We speak with lawyer Diana Adams & learn actionable steps poly families/parents can take right now to start protecting themselves.

Multiamory has condensed these "glass ceiling questions" down to 6 topics to ask about when starting a new relationship.

The Ethical Slut, considered to be the "Bible" of alt relationships, is celebrating its 20th anniversary with a new edition!

The dumpster fire relationship: you know it when you see it. Constant fights, endless drama, and an umatched level of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion. In this episode, we'll discuss signs that your relationship might be a total dumpster fire, how to evaluate whether or not it's time to leave, plus practical advice on escaping a draining relationship with minimal collateral damage.

This week we're digging in to emotional labor -- the mental and emotional energy required to maintain a relationship. All interpersonal relationships require some sort of emotional labor, so it's not a bad thing. However, problems arise when one person is giving more emotional labor than they are receiving from the other side.

This week we are talking about...you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. Covered in this episode: -- My girlfriend doesn't want me to fall in love with anyone. How do I casually date without leading people on? -- How do I handle my jealousy of my partner's past relationship with his ex-wife? -- How do I protect my sexual health without imposing strict and burdensome rules on my partner?

Break ups suck. They suck a little less if you're not the one going through it, but if it's your partner who's just been dumped, then you may find yourself shouldering the burden of some of their suck as well. In this episode we talk about the ways to care for your partner, your self, and your relationship when your partner is going through a break-up or other turbulent period of life.

This week we're discussing agreement pitfalls -- common relationship agreements that seem reasonable, but which may cause trouble in the long run. The Multiamory crew has a pretty firm stance against strict rules in relationships, but there are many agreements that fall into a debatable grey area. Is it fair to make sure you and your partner conduct relationships in the exact same way? Is it ethical to ask a partner to check in with you before they get sexual on a date with someone else? Tune in to hear our thoughts on these questions and more.

This week the Multiamory crew gets to pick the brain of researcher, educator, and Ph.D candidate Ryan Witherpsoon. Ryan has specialized in studying consensual non-monogamy, kink, and BDSM, as well as spearheading several research studies on non-traditional relationships. In this episode, we cover the current state of non-monogamy research, particular challenges that arise when studying polyamorous relationships, and the findings of his most recent study on stigma toward consensual non-monogamy.

This week we are welcoming special guest Erin Tillman, a.k.a. The Dating Advice Girl. Erin has coached many singles through the process of creating a dating profile and going on dates without getting burnt out in the process. Even better, Erin is tuned in to the polyamorous and queer communities. She shares with us her pro tips on messaging, first dates, and how much to disclose in your dating profile when you're seeking a non-traditional match (or two).

Love and science finally hook up. The results? Sexy. This week we're covering all the things that will make your relationships better, backed by scientific studies. We cover communication, fighting, sex, in-jokes, and more! You can follow along with us here: <a href="https://my.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/">https://my.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/</a>

This week we are talking about...you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. If you want to have a question answered on the air, you too can leave a voicemail for us at 678-MULTI-05. Covered in this episode:-- How can a straight, cisgender man ask for cuddles or affectionate touch without it being interpreted as a come-on?-- How can I let go of the need to make sure my husband only ever tries new experiences for the first time with me, instead of with other partners?-- My husband wants our other relationships to be more casual. I want them to be more serious. How do we figure out something that will make both of us happy?

This week, we're talking about the effects of social media on your relationships, and some of the unique challenges presented to non-monogamous relationships. Whether you're creeping on your metamours, or finding yourself nervous about posting openly about your multiple partners, we're here to help you navigate the tricky etiquette and foibles of social media.

2/3rds of the Multiamory crew is once again heading off for global adventures, which means it's time to talk about long-distance relationships. In this episode, we highlight seven specific strategies that will help your geographically-challenged relationship to flourish and thrive, including tactics for fostering intimacy, communication, and handling the unique challenges presented to multi-partner relationships.

This week the Multiamory crew is happy to talk with The One True Will, former facilitator of the Gracefully Poly Facebook group. Will has identified as both asexual and polyamorous for a number of years, and on this episode he answers all of our n00b questions about the asexuality spectrum, demisexuality, gender dynamics, and...dragons?!?

Whether you're opening up an existing relationship or beginning a relationship with someone who is new to polyamory, it can be challenging to know the best way to encourage them to feel safe venturing into the world of non-monogamy. In this episode we explore different challenges and discuss what we've found to be the most effective strategies and tools for making that experience a positive one. This has been a commonly requested topic and we're excited to finally have a resource for people in this situation, which is a very common one! We've all been there before.

This week we are tackling the complicated task of deconstructing desire. In life, we often set our sights on accomplishing a particular goal or attaining a particular obejct or status, and the same is true with relationships and sex. In this episode, we dig into the reasons why we want the things that we want, often through socialization, comparisons to other people, and our perceptions of what will make us happy.

In this very special live show, the Multiamory crew digs into the day-to-day foibles of having non-normative relationships in a hetero-mono-normative world. We discuss the uncomfortable consequences of having few outlets and even fewer role models, needing to stay in the closet in order to protect your job or family, and the endless assumptions and misconceptions. But not to fear -- we also cover strategies to help you cope and thrive in a world that may just not understand your weird love life.

Multiamory is happy to have author, podcast host, and pegging enthusiast Cooper S. Beckett back on the show! Cooper came on our show way back in the early days to discuss his memoir, <a href="http://coopersbeckett.com/books/my-life-on-the-swingset-adventures-in-swinging-polyamory/">My Life on the Swingset</a>, and this week we are discussing his brand new novel, <a href="http://coopersbeckett.com/books/approaching-the-swingularity/">Approaching the</a> <a href="http://coopersbeckett.com/books/approaching-the-swingularity/">Swingularity</a>. Join us for a discussion on sexy, swinging vacations, the intersection of swingers and polyamorists, and the delights of pegging.

This week, we are discussing privilege and polyamory -- the different advantages and disadvantages that we often forget about when approaching non-traditional relationships. This is a hot-button topic that often sparks emotions and defensiveness, but we wanted to open up the conversation, daunting as it is. In this episode, we discuss many different factors that affect privilege -- race, class, skin color, gender identity, disability, just to name a few in a very long list.

Multiamory is very excited to sit down with philosopher Carrie Jenkins, author of the newly released book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01L6SLKJ4/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1"><em>What Love Is and What It Could Be</em></a><em>.</em> Carrie has been polyamorous for a number of years, and after having her relationships accused of not embodying "real love," she was inspired to get to the bottom of the age old question: what is love? In this episode, we deconstruct our preconceived ideas of love and commitment, and also why it is important for people in non-monogamous relationships to examine the nature of romantic relationships.

This week, the Multiamory crew tackles a divisive and controversial subject: the Red Pill movement. The Red Pill movement, in our estimation, is equal parts men's rights and pick-up artistry, sprinkled with a dose of good old-fashioned misogyny. But a growing number of men are finding community, understanding, and confidence in the Red Pill's tenets. Is there anything good that could possibly come from this movement? Or is it really the sexist cesspool it seems to be on the surface?

If you've hit a particularly sticky bump in your relationship, or if you're interested in doing some preventative maintenance and exploration, it is extremely helpful to seek professional guidance. Speaking with a therapist, counselor, or coach can provide many opportunities to open up and uncover deep-seated habits and patterns, plus really giving yourself and your relationships much-needed clarity. In this episode, we explain the many different varieties of mental health professionals, as well as our recommendations for the best places to find kink- and poly-friendly therapists and counselors. Check out the KAP directory here: <a href="https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage">https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage</a> Check out The Open List here: <a href="http://openingup.net/open-list/">http://openingup.net/open-list/</a>

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene -- how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy -- categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers, it can open up a lot more happiness and freedom in your relationships.