know anyone who has a tendency to faint? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about her own experience with vasovagal syncope, a condition shared by her father, siblings, and son. Learn how she manages it, and how she helped her son. And enjoy the many laughs about our family’s most embarrassing fainting moments.
38 min
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Helping Teens Reframe Their Social Anxiety
It's time for a new Flusterclux In Session episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons offers a listener consultation. Hear from Mom Becky who is worried about her anxious 16 year old daughter. Becky is thinking ahead and wondering how to prepare her kind, sensitive daughter to take the next steps toward college. Social anxiety and a traumatic event have teamed up to shut this teenager down from seeking social connection. Lynn guides this mom out of her own worry and reframes her daughter’s strengths to get them both moving forward.
52 min
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Rage: Managing Our Anger in a Tinderbox World
Rage. As we all grieve for a pre-pandemic world, we feel a lot of rage with our sadness. Anxiety expert and therapist Lynn Lyons talks about why we collectively feel anger and brings it home to our family and children. How do you help your children through outbursts? How do you raise kids who don't have outbursts as an adult? How do you manage your own rage?
41 min
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Burnout: Parents, Teachers, Healthcare Workers,...
Burnout. It's certainly a word we're hearing frequently, particularly in those who work in healthcare and education. But because burnout is often specific to the role of caring for others, there's a reason why parents feel burnout, too. We unpack burnout, what helps and what makes it worse.
29 min
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When Anxious Kids Deny They're Anxious
When anxious kids can't see that they are anxious or refuse therapy, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about options parents have in helping their kids. We also discuss a listener question where a daughter denies she's anxious or has OCD tendencies.
39 min
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A Reminder for Silliness and the Power of Play
In this quick check-in for the New Year, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons reminds parents that silliness is just about the healthiest energy in a house, and that the power of play is very, very real.
6 min
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The best advice for handling difficult family m...
On this busy Christmas Eve, we offer a very short episode, but a very powerful piece of advice for the holiday season. Don't visit the relatives without hearing this first. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the best advice she ever received from her mentor on taking things personally.
7 min
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Flusterclux in Session: When Anxiety Is Your Te...
One listener's teen is trapped by the details of her many worries, and her mom is trying to address each one with rational information and reassuring promises. Hear me offer mom Tori an alternative to letting her daughter's worry rule the family. It’s hard for parents to step out of the content of worry, but it’s also the key to success.
52 min
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Flusterclux in Session: When Sleep Causes A Fam...
What happens when anxiety around sleep becomes a nightly ritual? In this Flusterclux In Session episode a parent is becoming all too aware of how her worry about sleep shapes bedtime for her son…and it is probably showing up elsewhere. Listen to Lynn coach a mom on how to make a few key adjustments to the worry routine at bedtime and beyond.
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Flusterclux in Session: The Stress of Two Diff...
We're so excited to deliver the first of our family session episodes. You'll hear anxiety expert Lynn Lyons offer a listener a 45-minute consultation on the way anxiety is presenting in a family. Be a fly on the wall learning how other families' struggles are comfortingly familiar. In this first Flusterclux in Session, Lynn talks to Eleanor, who wants to discuss two very different parenting styles. Hear how Lynn unpacks this family dynamic and her solutions.
49 min
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We’re Our Own Worst Critics
Anxiety and depression are both internalizing disorders, and identifying our own internal patterns is good to understand so that we can proactively reach externally and connect with others. In honor of the holidays and giving thanks, we discuss the difference between limiting gratitude to an internal habit or leveraging the power of gratitude externally And this episode gets a little silly.
33 min
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Do Your Kids Know How To Ask For Help?
As parents, we want our kids to learn how to ask for help. We want them to ask directly and to the right people, but how do we help them build those skills? We'll help in this episode.
29 min
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The Anxiety Vaccine For Kids Pt. 2: Emotional M...
What is emotional management and why is it the key to a family's mental health? How can you model it for your kids, and how can you teach them the skills they need to show up at life's difficult moments? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discuss the traits that most anxious parents have in common and how they impact anxious kids. She walks you through those parenting conversations that promote skills that can "immunize" our children against developing anxiety disorders.
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The Anxiety Vaccine For Kids
There are known strategies that can prevent anxiety disorders from developing. In this two-part episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons share her skill-based approach to raising emotionally literate children with the tools needed to manage worry. Prevention starts with our parenting. How can we reduce the impact of anxiety in our families?
36 min
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The progress we’re making with anxious kids
In response to last week's episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the mistakes we make around helping our kids and students with anxiety and trauma, this episode celebrates the progress we've made since the 2013 publication of her book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. Lynn talks about the effective ways some schools and parents are promoting connection and anxiety management. We share examples that are skill-building and preventative for all of us to try.
28 min
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The Mental Health Mistakes Schools Make
Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discusses ways high schools and colleges support student mental health despite the research indicating they have opposite results, from safe rooms to trigger warnings. We can do better to support students and our kids with anxiety and trauma, but we must avoid quick fixes.
32 min
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Ted Lasso Is What We Need
Ted Lasso, the critically acclaimed show starring Jason Sudeikis on Apple TV, serves as a springboard in this podcast episode to discuss the emotional lives of fathers and sons. We encourage parents to watch Ted Lasso with their tweens and teens and the many lessons the show teaches on mental health, connection, and injury.
30 min
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If Our Kids Are Anxious, Do We Blame Ourselves?
Join Lynn and Robin as they respond to a listener question that will resonate with many. When parents struggle with anxiety, it is difficult to watch their children repeat similar patterns. Lynn describes how to disrupt family patterns and how we can move through the blame and shame.
32 min
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How to Raise Problem Solvers
Every parent wants to raise a problem solver, but that means we have to give our kids the practice of creating solutions, not fixing things for them. Join anxiety expert Lynn Lyons wrap up the third of a three-part series on the principal skills children need for a strong foundation in mental health (along with flexibility and autonomy).
41 min
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Developing Your Kid's Cognitive Flexibility Fro...
A kid with a flexible brain becomes a person who can go with the flow when life doesn’t unfold as planned. Handling the unexpected is a critical skill in most scenarios. Rigidity just makes life harder. What does it mean to be cognitively flexible and how can you help your child get there?
35 min
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Developing Your Kid's Autonomy: How Controlling...
In this new, three-episode series, we unpack Lynn Lyons's big triad: Autonomy, Flexibility, and Problem Solving. These essential skills help prevent mental health issues from developing, and, of course, Lynn will tell you how to nurture them in your children.We tackle autonomy in this episode, and the important question every parent should ask: "How controlling am I with my kids?"
35 min
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What Parents Need To Know About Anxiety Medicat...
The decision to medicate an anxious child is a big one for parents, as it should be. In this episode, we address the most important considerations. And Lynn gets real about the changes she’s seen over her thirty years of clinical practice.
35 min
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The Good News About Your Kid's Psychological Im...
immune system and the role of both positive and adverse childhood experiences. While adverse childhood experiences could happen to our kids, parents can have much more control over creating the seven positive childhood experiences that support mental health for life.
39 min
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What's New in Season 4 of Flusterclux
Anxious Kids? Worried Parents? Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to support their family’s mental health with the stresses of our new normal. Anxiety has been a growing, dominant force in the culture in recent years, and parents need to be on the offense to manage it for themselves and for their kids. Anxiety is treatable when families have the right tools. Psychotherapist and author Lynn Lyons guides you through the "flusterclux" of raising a family.
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Back To School! 4 Ways to Boost Your Kids' Ment...
The Back To School season is here, and it's important to check in on the state of your kid's mental health. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons walks us through this list of things to think about to see how you can support your family's mental health, from sleep to social connection. Lynn also talks to parents feeling anxious about sending their kids off to class in another year of COVID.
37 min