Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Pare...
Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety.
Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety.
Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness.
Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST.
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Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We R...
Perfectionism and anxiety create a torture chamber we don't want to model for kids. When we reward excellence, how do we know when it becomes toxic? We explain how a parents can check their own behaviors as well as what to look for and say to their kids. Lynn answers a listener question from a mom whose daughter has extreme anxiety about shots and vaccines.
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How Family Laughter And Silliness Are Our Famil...
In this episode we talk about how critical it is in a family to have levity for mental health. Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. And we answer a listener question about remote learning with high school students at home. How much do you hover? How do you get your own work done? Check out the answers!
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Hope After A Teen Anxiety and Depression Diagnosis
How to help your child or teen who receives an anxiety or depression diagnosis and avoid the pitfalls that lessen the positive effects of their treatment. We answer a listener question about talking about handling frustration with a child who reacts intensely when things don't go her way.
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When You Should Get Your Child A Depression or ...
How do you go about getting a mental health diagnosis for your child? And what is an ADHD or anxiety diagnosis good for? Lynn Lyons also answers a listener question about the dynamic when there's an anxious parent and a laid-back parent.
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Welcome to Flusterclux: Fix Anxiety With Lynn L...
Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.
Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice.
Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving.
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Why Rigidity is the Bellwether of Anxiety Disor...
In our debut episode of Season 2, we discuss our name change from A Mom's Retreat to Flusterclux, what the name means to us, and what the podcast is about for new listeners. We talk about the early signs of anxiety parents should be looking for in their kids right now. What is the healthy balance between routine and flexibility that doesn't promote rigidity? Lynn also answers a listener question about a child who gets anxious being on camera during remote learning. She gives the parents the language to support him in adapting.
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When a family experiences a traumatic event tog...
When a family experiences a traumatic event together, how can they heal? What do you say when your child says "nobody likes me," and how do you teach your child to be more flexible?
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Back To School Anxiety: Supporting The Social-E...
In this podcast episode on back to school anxiety, we focus on the social and emotional wellbeing for students and teachers and how parents can help. We take questions for guidance counselors and school administrators about helping everyone in the school building or remote learning.
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Listeners Ask: Siblings Fighting: Don't Say Boy...
There is a right way for parents to handle siblings fighting. Here are strategies from Lynn Lyons to promote empathy, avoid teaching victimization, when parents should intervene, and when they should stay out of it. Another listener who's a working mom with kids under five feels completely tapped out. She asks Lynn ways to feel less emotionally reactive with her kids at home.
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Listeners Ask: Back To School Anxiety and Teens...
Listeners ask Lynn in this bonus summer episode about the stress of choosing the best school model for her tweens and teens: remote learning, the hybrid model, and returning to school. Another listener asks how to respond when her 16-year-old daughter thinks she has bipolar disorder.
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Listeners Ask: Teens And Peer Pressure
When your teenagers start testing you with new language and behaviors, how do you help them strengthen the skills they need to be more immune to peer pressure and self destructive behavior like cutting? Lynn Lyons answers a listener's question about her 13 year old daughter.
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Co-Parenting In A Pandemic: How to Find A Bette...
Work. Parenting. Relationships. Remember how elusive the idea of balance used to feel way back in 2019? Now it seems like a downright fantasy. The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive to our families in significant ways, and it's disproportionately impacting women and mothers, putting our marriages and relationships to the test. As we work to support our kids, there are traps we all fall into with our partners and spouses. We're going to talk about learning to ask for help in the right way, dropping defensiveness, and reducing resentment. In today’s episode, we’ll tell you why improving your co-parenting will help your kids more than you know.
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A Family Summer Guide To 2020: Social Distancin...
Summer 2020 is unlike any other. In this podcast we help parents think through assessing reasonable risks, managing disappointment around missed summer rituals, and reexamining boredom with a positive lens. We also provide more than 40 ideas of summer activities— inside, outside, virtual, and local as well as ingenious listener hacks to stay connected with friends and family.
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Listeners Ask: Meltdowns, Anxiety And Depressi...
In this podcast episode, Lynn Lyons answers listener questions about meltdowns and anxiety and depression kids facing the stresses of 2020.
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Confronting White Fragility and Colorblindness
As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement, we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind children.
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Unpacking Your Family's Baggage And Starting Fr...
What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings.
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Listeners Ask: Mom Guilt, Burnout, and School S...
Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons discuss ways to manage these pandemic parenting stresses.
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Parents: Try These Bedtime Routine Hacks
Bedtime routine and sleep issues are tough. Now add a global pandemic, and no one is getting good sleep. Here's how to improve sleep problems for kids, teens, and parents. Download our free kids' sleep meditation.
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Helicopter Parents: Strategies for Landing
Helicopter parenting is a loaded label that some parents either wear with pride or are quick to deny. When we hover out of concern, what does that do to our children? While we crowd in our homes during lockdown, it is a good time to ask yourself if you give your kids the space they need for positive development.
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Regressive Behavior From Toddlers to Teens: Wha...
In our next guide to parenting in a pandemic, regressive behavior appears at all stages of development at many different ages. Learn why child regression happens and how to respond to it and why you might be seeing it more commonly now in our quarantine and lockdown culture.
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Plan Now for the Next New Normal
When you look around your home, you’ve probably let some things go, as we’ve all been adapting to our new normal. That’s perfectly reasonable. We’ve been in the “just getting by” mode. But there will be a transition back to normal, and how that will happen for your family is worth some thought. Now, we didn’t have time to prepare when we were thrown into this traumatic pandemic, but we can prepare for our journey out. Other topics include how parents can manage their teens who feel angrier and more withdrawn in quarantine.
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Why We Must Flatten Our Emotional Curve For Our...
Parents must attempt to manage their emotions in front of their kids. We talk about how to handle powerful moments of anger and panic in an ideal way, as well as, how to conclude unintentional emotional outbursts in a positive way to model emotional literacy for your kids. We also talk about the trap of unhealthy reassurance.
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Managing Disappointment: When FOMO Becomes Just MO
With all of our graduation, birthday, and family plans cancelled, we must still acknowledge them. We find silver linings in ways to teach our kids critical life skills in adaptability and managing disappointment. We talk about why to put those perfection issues on the brakes and how to focus on creativity, silliness, and connection.
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Stuck-In-Home Parenting
We have a new category of parenting, the stuck-in-the-house parent. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains why we feel like we are riding a new emotional rollercoaster, and why we feel so exhausted, as our brains are working overtime to absorb our new world conditions. Full transcript available on our website.
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Trailer: Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons
Lynn Lyons is one of the most sought after experts on anxiety in parents and children. Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to connect, reflect, and feel prepared to support their family’s mental health with the stresses of our new normal.
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